Family - September 2007

they ordered pizza for tonight, my sister made cake and our fridge is full of chokolates and sweets. Why don't they help me?
they say don't need to loose weight but i tink i have...and they don't help me.. what should i say to them..?


oh...i am 5'6'' and 130 pounds...please help..

2007-09-29 08:01:14 · 8 answers · asked by kittana! 2

or would you disclose the matter and still respect that person even though they spread a bad message about you to other ppl...[imagine if the person was older than you]

2007-09-29 06:38:15 · 12 answers · asked by apple 5

I just need some advice. I am 22. I lost my Mom last year. I didn't have time to grieve as I had to quickly pack up all of my stuff as well as my mothers, move out, find a home for our German Shepherd and move into my Grandmother's. My Grandmother got sick shortly after, so I had to try the best I could to help her and put my mental needs aside. It is now a little over a year later, I got myself back into college, started working, and am set to graduate with my A.A. in December with plans to pursue my B.A and M.A. But, i'm falling deeper and deeper into depression. I have no health insurance, and i'm just struggling with this anguish alone. The grief and guilt are destroying me. I just don't know how much longer I can take living like this. Is or has anyone out there lost a parent or have gone through a situation similar? I just don't know where to turn anymore. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to write.

2007-09-29 05:49:32 · 9 answers · asked by N 3

when he comes 2 the house 2 see her they go into her room and watch dvds with the door closed how can i make sure that he is not u 2 anything with her

2007-09-29 04:02:04 · 52 answers · asked by suzywong 4

My sister and I are so bored. my parents don't like going places every weekend, so we have to stay home . What are some fun ideas to do with a cat, (optional) a mom,(optional)a dad,(optional) and a three year old brother(definitly optional).

2007-09-29 03:52:13 · 18 answers · asked by katlovesyouu. 2

Ok my cousin has a new gf who has a daughter who is 14-15 years old, ( I am 15) and she keeps bothering my cousins brother who is 28 with alot of werid myspace comments and my family is talking about her, calling her a whore and stuff and I sent her this message "; I know you don't mean any harm but you better not bug Nevada with alot of comments and stuff... it makes it look like you do have a crush on him.. and if he says anything to Cody you might get into trouble.. If you do have a crush on him just remember hes WAY older then you. I don't want a big fight in the family or gossip.. I won't ever mention this email if you don't"

I'm afraid I hurt her feelings.. did I do the right thing?

2007-09-29 03:40:03 · 9 answers · asked by omg rain is wet 2

ever since my dad passed away 6 months ago. When my dad was alive, he took care of everything for her, and she depended everything on him. Now that he is gone, she depends on me too much. She expects me to run her errands, fill up her car every time (she tells me she never learned how to fill up her car herself, and she's "afraid" to try), and I am getting annoyed! It's not enough that I take care of the house, clean up after my messes and hers, have a 9 hour job, pay for my car and insurance, and give her money towards what she sees fit (mostly her groceries and gas...I pay for my own things). I am getting very annoyed that she won't even try...I understand that she works 3rd shift part time, but on her days off she does nothing. She even gets mad at me when I go out to see friends, and my boyfriend. The only people she talks to is me or my aunt. And when I stand up to her about this, she gets mad and gives me a guilt trip. Please help! How can I stop her from depending on me to much?

2007-09-29 02:57:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been told i am not allowd to see my two children.bailey is aged 6 caitlin is aged 4.i have offered to pay a monthly payment by cheque but there mum wasnt intrested i havent seen my children for two weeks now.my name is on there birth certificate and they have the same surname as me.i have a appointment to see a solicitor on the 13th october.could you give me some advice. i just want to go round and see them but dont now if i am allowd.

2007-09-29 02:29:30 · 11 answers · asked by jay v 1

My mother in law has worked hard her entire life and raised a wonderful man that I am now married to. She also has a daughter with some serious disabilities and continues to care for her daughter and work full time. She is absolutely one of the strongest women I know, I can't deny her of that.

However, she gets into our business too much. I came into the relationship with her son as a mother. I had a very young daughter when I started dating him and he and I dated for about a year before we got married. After we were married, he adopted my daughter and we had another child together.

His mom seems to be upset about the adoption. Every time she sees our children, she refers to them as her grandchild and the child her son adopted. She never calls my first child her grandchild. She also wants the younger child to call her Grandma, but the older one to just call her by her first name.

My husband is the only father my oldest child has ever known. This is incredibly hurtful to all of us.

2007-09-29 02:25:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

After 16 years, my husband and I had a child. She is now 7. In the last 3 years he's had some health problems, became an alcholic (in recovery) and won't get a job. The first 20 years he worked. Now, he does nothing. I've given up my home and moved to a less expensive house. I've moved away from my friends and a place I loved. I am the sole supporter of my family. I make enough money to live off of, but he is sucking me dry. He hasn't touched me in over a year. How do I tell my child, that I gave life to, that I waited many years to have, with what and who I thought was a good person, that I have to leave? How do I take her and leave?

2007-09-29 01:52:19 · 8 answers · asked by momeeeof1 2

I love my grandma very much to the point that I sometimes joke around with her like she was my best friend. Anyway, I was joking around with her yesterday and she took offense to it. I know I have to change the way I deal with her but I NEVER MEAN TO HURT HER. So my aunt tells me that she doesn't want to see or talk to me again. What do I do? I can't take that! I know I messed up but there's nothing I can do to make it right. :(

2007-09-28 22:38:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

for old offences that he committed 9 months ago and since then he has sorted his life out, got a job and we have a baby on way due in feb! now he has gone to jail for 15 months and i feel so alone and angry at him! i know i have to be strong but its so difficult! he is the love of my life, we are even engaged! i love him so much and i am scared how will i cope without him around when babys born as i have a disability and im scared that social services will steal my baby?

2007-09-28 22:06:27 · 20 answers · asked by blonderosey 3

kids running around high schools with machine guns, lack of ethics , coldness among relatives, uneducation , lack of parental guideness, high rate of divorces, where are american families going?

2007-09-28 20:01:47 · 5 answers · asked by captainamerica 1

can you help me with this problem!!
everyday i get abut 56-68 homework!!
what can i do about this?

2007-09-28 19:21:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i would like to know what people would do in my situation. I am from France and my mother seems not to like my fiancee. I think it is because of her past with my father. I was born in France but my mother was born in Tunisia. She is very old school. I am currently visiting my fiancee in new york and I am only here for 10 days because my mother told me that I would not be welcomed back home. I love my mother and i love my Fiance. My mother thinks that My fiancee is trying to put me against her. That is not the truth. He wants me to do what i think is best for me . He love me and I love him. I want to marry him. I just wish my mother would like him. HE wants me to make the decision because of my age. I am 28 yrs old. I have close ties with my mother and my family but I want to start my life with my fiance but I do not want to lose my mother. I also don't want to lose my fiancee. we have been traveling to see each other for 4 yrs now we want to start but my mother does not agree

2007-09-28 18:46:51 · 10 answers · asked by dora 1

my girl friend is bipolar, she was crying to her family every time we have a problem, and make me the reason for it, till I found out they are asking her to leave me, thinking I’m bad abusive person, while I care, love and respect her and them, she admitted that she was lying at them but she didn’t want to tell them truth, how can I save my love and care for my girl?

2007-09-28 18:42:28 · 9 answers · asked by amro 1

My friends Mom thinks that her little brother is an Alien & some fortune teller told her that she was abducted while she was pregnant. & her stepdad thinks that her little brother is going to be the President Of the United States and save the UNIVERSE! She thinks her parents are crazy & so do I. She can't trust anyone because everyone is always trying to get answers out of her. Her parents make her to go therapists & everything! What can she do or say to her parents!? Help. She doesn't even trust me now :(

2007-09-28 18:37:22 · 12 answers · asked by Alan Retrobyte 2

thurs, my daughter told me about a male teacher at school that is talking dirty to the kids, i mean , real dirty, porno type dirty.
today i went in to the principal, and made a complaint along with the threat that i would call the police if they did not get him out of the school. Now, i'm thinking, i should go ahead and call the police, and press charges against him. The only problem with that is, the kids, I dont want to drag my daughter through that, let alone anybody elses kids.
should i be/can i be satisfied with just getting him out of the school, or will that come back and haunt me and the kids later? these days they plea bargain things down to nothing, I'd hate to put the kids through this, just for them to settle on him, retiring. what should I do ?

2007-09-28 18:27:32 · 5 answers · asked by connieak76 2

Ever since my brother left for Japan (school thing, lasts 3 months - til end of November), things have been odd around my house. My mom's been working twice as much since she's gone back to working in her old area of nursing as well as what she recently trained in. and as a result my ex-military-commander-of-30-years dad has been around. Within the last month we've fought and bickered and yelled more than we ever have altogether.
I went into a sort of depression because it felt like no one wanted to listen or cared. It lasted a week, but it comes and goes now.

It seems like everything I do is wrong to my dad, like today we fought twice in under two hours (more like yelling back and forth). He doesn't realize he's intense and thinks it's just everyone else that has a problem, not him. He's been retired for 2 years and hasn't been out much, just some Rotary and occasional errands, and as a result he's been worse.

What can I do? I feel stuck in an off an on depression...

2007-09-28 18:18:39 · 6 answers · asked by Michelle 3

My mom has always been a pretty negative person. The older I get the more I realize that she is very gossipy, judgemental and negative. She is my mother and I love her but it's very difficult to be around her. The problem is that I am presently relying upon her to watch my 19 mo. old son while I go to school to become a nurse. My boyfriend and I cannot afford daycare and his mother is unable to handle our son (she's schizophrenic). My mom only watches him 1 day a week and my boyfriend the other (I go to school full-time 2 days/wk). She is okay with my son although I see her repeating a lot of the negative stuff she did during my childhood... like yelling a lot. I try to go over there at least 1 or 2 other days a wk to visit with her and my dad. But she often acts annoyed to see me which really hurts. She's also very negative and makes rude comments. I don't know what to do. She doesn't seem to care. I've tried talking to her but she says nothing's wrong. Should I distance myself?

2007-09-28 18:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

She says it'll make her happy to see me this year. The only thing is that I live 5,000 miles away from her and plane tickets can be really expensive. Now I know of her paying my sister and my brother to come visit her... Why wouldn't she pay my way??? Why she expects me to go every year but on my own dime?? Alsoo I asked her to pay my way just to TEST her and she'll deny 100% to do it, which I wouldnt allow anyways but it gives me a sad feeling...

2007-09-28 18:05:48 · 11 answers · asked by I Speak the Truth 5

My dad and I don't get along at all and in most instances he is wrong or loses his temper over something he doesn't even have the whole story on. My mom talks my side because he picks on me alot more than me brother and cusses at me and says I'm worthless and why can't I be like my brother. My mom tells him to just drop it and forget it, but he can't. When my mom leaves the room he glares at me and asks if I'm trying to make them get divorced. Then he'll say that it's all my fault that him and my mom don't get along. Is my dad being fair to me? Please help.

2007-09-28 17:59:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 19 year old son owes 300K in credit card debt. And he isn't loosing sleep over it. How can I help him without giving him some money to pay it off, not that I have even close to what he owes, but his mother suggested I start giving him a monthly allowance to help him pay it off, but I said no way.

2007-09-28 17:20:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm almost 18, (10 days ) and I am in college. I live at home and my parents usually go to sleep before me. I give them each a kiss on their head and tell them I love them before turning off their light.
I told my friend about it and she says I'm weird and I need to grow up? What do you think?

2007-09-28 17:15:01 · 22 answers · asked by ... 3

My parents moved me to China with them, from my home in Toronto, Ontario. However, now that i'm here, I can not keep up with the academic standards, and am doing quite poorly in school. I have the option of at the end of this year, to move back to my grandparents home, who live in Nova Scotia, Canada. Should I move away from my parents with them? I'm so confused. I'm thinking that I should, but need some advice? I'm 14 years old now. Thanks a bunch!

2007-09-28 17:11:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm starting to plan my first year of college already; I plan on attending the University of Illinois and I'm going to live in my grandmothers house. She has extra bedrooms and I would get much better food than if I was living in a dorm. Dorm life just isn't for me. She says I don't need to pay her at all, but that just doesn't feel right, I feel like I NEED to pay. What is a reasonable amount of money to pay for rent, which includes food and extra utilities, etc. I don't know how much money is appropriate for this siituation. I don't want to take advantage or anything. Please help me.

2007-09-28 17:04:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my mother in law, I just don't agree with her lifestyle. She left her husand for another man, and now left this new guy. She has no place to go right now and has occasionally stayed with us. She sits on my couch, drinks wine and smokes cigarettes constantly (she does it o our patio, but it is a small apartment and i am pregnant...it bothers me) She tries to give me advice and bad mouths her ex's all the time,drunkinly rambles and tells me how great of a son she has and how lucky I am (not saying I am not lucky, but her baby boy ain't that perfect....) all while she is drunk off wine. How do I nicely say "you can't stay here" and "I don't need your help with my baby" with out sounding too bitchy?

2007-09-28 17:04:36 · 9 answers · asked by Lexie J 3

Im gonna whine for a moment here. I am taking 5 classes in college and I am trying to move out because my family nags and Im a scapegoat for their problems. The apartments in the area close to school are SO expensive and there are no jobs around that would help me support myself, now I got extra resposibilities at school too. I am so overwhelmed, I want to leave so badly and be alone. My car is old, so working/living far is just not an option. One area I like has some apartments but they're FULL of DSHS people paying only $50/month ... this is unfair. :( someone guide me. xoxo Oh yea and I got some medical condition no one can diagnose :(

2007-09-28 16:05:20 · 4 answers · asked by Lol L 1

what i mean is teenager.and he ask you to buy him motor bike are you agree?

2007-09-28 16:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by anier 1

9 m. pregnant. feeling stress about my hubby family. his family treated me nice . but then a few incidents that happen.1.was i had a fight with my hubby so i look for my mom in law comfort, instead she came with an attitude demanding to know all the details an saying she made the decision for us to break up.later me an him reconcile,an she appoligize so i accept.2. i was planning my baby shower with her.but then she kept making excuses an leaving it for the last minute.then she finally came around but instead of telling me the details she left me in the dark an kept telling my hubby the details.3.at my b.shower.all my family was there his family was there .but his family didnt want to be anywhere near my family givng them dirty looks.an throwing me indirects.even treating my nieces badly.but why since his family never new my fam before.so anyway we since then havent talk to them. now there leaving hate message to me an my mom.like i have a tumor in my head.going to his job. an more

2007-09-28 15:40:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous