should i press charges?

Question

thurs, my daughter told me about a male teacher at school that is talking dirty to the kids, i mean , real dirty, porno type dirty.
today i went in to the principal, and made a complaint along with the threat that i would call the police if they did not get him out of the school. Now, i'm thinking, i should go ahead and call the police, and press charges against him. The only problem with that is, the kids, I dont want to drag my daughter through that, let alone anybody elses kids.
should i be/can i be satisfied with just getting him out of the school, or will that come back and haunt me and the kids later? these days they plea bargain things down to nothing, I'd hate to put the kids through this, just for them to settle on him, retiring. what should I do ?

sorry, i thought i made it clear, it happened in class. and it was one sided conversation, and it appears it has been going on for years, and nobody has done anything about it.
it made my daughter very upset, they all call him 'gross' and 'retarded' . because he does this alot.

Answer 1

i see where you are coming from, but just getting this teacher out of the school isn't good enough, because who is to say that this teacher won't find other kids and do the same, or worse, get one alone. contact the police, and let them know. also, do the other kids' parents know about it? if not, you should let them know as well, and talk to them about contacting the police too. i know you don't want to drag the kids into it, but it's better to not let this sicko go and get away.

Answer 2

Do you have any proof other than what your daughter said? Have any other parents complained? Were the kids active participants in the discussion? Have you talked to the teacher himself about it? If not, you could be blowing the whole thing out of proportion. You should make sure it is sexual harassment first, before you possibly ruin an honest teacher's life.

I went through a liberal school system where the teachers were down to earth ex-hippies and we had conversations in health class about sex, porn, drugs they had tried, all of that. We asked questions using slang and vernacular terms for things, and received honest answers and had safe open discussions. In no way was this sexual harassment - we asked these questions and the teacher guided the discussions. If a conservative parent had wandered by, the whole thing would have been horribly misconstrued.

Answer 3

Make sure your daughter is telling the truth. You could ruin a life if she is doing this to be vindictive. If this is the truth it needs to be reported because this guy is a pedophile and is using the kids in the classroom to get his kicks. How far does he go when he is away from school. He needs to be reported before he does more harm. Stand up for the children.

Answer 4

Listen to your gut.
You don't have to drag your daughter through anything.
If you know the teacher's name, check to see if he is on the sex offenders database... there are websites for this.

You need to at least talk to the police and get them to look up his criminal background. If he has a past record, they will probably handle extracting him from the school.

Answer 5

talk to the teacher personally. if he doesnt change, go to the office and change her class with a real teacher. if thats not possible, then finally press charges.