My dad and I don't get along at all and in most instances he is wrong or loses his temper over something he doesn't even have the whole story on. My mom talks my side because he picks on me alot more than me brother and cusses at me and says I'm worthless and why can't I be like my brother. My mom tells him to just drop it and forget it, but he can't. When my mom leaves the room he glares at me and asks if I'm trying to make them get divorced. Then he'll say that it's all my fault that him and my mom don't get along. Is my dad being fair to me? Please help.
2007-09-28 17:59:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This guy has major issues and a short fuse ... be careful AND talk with your mother about it.....today!
2007-09-28 18:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Father has anger issues and where they come from and why, I cannot tell you. Ask him or your Mother what is really going on. You are living in an abusive home. Being put down and blamed and verbally beat up is so hurtful and unhealthy for you. First and foremost, you need to not accept his vicious words, don't let him bring you down just because he isn't willing to take the blame for the problems in his marriage. I feel real bad for you because it sounds like your Mom doesn't stand up for you if she's leaving the room after he mistreats you. There's something to this sad story that you don't know about and I think you may want to start digging for the answer. It might explain everything. No matter what, it isn't YOU! It's not YOUR fault! The man has a problem and he needs to know you're not there to be his sounding board. Please talk to someone outside of the home. School, maybe. The dynamics in your house are not good!
2007-09-28 18:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is borderline abusing you- verbally and maybe physically. Does he make you feel worthless? Does it seem like he doesn't love you? Do you feel that he wishes you were never born? If you answer "Yes" to any of these questions and have the slightest bit of evidence to prove it, he is borderline verbally abusing you. This is not fair. He is showing great hate to you if he asks you if you're trying to get them divorced. Talk to your mom alot about the subject and ask if you can talk with a therapist or psychologist about these problems. Your father is cruel and abusive. Don't just think he's just grumpy. That's a hateful, verbally abusive disorder that is going on. Get professional help.
2007-09-28 18:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Excelsior Student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Your dad sounds verbally abusive. I would get some counseling or see a therapist. Having a parent that is verbally abusive and telling you, you are worthless can really take a toll on your self esteem. HE is SUPPOSE to be an adult and he's acting like an immature baby. The big problem with that is it's effecting you in a really bad way.
2007-09-28 18:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like it. Your father sounds like the type of man who hates to take responsibility and has a lot of stored up anger. He see's his marriage falling apart and blames you so he doesn't have to blame himself. Did you ever think it would be best for you and you mom if he got a divorce? Is he physically abusive or just verbally? Well, just to save you the years of trying. He most likely will not ever see you as a great person, but at least your mom cares about you! Just avoid him until you're old enough to get out of there.
2007-09-28 19:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dinchan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is messed-up.
I don't know how old you are, but you should consider spending as much time away from the house as you can.
You can participate in more school activities, you can study at a friend's house, you can get a job (or make one) that will take you away from there (and bank some $$$).
The trick is to get your chores at home done and keep your studies/grades up so you don't get in trouble, and keep a low profile around the house until you can escape at age 18.
2007-09-28 18:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father is not being fair to you. from what you've written, it sounds as though he has some anger-management issues. he shouldn't be trying to blame you for his martial difficulties. but more often than not, parents use the divorce card to instigate fear in their children. most of the time, they don't really mean it. nevertheless, he shouldn't be talking to your like that. maybe you should sit down with him and tell him how you feel
2007-09-28 18:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he is not being fair. i don't care if you are a murderer that is not your problem whatever problems they have. they have communication problems and they would have them whether or not they were arguing over you. maybe you should make an attempt to be on your better behavior but don't believe you will cause a divorce.
2007-09-28 18:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there's just a communication problem. babe i noe exactly where ur comin from n i think u jus need to try to talk to him. if that doesnt work, open up to ur mum if u havnt already. im guessin u n ur brother dont realy talk much. try and break that barrier. take him out for a walk or something, try to connect. and make it seem like ur dad is the one who is being distanced from you. he will try to reverse that by tryin to change himself. trust me i learnt that the hard way.
2007-09-28 18:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by pyroboii69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very cruel. It borders on child abuse. I hope you will be able to get out of the house soon. In the meantime, keep out of his way. Trust me, he has problems that have nothing to do with you. He is just taking them out on you. It is an evil and nasty way to treat his own child.
2007-09-28 18:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋