Family - September 2007

If the mother of a child wishes to keep the father of the baby off of the birth certificate, can she do so? She has no good reason to do so, and is only mad at him. He hasn't done anything wrong, but she is rather hormonal right now and the smallest thigns set her off. She keeps threatening him with this to try to keep him in line, so he's trying to find out if it that's even possible. This is in Louisiana please, so I will love you if you have information pertinent to this state. If you have any website links I will love you forever!

2007-09-29 16:20:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mother-in-law has laid a guilt trip on us. Discreetly, but she was not very nice about it. She said well are you guys going to come visit us for Christmas because you didn't spend time with us last year. Oh, by the way we were there for Thanksgiving. (I guess that doesn't count). Anyway, my family lives in TN and we live in PA so of course I'm gonna want to see them as much as possible. Financially it makes sense for us to stay here but this guilt is ridiculous.
Please help...I don't want to spend both holidays at her house.

2007-09-29 16:09:47 · 7 answers · asked by Lizzy 2

ugh, well i went to my big sisters room to tell her someone was at the door and then i saw her naked! goodness! i never want to see her again! it was horrible! i actually screamed and turned away and covered my eyes, cussed and ran away in like half a second! what should i do?

2007-09-29 16:05:03 · 4 answers · asked by FutureNFLPlayer 1

Why is it that they bury people 6 feet under?
Why not 7 or 10 or something?
Is 6 a 'sacred' number or something?
Seriously.....has anyone ever wondered that?

2007-09-29 15:56:58 · 9 answers · asked by Manda 3

Is it just me or are most Mormon young ladies married to old wrinkly men?

I am active on the dating scene and think that Latter Day Saint women may prefer experience over experimentation when on the dating scene.

Do you see this too or is it just me?

2007-09-29 15:18:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

She ran away from home with a total unknown guy to us and found in a room with him at his house. I'm eff pissed-off and i feel like strangling her!! The problem here is, she's only 11 and had already d courage to run away with some old, adult guy. I'm very, very mad and I told her f off and told her indirectly she's not my sister. But, i'm confused. What i should really do? I actually don't give sh*t at all of whatever she wanna do; she can go f---ing around and get all kinda STDs she wants, but i pity my parents. They're d only reason i forced myself to feel responsible & concerned. She's d last in my famly, & has alwiz been secretive. Me& my big sis suspect dat it's juz dat she got wrong companies in her all-girls school. I never really bother about her and it's like no difference whether she exists or not, i pretended i was concerned juz bcoz people say i have to.

2007-09-29 14:43:26 · 10 answers · asked by Aisyah 2

My counselor is teaching me how to be assertive and she said to say "Regardless I don't appreciate the way you treat me" and walk away. THat'll shut them up.

Huh how can that? There are situations where I want to say that but it sounds too stupid.

For example when my dad's around(I go to his house alot to help my mom raise her granddaughter(not mine). Well my dad would love to say "quit it" or "shut up" for no reason controlling me(he's also neglected me and abused me throughout my life). Anyway how is telling him "regardless I don't appreciate the way you treat me" assertive and smart?

Like for example tonight, he was getting his dinner and my neice was standing in his way and everyone was saying get out of the way and when I said "come here sweetie" he's like SHUT UP and QUIT IT (insert my name here).

Any assertive responses to say to make him stop treating me like a child or whatever you want to call it?

2007-09-29 14:38:13 · 7 answers · asked by Hydra Dragon 1

weird you out??

2007-09-29 14:27:44 · 10 answers · asked by phoenixxgrey 3

my daughter was getting into trouble here at home with her friends, couldnt handle it anymore so her half brother said he and his wife would take her until she straighten up(6 months) now hes telling her i cant see her unless i call on mondays(i told him i would pick her up every other weekend) that shes his kid now and that he will take me to court if i try to take her back home. his wife signed the notarized document not him. he trying to take her cell phone from her so i dont have any contact with her except through their home phone. they are planning on moving and i beleive they wont tell me where. i'm thinking of going to her school and take her from there because if i go to his house he wont let me take her if he knows shes coming home for good. they live in l.b, i live in s.j so the school does not know me as her mother, except through id i guess. can they do this, it wasnt through court for legal guardian its just on paper.

2007-09-29 14:27:21 · 5 answers · asked by garcia-barbara@sbcglobal.net 1

im in 9th grade and my paretns are telling me i have to STUDY more in the 10th grade so thy wont let me play, what can i do? to convince them to let me?

2007-09-29 14:15:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-29 14:12:34 · 3 answers · asked by dreamweaver 7

2007-09-29 14:00:00 · 5 answers · asked by Crystal 1

its my grandmas annaversery, my grandpa died almost a year ago, my grandma alwys brings up topics that i am not comfortable with, i really am not ready to talk to my grandma about papa (my grandpa) i am spending the night, tomorrow we will go to church and the car is her main place to talk, so wadda i do? i am driving home after church, but yeah, wadda i do

2007-09-29 13:58:51 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. Seuss 4

A good friend of mine's dad has an issue with child porn, and I don't know what to tell her. I've never delt with anything like that in my family and I can't relate to the whole situation but I want to help her out. What would you say?

2007-09-29 13:37:05 · 7 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 2

I have happily had my son's custody returned to me. on aug 31, 07 my son father moved to florida from calif. my son who is 17 and still in high school wanted to move back in with me to finish high school. I ask his father to put something in writing that would explain that now i have physical custody. in reality his father will not be seeing him until he graduates high school. my son his in 11th grade. his father has stated that he wishes to retain joint physical custody. (in order to have reduced child support obligations?) since my son is going to be living with me 100% of the time, what would be in the best interest of my son? i have always paid my child support in a timely matter and have been always current. help i need some guidence, thank you.

2007-09-29 13:26:46 · 3 answers · asked by stan ford 3

Please keep in mind that NO ONE ELSE thinks that my girls (from a previous marriage) are bad. They are 14 & 16. They love each other. The rest of my family and even their teachers love them.
My husband tells me daily things like: "The oldest thinks that she's the boss of the house." "He can't live in a house that the kids run" He doesn't feel welcome in the livingroom, so he won't even go out the front door. He even told me the other day that he will be glad when they have children of their own and ask how to handle a problem. Then he can tell them,"Handle it like your mother, don't do anything."
BUT...this SAME MAN, when I'm sad that he thinks I've been such a bad mother, says that I've been a good mother. It's not my fault that they've chosen to be rebelious.
When you think someones kids are bad, don't you blame the parents? And with his recent statement, doesn't it sound like he really does too?

2007-09-29 13:21:51 · 7 answers · asked by Angel L 3

My family is being torn appart. My step dad wants to divorce her, because her her drinking has become a huge problem. We went out to run some errands today, and she brought "lemonade". We later found out that she had mixed vodka in it, and got drunk.

It's happening all the time. When she is drunk, she says really awful things. My step dad can't take it anymore.
We suggest AA meetings, and she is almost embarressed to go.

When we DO find her alchohol, and tell her, she get's really really mad. She'll lock herself in her room for hours. I really don't know what to do, me being only 15.

What can I do??

2007-09-29 12:55:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so my friend has an abusive mom...she shut her thumb in the car door...pulls her across the room by her hair....locks her in the closet and baracades it...she finally wanted to get emancipated and started to live at her cousins house who lives far away from the school....and now the school system found out that she wasnt living in the same town as the school (her mom called the school)and they keep saying that she has to leave the school and now she has to live with her dad who still lives far away and she cant go to school here anymore and now she has a stepbrother who gets drunk and starts to feel her up while shes sleeping....please can you give me some advice to give her because i just cant think of anything...her last day is on monday :'(

2007-09-29 12:26:36 · 14 answers · asked by courtney 2

I'm meeting my dad for the first time in my life next summer. I'm 16 and I'm a junior in school. I was born in Philadelphia, PA but now live in IL. I might go to New York since that is where he actually lives. I'm also bringing my best friend because were there to support each other for everything. I was just wondering what do I say when I see him? Also what fun places and things are there to do in Philadelphia and NYC? I'm more a dark person and I like seeking thrills. please answer the most important question though about what i say to my bio dad. Thanks.

2007-09-29 11:11:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to trust my boyfriend but my intuition always tells me that he is LYING!! Even when I dont want to think he is lying, I do!! I ask him always to tell me the truth and he says he does but I dont believe him. How can I turn these thoughts off in my mind?? HOw can I get over this?? When your intuition tells you something is it Always Right?????? Please help

2007-09-29 09:45:51 · 5 answers · asked by Sunny 2

or should i say mum lol???

anyway, its my mom's birthday in five days (Oct. 4th)! i dont know what to get her. shes turning a big 46 LOL. shes kinda difficult to shop for, even when it comes to jewelry. can anyone give me any ideas??? me and my brothers have given her jewelry in the past, but i want to try something new.

thank you :).

2007-09-29 09:42:15 · 42 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4

ha i knew that would get you attetion

any way i want to have more friend but because of my a$$hole cousin i can't she spreads roumours about me that arn't true like i was raped 4 times and liked it (not true i am a virgin) i hate her so much they also think because of my ex best friend that i beat animals (i love animals and i cry when i see an animal that is hurt) i want to have a friend that cares about ME for once the friend i have leaves me at the mall all the time one time i waited for 4 hours for her and she never showed up she was with her boyfriend then i have to be messenger boy for her to give notes to her boyfriend i am also pushed around at home i am always alone my mom is always drunk dad is always at work and nobody cary cares about me i wish someone cared about me i really want a boyfriend i want someone to listen to me for once but i don't think that will happen i am going to grow up and live by myself never have kids never have a boyfriend or a first kiss and die

2007-09-29 09:21:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My so called mother treats my dad horribly
she treats him like a second-class citizen
always stomping on him, and making him feel stupid...she is very emotionally abusive to me and him

she even wanted to divorce my dad like 3 years ago...he was even thinkin about it too
how do i convince my dad to divorce her
he is a very religious guy, but i know that he too has thought of divorcing her
i would live with him

2007-09-29 09:18:23 · 3 answers · asked by soWHAT 1

As the mother of a 10 month old baby son I'm always being told how little boys grow up devoted to their mums! I really hope so as he is my world and I love him so much!!

However, I've also been told "Oh its better to have a daughter as boys are less close to their mums as they get older".

I don't beleive this.

So guys, what does your mum mean to you?

2007-09-29 09:04:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom verbally abuses me. She calls me names, makes fun of me. She also has severe mood swings. One minute she says how much she loves me, the next minute she is screaming at me for getting a B+ on my report card. My mom is also in denial and always somehow always tries to make everything my fault.

My dad physically/sexually abuses me. Just a few days ago he opened the door when i was showering and just stood there even after I yelled at him to leave. Then he threw his shoe at my face. As i was leaving the shower, he kicked me several times.

I would tell somebody about my parents, such as a friend or teacher, except my mom told me that if i told anyone about what she or my dad does, she will "pierce a needle through my heart."

For some reason, out of 4 kids (2 of which are moved out) I am the only child abused. Every time i go out, i act happy and no one would ever think that my parents abuse me.

2007-09-29 09:00:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-29 08:45:48 · 2 answers · asked by ladyotise2 1

I have been with my hubby for 7 yrs. I have an 8yr old step daughter who we have had summer custody of since birth. I am no 8 months pregnant with our 1st child and now my step daughter feel lke she hates being home with her real mom b/c she has issues and my step daughters older sister gives her alot of grief. She refuses to go home and I ask why? She really didnt know how to do alot of things bc her mom never taught her anything really and b/t my hubby and my step daughter I just get frusterated and feel like I need a break from her bc she can be sooo frusterating and I feel like I'm backed into a corner but I have been around her her whole life really. Is it my hormones or what? I feel really bad about even thinking like that. I feel like I have to make up for her moms bad parenting and that for the majority of her life I have always been the one to do everything for her. I take her to museums and things like that and her mom wont bc she dont feel like and my hubby works alot.

2007-09-29 08:41:44 · 3 answers · asked by Ali 1

She is the mother of my granddaughter who I adore. She was backbitting her sister not wanting her sister to sleep over with her boyfriend because they live two hours away and the two couples would be going out to eat. My daughter said she didnt want to give her sister breakfast as it would cost her, she and her boyfriend make a good salary together. I told her that she was being disrespectful to her sister and cheap which she was. She is often rude and I am at a loss what to do. My other daughter would be destroyed if she knew her sister didnt want to feed her breakfast and have her sleep over.

2007-09-29 08:28:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. When I first met him he was going through a divorce and a custody battle. THe outcome was that he signed away his parental rights because he was in no position to pay child support. He did not see the kid or her mother for 7 years. Now the child and her mother comes to see him. I am having jealousy issues. What is up with this??? Someone please help explain. I am not there when they are there because I showed my but in front of the mother before and she wont stop if I am there

2007-09-29 08:23:59 · 8 answers · asked by Sunny 2

My mom and sister live together. My sister refuses to work and my mom allows this. They are both very irresponsible with money. I have heard bill collectors on their answering machine while I am on the phone with my mother. I am married and pregnant, and I live over 1 hour away. And I cannot stop thinking that eventually, I am going to have to clean up their messes as well. I cannot afford to help, and I have made this known. Yet they continue their destructive path of being scofflaws. My mother receives money, but spends way above her means (even after I had offered to help her better delegate her money). As I said my sister refuses to work. I dont want this to affect my pregnancy, but I cant stop worrying. What should I tell them?

2007-09-29 08:17:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous