I have been with my hubby for 7 yrs. I have an 8yr old step daughter who we have had summer custody of since birth. I am no 8 months pregnant with our 1st child and now my step daughter feel lke she hates being home with her real mom b/c she has issues and my step daughters older sister gives her alot of grief. She refuses to go home and I ask why? She really didnt know how to do alot of things bc her mom never taught her anything really and b/t my hubby and my step daughter I just get frusterated and feel like I need a break from her bc she can be sooo frusterating and I feel like I'm backed into a corner but I have been around her her whole life really. Is it my hormones or what? I feel really bad about even thinking like that. I feel like I have to make up for her moms bad parenting and that for the majority of her life I have always been the one to do everything for her. I take her to museums and things like that and her mom wont bc she dont feel like and my hubby works alot.
2007-09-29 08:41:44 · 3 answers · asked by Ali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi.. gee i hope you start feeling better.
Hon, it's not up to you to "make up" for the mom's bad parenting... just be yourself, and right now you are pregnant so do what you can and REST when you have to.
It might be horomones right now, or you might be a little obsessed with the step daughter's mom.. just let it go, do your best.. go out of your way when you feel you can, not because you feel you have to....
It's great you are a good step mom, and the girl will remember this for life.
2007-09-29 08:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hope it's your hormones because you have been with this girl since she was a baby. She's also a part of your life. Now you are annoyed with her and want her to go away. That's not cool. What are you going to do when you have a baby and the baby starts to drive you nuts? Give it away? No. I think you remind yourself too often that this girl isn't your biological daughter so you can just push her off. If she needs you and her father, then you need to be there for her and help her. I'm glad you do nice things for her and I feel sorry for her that her mother doesn't. But, I think you need to continually step up to bat with this one. At least give her a decent chance to a good life. Espcially since a baby is on the way, she's going to start to get jealous...I would get her involved in helping you with the baby...keep reminding her that she's loved.
2007-09-29 08:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have been a fabulous parent to this little girl. There is no doubt that your hormones are kicking in with your pregnancy. Since you have been in her life since she was a baby, you should be able to treat her like a regular kid and not a stepchild. Moms with families don't send their kids away just because they are pregnant.
2007-09-29 09:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋