Family - June 2007

hi i'm an 18 yr old girl. when i was 16, i had a brief affair with a guy of 23. he was the first man to touch me...the only guy i've made love with. but it was a very volatile relationship...nothing came out of it...moreover it was clandestine. i don't know why but whenever i think back about that time the strongest emotions take me over. last week my elder sister announced that she intents to get married and her fiance is none other than my ex. i really can't take it. i don't love him anymore...but the whole thing gets to me and i feel i'll make a very stupid mistake soon. our families have been close since a long time but no one ever knew about our affair. my ex seems very cool about the way things are shaping up but i'm dying every day. what do i do? i don't wanna wreck my sister's happiness. but my own self gets destroyed each time i see them together. what do i do? why do i feel like this when my affair is a thing of the past. please advise...i feel like killing myself.

2007-06-30 23:42:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father does not speak to me nor my mother. My mother tries to speak to him but I don't want to speak to him. I disrespect him because he used to beat me harshly with a wooden 2 by 2 when I was smaller as a Haitian discipline, but I was raised in America. He locks up all his belongings with padlocks, even his clothes, tools, unimportant documents. He sleeps on a separate bed from my mother in the same room as her. He has never told us he loved us. He wears a "mask" to the rest of the outside family when they visit but when they leave, the "mask" comes off and he is the same old way again. He never tells us where he is going and when he takes us places , we ask where are we going and he denies us an answer. He does come through on holidays and he did take us places as a kid. He would take us to church, and to family events ( wearing the "mask") and even to cool places. He used to be nice but as time progressed he would become meaner and less caring.

2007-06-30 19:48:26 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1

I need help on the people. I have a 17 year old step-child that lives with me my husband and my 3 small children. She literally hates me and to prove it she is disrespects me and my children everyday. My husband her father doesn't do anything that help the situation; she just does what she wants and says what she wants (cursing and call me names) and it making everyday living, hell. I sometimes have to tell my kids, "just stay away from her!", because she will yell and scream at them because she had a crappy day or whatever. My kids get nervous around her sometimes and i hate that. I tried talking to her, and make sense of this but we just end-up screaming and damn near fighting. I want her to finish high school next year so I don’t want her to be out on the street. I do love the girl but that love is turning in to hate. I can't have my children live with this type of disrespect and evil-ness. Should I take my kids and go?

2007-06-30 19:00:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 30ish and I just found out two weeks ago, by my older siblings that my mother use to do all the things above. She's sick and I can't even talk to her any more as I feel anger each time I attempt to call. All I remember is my mom ,siblings and self going to church all the time. I can't remember the time when she did such fowl things. How can I overcome this anger and sickened feeling I feel for her?

2007-06-30 18:59:30 · 14 answers · asked by JESSICA G 4

Our daughter's 1st birthday party was yesterday and NONE of his family showed. They were ALL invited.

2007-06-30 18:57:32 · 3 answers · asked by Julie H 1

still go to your daughter/son wedding even if they didn't marry the person u chose?

2007-06-30 18:33:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-30 17:05:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently found out from a neighbor that my brother was smoking weed. Now he has been acting out and disappering with his friends, and his grades are horrible. But would I be wrong if I told on him?

2007-06-30 16:39:48 · 12 answers · asked by octobereyecandy 2

I don't want to sound conceited or anything, but I have been told that I am really beautiful because I have a really nice figure. I take after my dad's side of the family. Anyway... my sister is a bit older than me , and she is really pretty, but she takes after my moms side of the family so she is a bit overweight. She tries so hard to wear clothes that make her look sexy, but really they just make her emphasize her weight, and I try to tell her what looks good, and what doesn't.. but she doesn't take my advice.

She and my mom both are trying to lose weight, but since obesity is in their blood it's very hard for them. Sometimes I get the feeling that they are jealous that I am skinny because of the way they look at me. It makes me feel really bad... to the point where I wish I could gain a lot of weight.. and sometimes it makes me really depressed.
I am also the only one in my family who has ever attended college... and I am really happy about the way my life is going.. but ...

2007-06-30 16:12:29 · 31 answers · asked by Mimi 4

2007-06-30 16:04:24 · 10 answers · asked by Heather64 1

my dad doesnt have any problems with them or anything but he never lets me go to his house..why

i ask my mom and she lets me go.... then when he sees me leaving he asks me where im going then i tell him .....he then says he wont let me go,.... then he tells me to go inside and he hits me with a cane...

he doesnt even ask if my mom let me go

if i try to tell him my mom let me..he says that i am lieing and he wont even ask my mom if its true

why???any advice

i cant talk to him cuz he always with his freinds drinking beer and he tells me no to everything and tells me to go inside

im 13 years old

2007-06-30 16:00:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't just stop seeing her, but she makes me so upset my stomache ends up in knots. I want to find a way to transend her bitterness and feel calm inside, to protect myself. Any suggestions?

2007-06-30 15:43:02 · 5 answers · asked by augustus 1

my bf father is n the hospital and he's dieing what should i do, i want to give him great advice, he's feelin sad and dont want to tell his mom how he feel and he's losing hope of his father living cause he had a heart attack tuesday morning,he's sad 4 his mom also, what could i say or do all i can do is listen but other than that i want 2 give him great advice.

2007-06-30 15:37:09 · 2 answers · asked by Tamika B 2

2007-06-30 15:33:18 · 6 answers · asked by gene_harden2000 3

2007-06-30 14:48:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my byfrnds's exwife lives in ill & has primary custody of their 2yo. the visit. order is written as if he lives a town over & can see her as often as stated. we live in delaware & have seen her 4 times in the past 2 yrs. we have tried to see her several more times than this but mom always says no or renigs after saying ok to a visit.
mom has been evicted out of at least 3 apt's & has moved in & out of her byfrnd's home several times. she also "job hops". she is currently a part time bartender. oh also doesn't have a vehicle to get around in.
she keeps her on/off again bf around (he's verb abussive to her not the child) only bcse he has a vehicle that she can use & for $/daycare help. she doesn't have med ins for the child either.
my bf & i have been together for over 2 yrs, have a stable home, 2 vehs, 3 incomes, med ins & daycare avail.
i know there is no deff. yes or no but with this much info would we be likely to get custody/more visitation if we went to court?

2007-06-30 14:46:10 · 3 answers · asked by nataliexoxo 7

With out puttin to much detail into it I was abused by my father for 16 years when i turned 16 i finally got the courage to tell someone my whole family turned against me I had to face him in court without any support from my mother the judge gave him 8 years in prison he just got out and my mother wants me to forgive him well i cant i am afraid to face him i am 25 now and still have nightmares this man ruin my life i got heavy into drugs and achol to try to push the pain away well i have been clan now for 7 years but my question is should i forgive him is it ok for me still to hate him

2007-06-30 14:33:21 · 12 answers · asked by sara24 2

I don't live with my mom, but I live with my step-mom and father. My father will be getting out of the military soon, so we have to move out of military residence. I am not sure about what college I'll be going to yet because we don't know where we're moving. I don't start college until September 2008, and my mother is bugging me day after day after day about what college I want to go to. How do I get her to stop? I've told her repeatedly that I don't know right now. What would you do in this situation? (Rude comments will be ignored.)

2007-06-30 14:20:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my byfrnds daughter is 2yrs 4 mo's old. she can speak very well. i try to keep in touch with her by talking to her on the phone but would rather not have to talk to her mother/the exwife too much.
if i am nice and social she goes in to issues of money/jobs/etc and complains about her life to me.
i don't want to be rude but i would prefer to just talk to the child and say a quick hi and bye to mom.

what's a nice way to say i'll pass on hearing about your issues

2007-06-30 14:20:39 · 3 answers · asked by nataliexoxo 7

And when your kids got older did it seem too late to have the fun (partying hanging out with friends) that you skipped?

2007-06-30 14:09:49 · 10 answers · asked by lindseygirl 3

2007-06-30 12:53:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

HELP!
My wife and I have been married for 5 years... I am from the north where we are 'straight to the point" and clear cut. well my wife is from the south and things are done a little differently, much more talking and "beating around the bush"
her mother always seems to not like "our" simple and clear decision making
Her mother was emotionally and physically abuse as a child and has had been disappointed by nearly everyone in her life. She holds her children very near to her heart. Whenever her children would make any choices of their own her mother uses guilt and manipulation to make them feel bad.
Recently, My wife and I have made the decision to have both sets of parents stay at hotels when they visit.(as before her parents would stay with us) due to having LIMITED space(just had our 3rd child, and have small housing) . Her parents are asking "why we are punishing them? what they did so wrong? how hurt they are and how upset we have made them." grr .HOW DO WE STOP THIS?

2007-06-30 12:48:10 · 5 answers · asked by hmmm123 3

Ok, this might sound pretty lame. I just want to see what everyone's opinions are. (btw I am 24)

I was born and raised on the Jersey shore (45 min to NYC), and a month ago I moved to Boston. I had gone to DC for college and was fine.

But, ever since moving to Boston, I am just feeling that I made a huge mistake. First of all, I didn't have a job lined up (stupid), so I am having trouble finding an actual career. Aside from money matters, I find myself not really wanting to start a new life here. I feel as if coming here made me realize how important everyone back home is. I was in a lull, and unemployed for months when I was at home, and I thought moving away would be an "escape" for me. I thought wrong. I don't think I like living in a city, and it is so expensive. And, there are not as many job opportunities as I had thought.

Am I wrong to just move back home at this point? I feel like a quitter, but I am really NOT happy..in more ways than one.

2007-06-30 12:45:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK heres the "deal" my parents are divorced and my dad has fallen in love ( again) and she loves him back so they become boyfriend girlfriend, and my dad my brother and I are living in a 5 bedroom house 3 bathroom house, ( but we could only live there for a year cuz we were " house sitting it " and we had to move we couldn't find a place so we decided were moving into my dads girlfriends place. and she has 3 kids, as the days past by i feel like hes getting closer to his girlfriend but drifting away from me, i feel unwanted. how can i stop this feeling?

ps. I'm only ten years old
pps i live with my mom too we swich off days

2007-06-30 10:36:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father has been saying nice, sweet, beautiful things about Tobey Maguire ever since he saw his first Spider-Man movie. Does that mean that my father wants Tobey Maguire to be his son-in-law?

2007-06-30 10:35:43 · 8 answers · asked by Louise Smith 7

When I was in college I met a guy. He was a bit older than me. He told me that his family where from the Trinidad and Egypt. It later turned out he lied and that he is muslim and from Pakistan. I am not muslim nor am I from Pakistan.

We were going out with each other and had a great time. I never met his family because he always made excuses that they lived abroad. 2 years later I fell pregnant. When I told him he told me to 'get rid of it'. I was alone the whole pregnancy. He has never provided anything for my son and when I ask him for things he tells me to go to the Child Support Agency.

His parents know nothing about my son and when I threaten him and say that I will tell them he gets scared.

He fed me so many lies and I was want to expose him to the family. I wrote a letter to his mother 2 weeks ago. I enclosed photos and my number. but she has not got back to me. I think he has intercepted the letter.

Should I tell his family?

2007-06-30 09:06:46 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not only is my dad a sexist, he's pretty hardsore too. I have to cook everyday and clean up afterwards. He tells my little brother (15) not to do anything and leave me to do all the work. Rite now i took my tempature,- it's 101.3 i have a fever, and just told me i have to cook for his friends who are coming over again!!!!

I can't talk to him. Last time I did, he was troubled, and threw all the food from the fridge at 5 am, and told to clean it up. I can't talk to him. My mom passed away a couple months ago- she was sick. The only was that makes me happy is...lets say i hurt myself tremendesly.

I go to church and pray all the time for an angel to come and save me. So please guys, what can i do???

2007-06-30 08:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by Evaの 6

hi my names rebecca. i hate its it so...plain and im not plain can any1 think of a name i cud use as a nickname here a few ppl allready call me...
bekii
bekii-jayne
rebzii
beka
reb
but i need summit new if yah called rebecca yooh will no wot i meen

2007-06-30 08:31:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is very old-fashioned and it clashes with my modern yet traditional views.

- she thinks girls can't be good friends with guys unless they're going out
- if a girl is out with a boy alone, it's suggestive that they're together so I can't get hang out with just a guy friend b/c ppl will think "otherwise"
- she takes pictures of me and my best friend (guy) and hides it or puts it last in the photo album intead of keeping it in the front.
- she disagrees with people going out at night...since we're girls, she doesn't understand why we have to go out when it's dark...we should be home by then

this is driving me nuts!! the older i'm getting, the more it's getting under my skin...how do i deal with this??

2007-06-30 08:16:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am jealous because she is starting to drive. I know its weird but I admit it. That is all she talks about. She brings it up. For example, we were with our friends and she said out of the blue “mom won’t let me drive to Arlington Park because there are bad drivers around here.” And then they say “ Oh, you’re driving?” And then she blabs away about herself and my parents continue. It’s so annoying! And this morning my parents wouldn’t let her drive somewhere and she cried! (16 in September). She always cries. I haven’t cried for like a year. She is driving to church tomorrow or tonight, whenever we go. I don’t want her to! I just don’t want to be in the car. That is all she will talk about. I know I should be happy for her but I’m not. I’m just jealous. I will be able to get my permit next year on July 6 (my birthday) when I turn 15. We are 1 grade apart but she is older for a sophomore and I am young for a freshman. I am 14 on July 6. She will get her license this year. Also, what contributes to my jealousy is she is always the topic of conversations. She is track star, went to state as a freshman. Her worst grade was a 96%. I was a 83%. She has all advanced classes. I am in regular. My 11 y/o brother is in all advanced classes for middle school and star of baseball team. I am batting last on my team and can’t do anything to impress anyone. I’m not good at basketball and soccer, and hate football, like pads and serious practices. I love to watch and play football in my backyard but not all the seriousness of the sport. I can’t cook, sing (and am sure of it), or do much else. And the only sport I can play well is Ultimate Frisbee. I played my brother and sister in a game with another person on my team and we killed them. Now they don’t play me. And the nearest camp is 20 miles away. I asked my dad if I could join and he said “if you want to walk 20 miles, go ahead.” And she is mean. I get yelled at every day and I “ruined” her garden. (I “overwatered”) The garden is doing fine. And they never go outside. I am the only one that actually works on baseball. I play everyday. They are addicted to TV and video games. They used to be tan, now they are pale as a ghost. I have the only tan. This just gets me so annoyed. How can I deal with her driving because she will be soon.
Thanks!

2007-06-30 07:29:08 · 11 answers · asked by FSBB 1