Not only is my dad a sexist, he's pretty hardsore too. I have to cook everyday and clean up afterwards. He tells my little brother (15) not to do anything and leave me to do all the work. Rite now i took my tempature,- it's 101.3 i have a fever, and just told me i have to cook for his friends who are coming over again!!!!
I can't talk to him. Last time I did, he was troubled, and threw all the food from the fridge at 5 am, and told to clean it up. I can't talk to him. My mom passed away a couple months ago- she was sick. The only was that makes me happy is...lets say i hurt myself tremendesly.
I go to church and pray all the time for an angel to come and save me. So please guys, what can i do???
2007-06-30 08:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by Evaの 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im not the kind of person who opens up just to anyone. This has been happening for a long time, even when my mom was alive, and she tried to defend me. I keep things inside me and i dont wanna tell anyone about it.
2007-06-30 09:09:09 · update #1
Im 17 btw. just ine more year to do what i want.
2007-06-30 09:10:26 · update #2
Oh my gosh, i'm so sorry. You sound like you've had a very hard life, and it's obvious you dont deserve this treatment. Your dad is being very primitive, and your brother is just benefiting from that...he'll probably turn out just as sexist as your dad from being raised in a home where women were treated like that.
Honey, you've got to get out of this situation. You may not think so, but this is VERY serious. These things often turn to more violent physical abuse. You need to either get your father to change, and fix your whole family's outlook on gender, or, you need to sever your relationship with your father. Yes, i mean find a new home. Now, this doesnt necessarily mean running away...but you definitely need to start talking to people you trust, trying to find some help. I dont exactly know all of your options that way, but i'm thinking along the lines of social services. They've got to be able to do something about this.
Otherwise, if you can wait until you're 18 to move out, i strongly advise this. In the meantime, DO NOT ARGUE WITH HIM! He doesnt sound like the kind of man to be able to control his anger/rage, so getting in a fight with him could quickly lead to a violent situation, which is the last thing you want. In the meantime, i think you're just going to have to play the part of the submissive female that he thinks you should be, in order to avoid putting yourself in danger. Also, is there any way you could talk to your brother about this? Maybe you could get him to understand, and if nothing else, he could be a shoulder to cry on or just someone to talk to, so you arent completely alone. Maybe he could talk your dad into letting HIM do some of the chores sometimes, like now when you're sick. And i strongly encourage you to keep praying! Dont give up on God; he's what you need in this hard time of your life. Even if you cant see immediate results, just have faith that he knows what he's doing, and that everything will be ok in the end, even if it's a little bumpy on the way.
I dont know if i was really much help, but i hope so. You'll be in my prayers, and i wish you the best of luck finding a better life for yourself. I dont want you to EVER believe that you are lower than someone because of your gender. This is a disgusting LIE that somehow is surviving today in this world. DO NOT BELIEVE THIS LIE! You are just as good as any man. Never put yourself down because you're a woman. Be PROUD to be a woman! And never give up on God. He will be the one to pull you through this.
2007-06-30 09:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I was a slave of family also you see it's started when I was 6 my mom & pop had a divorce stuff then my father want me back ??
The reason is that I could be take his company to myself I know this sound weird but hagging a little longer will do some goods
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa seriously why can't yahoo have have voice record stuff mail
anyways Imagine your story but you having only 6 years old see that's worst than being 17 ya we know girls have pure emotions but huh stand up for yourself I stud up when I was 7 and i AM OK
2007-06-30 18:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm terribly sorry about your mother. That loss must be hard on the whole family. Is that why your dad is the way he is? We all handle hurt in different ways. Not that I'm condoning his actions because I'm not.
Your family needs to be in counseling but if they won't then you can go by yourself. Call the crisis hotline in your area. Sweetie you can't deal with this on your own!
I'm so glad that you go to church and pray. Jesus will give you peace and help you through these troubling times. I think you should also talk to your pastor. Some churches offer free counseling. Tell them everything OK? I want you to stop hurting yourself. I will be praying for you.
2007-06-30 16:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to your school counselor or just any counselor. I have heard of stories like this and they were just like your situation. try this... make a place in your house where you can run off and hide, call a friend the best friend you have and ask him/her if you can stay with them for a while, sew your dad, run away, or just move out. I know these solutions may not be what you would chose but they may be of help to you in the future. If you can email me back at lvlyshoebee@yahoo.com. Maybe my step dad can help you with your problem.
2007-06-30 17:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Shelbys Dad says no more♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god
i'm so sorry =[
that's not kind at all
your dad sounds pretty much abusive
especially knowing that you go to church and pray about it
i'd keep praying, and maybe if the going seems that rough, try moving in with some friends or another relative for a while?
just a thought
hope everything gets better for you
2007-06-30 16:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I see you are Hispanic, and I am assuming your father has some very old fashioned ideas about the woman's responsibilities in the home.
When your mother passed away, in his eyes, those responsibilities were passed on to you.
He also is probably still having problems emotionally dealing with your mother passing away.
If you can't talk to him, maybe you can go to a relative.
An aunt? uncle? grandparent? that will be able to talk to him so he will listen.
2007-06-30 16:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone at your church. It sounds like you need someone who is there to help you with this situation.
Keep praying and keep your head up. Things will get better!
2007-06-30 16:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by G. de Vries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You can call Child Protective Services and they can place you in a foster home. If you are hurting yourself you need some counseling. Please talk with an adult you trust. A teacher, your pastor, your grandma tell them what is going on- all of it. Does he hit you if you dont do what you are told? Please talk with someone.
2007-06-30 16:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone you trust and get out of that house... God sends Angels in the guise of other people sometimes, a social worker, a policeman, a preacher... Tell Someone
2007-06-30 16:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will tell you the thing i would do is call the police or go to school and tell someone right away or run away to your friends house.
i wish you the best luck ever!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-30 16:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by Cristal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋