I'm 30ish and I just found out two weeks ago, by my older siblings that my mother use to do all the things above. She's sick and I can't even talk to her any more as I feel anger each time I attempt to call. All I remember is my mom ,siblings and self going to church all the time. I can't remember the time when she did such fowl things. How can I overcome this anger and sickened feeling I feel for her?
2007-06-30 18:59:30 · 14 answers · asked by JESSICA G 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Young people don't realize how the things they do early in life can effect the people they love later on in life. I think you should try to remember that she was once young and stupid and try to be understanding. You won't have her forever. Try to forgive her now, even though she has hurt you.
2007-06-30 19:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
What your MOTHER'S past is and how she got you to where you are is not your concern. This is your mother and the thing you found out about her where maybe a little more open than most but I would say everyone has some past that would embarrass their kids. Don't ask why or other questions to make yourself superior. Love your mother for all the good reasons and good memories you have of her. Don't let your sibling's destroy your image of your mother take back the one before you found out and stick to it Your mother isn't sick she is human treat her as such.
2007-07-01 05:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by wreaser2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe these are occupations that most women enjoy. Wake up! She probably did them out of the need to support you and your siblings, not for the sheer fun of it or to try to embarrass you later on. Since all you remember is going to church with her and the rest of the family it sounds to me like it was something she tried to hide and wasn't proud of. You need to get over it all. Now she's sick and you can't stand to talk to her. Good God.....and also, it is possible your siblings do not know the complete story either.
She is your mother and a human being and she's not well, have a heart, girl.
2007-07-01 02:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not be angry or judge her because you have no idea of what her circumstances were when she did those things and remember people do the best that they know how to do in the worst of circumstances, who knows maybe she had no choice in what she had to do, actually it is really not your business its her life and obviously she kept it hidden from you so at the time it was going on you had no idea so there was some good in her because she kept it hidden so that you did not have to bear the shame of what she was doing at the time . I am sure she probably feels bad enough if this is true without having to deal with you judging or coming down on her for her past, it is not up to us to judge others we all one day have to stand before God for ourselves he is the judge not you.
2007-07-01 15:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, grow and learn better ways to live. It sounds like that is what your mom did. Be proud of her ability to become a strong role model and Christian woman after living a life that was degrading and immoral.
Just remember, she taught you better or you wouldn't be so sickened by the idea of how she once lived. And she is your mother,no matter what. Find a way to reconnect.
2007-07-01 02:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are things she did not who she is. Look at the person not the package. There are alot of women who have no other choice.
Dont judge your mom you havent walked in her shoes.
If you beleive in a higher spirit, she is the only one that has to answer for her life. The only thing required from you is love and support. Be there for her, years from now you'll be glad you were.
2007-07-01 02:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by CntryGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nobody will want to throw herself in a prostitution, she might in desperate that time, no one there to help her and support her, and she need money to raise the children that she loved more than her pride and body.
i would do anything just to make sure my children can survive.
2007-07-01 02:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by moonrider 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
for survival of life man did several sins, praying god and get apology .forgive your mothers sins&give your love,care.
2007-07-01 02:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rangarajan R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try not to focus on the person she used to be and just try to talk to her and ask her why she kept this whole thing a secret from you. and just be glad that your not doing the same things she did . its a discusting thing to just give yourself away like that . hope i helped. byee
2007-07-01 02:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
by accepting her past and moving forward.She has changed so why keep dwelling on the past?No matter what, she's your mom.People are allowed to make mistakes in life.I'm sure you've made some too.
2007-07-01 02:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋