Family - June 2007

Alright, long story very short, my mom died almost 5 years ago, a few weeks after my 12th birthday. My dad only waited 8 months to start dating again, and when he did, he didn't even tell me, I stumbled upon them kissing on the back porch. Him and my mom were happily married for 14 years, and together for 10 years before they got married. I always thought it was wayyy too soon, and I was very upset and uncomfortable with it, and really felt like he never considered my feelings towards it. He's married to the lady now, and I'm pretty okay with it, but occasionally it still bothers me and I still think he should have waited longer and considered my opinions. All my friends agree, but I thought it would be interesting to hear the opinions of people I don't even know, who aren't involved in any way. Thanks!

2007-06-28 17:17:42 · 18 answers · asked by heatherr 3

I'm 16 and i'm a boy, by the way. I don't think either of them know about this...i spank myself somtimes, but only when i am home alone, i've been doing this for about 4 years now. I doubt either of them would have a problem with it, but i don't want to take chances. I've never told anyone about it. They seem like they'd be fairly tolerant of this sort of thing, but you just never know. Do you think i should tell them? Do you think it's even any of their business? This is silly, but it would be a relief to tell someone about it, since i've been keeping it a secret. Even though i've kept it a secret, i'm kind of surprised no one had figured it out...do you think someone could know and just hasn't told me?

2007-06-28 17:07:24 · 17 answers · asked by FMEXICO 1

Do you like a little brother or a little sister?(I would prefer a little sister beacuse they don't bother you as much and they can come to you for advice,But little brothers don't like coming to their big sister for advice.)

2007-06-28 17:03:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long story...
-4 years ago i found out my mother was stealing money from her friend (her friend asked her to get money for her at the atm and took some for herself, this happened consistently totaling $15-20k as the friend claims)
-mother took it b/c she's a single mom trying to get by, not for drugs or alcohol -don;t ask but somehow the friend accused me saying my mom stole for "my drug money" which pisses me off (NOT TRUE!)
-other sibling signed to give the $ back if my mom couldnt
(which is now a very stupid thing to have done)
-mother paid back some and then stopped-now feels she shouldn't have to pay back b/c she only makes min. wage and felt the ex-friend should have understood
-ex-friend harrasing mother to pay back or they will sue
-i now have issues trusting my mother with my money and i pay rent with her, not to mentioned my mother is in at least $25,000 of credit card debt and having trouble paying min. payments
-mother wont admit shes wrong
-what the hell do i do?

2007-06-28 17:02:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad's in trouble with the governemnt. Not serious going to jail trouble its just his construction company is at the threat of being shut down... Its been like this for about 6 months.. My dad's really stressed my mom's really stressed.... My dads made wonderful income and also he might have to pay a fine in the hundreds of thousands to millions... Im only 14 my parents have also been fighting alot... Not hitting, but just FIGHTING alot verbally.. Aruging, I really feel for my dad. Sometimes I feel my mom nags him too much and thinks hes doing something wrong... What should I do? To get away from this? I dont want to get involved cause I get in trouble and scolded if I get involved... I feel scared and worried that my dad will commit sucide because hes being driven crazy by my mom sometimes. I feel like my mom is the culprit. I love her and all, but shes just so overprotective and so on with my dad.... I just dont know what to do... I feel stressed out....

2007-06-28 16:58:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 16:46:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hard circumstances, he had a fling when we weren't together, a pregnancy, and now a baby. No relationship with the other girl. How do I accept this child my fiance has, and how do I handle it with our 3 year old. This baby represents a lot of hurt and I don't know how to do it? ANy suggestions. I just keeping wishing it would go away.

2007-06-28 16:19:43 · 10 answers · asked by confuzed 1

My mom asked me if I would go with my dad to drop her off to help him with the drive. I really dont want to go but I feel bad not helping him out. All my weekends in July are busy this will be my one free Saturday. Should I go? I feel guilty not helping. He is getting old.

2007-06-28 16:11:18 · 10 answers · asked by confused26 2

We are now engaged, we also have a 3 year old. He has had limited contact with the mother during pregnancy and only a few emails since the baby was born, a dna test proved he was the father. We live 3 hrs from the mother and haven't seen the baby, we have a consultation with a lawyer for visitation. The mother is pushing hard for him and his family, whom she has never met to come see the baby. He wants no contact with the mother, but is willing to see the baby, even though he thinks it would be better to just sign over the rights to the child instead of passing him back and forth and having to deal with the mother. What do you think is best for the child. The act was a mistake and there was no relationship between the parents. Should we be involved in his life, how often, or just sign him over and let her other sons father adopt him. we want to do whats best for the baby and our family too, me him and our daughter. He is very torn

2007-06-28 16:10:47 · 21 answers · asked by confuzed 1

My mom asked me if I would go with my dad to drop her off to help him with the drive. I really dont want to go but I feel bad not helping him out. All my weekends in July are busy this will be my one free Saturday. Should I go? I feel guilty not helping. He is getting old.

2007-06-28 16:08:50 · 3 answers · asked by confused26 2

if you hada mother who was losing her mind literally and was really mean with psychotic epsides. and you felt obligated to stay in contact becuse seh is going through a rough time and all that BUT on the other hand you were about to be a single mom and give birth to a baby and not under the best finanicial situation and you ahd enough stress in dealing wth that and need to make you baby the focus of your energies and you feel like dealing with the crazy mother woudl take away from what you ahvet o give to your innocent baby. would u feel bad about just cutting the mother out ofy our life?

2007-06-28 16:05:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live on my own, & I'm 23. & my family members hate me. & for no reason, they've done this to me & my twin sister. They come to our house uninvited & unexpected & tell us what to do in our own house & then leave. Ex. they might tell us to clean out the refrigerator or make us do a hard task such as scrub the walls & then just leave the house-for NO reason at all. & then you don't hear from them in 2 or 3 months.

2007-06-28 15:51:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 15:39:43 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

so I have been going out with this guy for 2 months. I stay at his house every night... we are never away from each other. He knew my birthday was yesterday. I spent the whole day at his house just sitting there. I was hungry and asked him if he wanted to get something to eat. he said " do you have money" and I always pay and I said yeah. I mean like no card , no i don't have the mony right now I get u something over the weekend. nothing. He even fell asleep when I was there yesterday. never has he taken me out to eat, to the movies, he can go to bars sometimes and spend money on drinks but not take me out. he had a bunch of change and couldn't even buy a card. . I makes me so upset. what do I do my boyfrind is 22 lives at home has a little girl.. Im 19. and i stay there all the time and he never introduced me to his family but I stay there any way and like 6 people live in his dads house. I stay in his room all the time .. but I feel like ha doesn't care. please help me out!

2007-06-28 15:39:35 · 11 answers · asked by jennifer e 1

I had an interview today at a podiatrist office and I found it in the newpaper. Well it says you can apply 3 days- tues, thurs, or fri.
I applied the first chance which was tuesday. I got called for an interview and went today. I felt so nervous and it definitely showed I KNOW!! its so embarassing and i feel like i cant talk and give the right answer .. its like being put on the spot for me and I am just not good with that. Well anyway, i am going to school for x-ray and i told them that and she said that sometimes i might have to help give patients x-rays!! i mean thats so cool and thats what i am going to school for and it would be nice if i got the job but i just feel like i totally bombed it! I know i wasnt confident as much as i should have been but i smiled and tried the best i could at answering her questions. I feel like there will be someone else they like better b/c they showed more confidence and were not nervous.But I feel like I might have the skills of xray.

2007-06-28 15:34:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

and she always has to try to push my button especially when we talk about the peop0le who broke up the family and she makes exuses for them anyways i let her have evenhough iam depress i still have to defend my self my question is how do i continue to be numb towards this and not end up going crazy at the end and how to i stop her from doing that its a sensitive subject also what those people did is un forgive able and muy aunt turns it around on me and makes exuses for them

2007-06-28 15:05:35 · 3 answers · asked by dvcgurl 7

2007-06-28 14:42:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

One of my best friends is related to Lizzie Borden, and I'm related to basketball players Danny and Ed Manning.

2007-06-28 14:23:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok where do i begin. i love my grand mother shes the best so far. she just came here from the Caribbean last night. im 21 yrs old by the way. well my dad been treating her like a baby, i mean the lady can comb her own hair, bath on her own, eat on her own uses the bathroom on her own going up and down the stairs on her own, she can do everything on her own but my father is expecting me to stay in the house to watch after her when my fiance is coming home from overseas in 2 weeks were getting married and the thing is im moving out on august 6. cause im going crazy in the house my with my step mother cruella de ville. i loveeee my granny but i need some space i even sleep in the same room with her.

2007-06-28 13:36:41 · 3 answers · asked by dont fuck with me 1

time? It will be my husband, my 14 year old me and my 8 month old daughter? I'm thinking of just covering her carseat with a pretty cream satin blanket and ringing the doorbell, then hiding.

Any fun ideas?

p.s. she's pretty peaceful when covered. I think she thinks she's in the womb!

2007-06-28 13:06:08 · 3 answers · asked by Sleek 7

my dad is mad at me for some stupid reason and he called and cussed me out over it. I called my mom crying (they are divorced) and now she's mad at him. I believe my step mother is evil. My grandmother (dad's mom) raised me and always told me family takes care of family and as long as she had a place to live, so would I. Well, that all turned out to be a lie. Since my dad and I haven't talked in a month, she's become very distant too and we were very close. Now my husband, our son and I are being evicted from our apt. and I asked her if we could stay with her for a couple weeks til we found a place. She said no. I was devestated. If it were just me and my son I believe she would've said yes. My entire family hates my husband and they have no reason too. I've been told he isn't even welcome at Christmas! Therefore I won't be going this year either. I'm just heartbroken. I thought I had a close knit family and now I never want to talk to them again. What do you think?

2007-06-28 12:51:26 · 7 answers · asked by Brandy 3

sorry. I want to make her feel better. She's a very though lady when it comes to making her feel better. Is there some gesture perhaps...that will say it all?

2007-06-28 11:55:08 · 10 answers · asked by Hmmm? 2

She is only turning 13. every little thing annoys her, plus she brags a lot, what should i do, other then just ignoring it, it does not work.

2007-06-28 11:51:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have know the man I love with all my heart since high school, we finally got together a little over a year and a half ago and by the sheer freakish humor of who ever is incharge, I wound up pregnant! while on birth control and using protection! figure that one out! But here we are about to find out what our baby is and, with my hormones running wild I feel as though I am being treated like the same ol girl who in high school! that girl who would not have wanted flowers or to be treated like a girl but wanted to be treated and acted like one of the guys. But I am finding now that I do want flowers and I do want for him to do special things, but I do not want to just come out and say "buy me flowers or someting" PLEASE HELP! Aside from the crazed hormones how do I let my man know I need to feel special, and not just the baby maker

2007-06-28 11:42:23 · 12 answers · asked by rodeogalinor83 2

I love my mom to bits, she is great!

We went through a lot of different stages. I was a difficult teenager and she had to deal with heavy marriage problems.

I often made her laugh during these periods and listened to her and discussed her problems (even whether she should or should not leave him).
Equally, she has always been there for me with her comforting words when we talk and her support. I respect her for how she raised me and my sister and really think she is the greatest person.

But, when we see things differently, I wonder if we respect each others opinions as equal... If we disagree, I am the child again, even though i'm 29.

Do you think there should be equal respect when we agree and should the child always respect mothers when we disagree?

2007-06-28 11:36:32 · 14 answers · asked by DesmoDutchy 3

She is only seven years old and a very sweet little girl. However, when she gets excited, she has a tendency for impulsive behaviors (rarely any that jeopardize her safety) which aggravates him immensely, so he immediately begins yelling at her. She, in turn, becomes upset and starts crying. When she doesn't heed his order to stop crying, his tirade is further fueled which provokes her to cry harder, and on and on it goes. Already, her relationship with her dad is showing signs of strain, and I foresee the situation worsening as she begins to enter puberty. My husband and I have taken two parenting classes--one of which was designed specifically for parenting children with ADHD. Nevertheless, the situation has not improved. Are their any other resources within the community that might be able to offer guidance? Is there anyone who specializes in counseling parents of children with ADHD?

2007-06-28 11:03:29 · 21 answers · asked by bolexi 2

my father died 18 years ago leaving everything to my mother, then on to me, after her demise..... we have his will here.
my mother is now in advancing years, and i have been her only carer for some time......... and live with her.
does this will ensure there can be no problem from my other siblings (who rarely even come to see her) upon my mothers death? or does she need to make a seperate will?
we are reluctant to use a solicitor if it is not neccesary,as funds are never in other than short supply.

many thanks in advance

2007-06-28 09:05:29 · 9 answers · asked by atlanticviewer 2

2007-06-28 08:56:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad is missing out not only on mine and my sisters lives but now I have a son who he visits only on Christmas because he has to. He has a very controling wife who gets jealous if he spends time with my sister and I. He didn't come to the hospital when my son was born nor did he attend his 1st birthday. I've let him know I was upset about those things but he continues to let me down. Can someone so selfish ever change? He has let me down so much throughout my life that I think I have to tell him the truth or just go on with my life without him in it. I hate that my son won't get to have a grandfather but I also don't want to lie to him and act like he cares. Anyone have a similar situation? I need advice!

2007-06-28 08:53:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am living with a woman and her 2 year old son for the past year. I know that I am not the father of the child. I never implied that I was but the other week on Father's Day she said I was not a father. I understand that. I have been very good to her and her child. I have been there for the child, playing, changing, feeding, teaching and giving him love and being the father figure he needs. He does not have a dad. (The guy left to go back to his wife when she (mistress) told him she was pregnant.) But why did she go out of her way to say that? Is she playing with me to get me to do more or should I just not take it so seriously? It hurt a lot and I don't feel good about being around them anymore. I did tell her this but she says I don't do enough to be a father.

2007-06-28 08:35:05 · 35 answers · asked by nutri b 1