Mothers: best friend or best mom?

Question

I love my mom to bits, she is great!

We went through a lot of different stages. I was a difficult teenager and she had to deal with heavy marriage problems.

I often made her laugh during these periods and listened to her and discussed her problems (even whether she should or should not leave him).
Equally, she has always been there for me with her comforting words when we talk and her support. I respect her for how she raised me and my sister and really think she is the greatest person.

But, when we see things differently, I wonder if we respect each others opinions as equal... If we disagree, I am the child again, even though i'm 29.

Do you think there should be equal respect when we agree and should the child always respect mothers when we disagree?

JanicaJayne: I'm not sure. You made me think about something.
But I love my mother to pieces, that's beyond doubt.

Answer 1

i wish i could say the same dear....i thank her for bringing Me into this world because my life is happy, but she was horrible to me throughout my life...never listened to me, forever telling me to shut up and go away, physically and mentally abusive, left me and my kids out on the streets when i tried to escape my violent husband, told me she had me out of spite to get back at nan (her mum) favoured her other grandchildren and ignored my kids, told me she didn't know who i was when i approached her one day, (that was the most hurtful thing she has ever did is say that to me because i had my son, then 8 with me) i could go on and on but i will only get upset, i never had a female roll model in my life and had to fend for myself from the age of 15...pretty sad, right? but this has made me a strong woman, and it has taught me how to love my children unconditionally, i could never deny my kids the way she did with me...i am so glad that you have a good relationship with your mother...and i guess yeah, they do beg to differ at times...stay close hun...you are so lucky to have her...in my case, I'm lucky that i get all the love from my sons who are now grown young men....she's not a nice person and i don't want my kids to see what a horrible mother i have, they have been brought up with love and have never seen hatred before, that's how i want to keep it....bless you....x

Answer 2

Both. You need both best mom and best friend. I think once a child becomes an adult, the parenting is over and what is left is the friendship you have built over the years. You are both adults now and she must have taught you to have a mind of your own, so when you disagree with her it is just showing you have your own opinion about something. You can still disagree with someone and still show them respect. Even if you just agree to disagree. I don't know how old your mom is, but I know with my mother as she got much older, it made my life so much easier just to agree with her and say okay mom. Sure mom, what ever you say and there was peace in the world once again. lol

Answer 3

Mothers always look at you as their "little girl." I remember talking to my mom when I "thought I was grown" and knew everything she still would give me the "motherly advice." I would take it as her not respecting the fact I was grown now and could make my own decisions. I look back on those discussions now and realize she was 150% right on everything she said. She was not disrespecting me. It was her way of telling me how to avoid mistakes she had made in the past. Sometimes we can't understand our parents until we are older with children of our own. Don't take it personal. She loves you, she wants the best for you and she just simply does not want you to make mistakes like she did. She wants your life to be better than hers. Sometimes parents simply do not know how to say it. Treausre your moms advice. I don't know if you have children, but you will soon see what you thought as disrespect from your mom was actually advice she was giving in her own special way.

Answer 4

The answer is to always respect each other even when you disagree. Sometime we Mom's forget we are talking to another adult. We will forever see you as our child. I do it without Even realizing but my daughter is quick to let me know. I love her and respect her though sometimes I go about it wrong.(grin) It sounds like you and your Mom have a very good relationship. Best of luck to you

Answer 5

I believe that at 29 years old, you should have a friendship more than a mother-daughter deal. At 24, my mother and I debate things and sometimes she lapses back into Mom, but I remind her to be open. There are times that a mother is still a mother, but with opinions, she should encourage you to have your own! Talk to her about it, she'll understand.

Answer 6

My mother is very dominating. And often wrong. It doesn't mean I don't love her, but she is and can be infuriating. I try to listen.
It's got nothing to do with respect. I feel as adults we should all respect each other. But the one thing you don't need when you're grown up is someone who tells you what to do.

Answer 7

This is an interesting question. When your children are small it is necessary to be more of a parent than a friend.
When your children are grown it is better to be more a friend than a parent.
But... once a parent, always a parent. It's ingrained in us. And no matter how old you become you will still , on some level, be our children.

Answer 8

Mother is the second form of GOD. Without mother the world will desroy. Mother is both best friend and mom.My mom has made a great contribution towards me.She has made me normal inspite of my deafness.

Answer 9

You should always respect your mom. Do you always disrespect everyone who disagrees with you? That's a pretty serious character flaw.

Answer 10

of path not stupid! All mothers deserve it! If ur sister is a mom. Or ur dentist. Or ur instructor. Or ur mom. Or if ur mom is a mom. Or ur grandma. Or ur chum. inform em all happy mom"S DAY!!! i admire U CORNDOG!!!