Family - June 2007

I am leaving on Sunday for vacation with my best friend and her family!! I was told to bring $450 for the 9 days. My mom gave me $200 and told me to tell my dad that she gave me $250 so that i could get that amount from him. I feel bad about lieing, but i sort of think he should give me more money for a few reasons:
1. He is close to loaded and my mom is just average
2. My mom bought me $300 dollars worth of clothes for the trip and my dad only bought me $125 dollars worth
3. My mom also pays for all my tumbling and gymnastics

Do you guys think it was wrong of me to lie to him even though my mom told me too, because if i didn't i would have been disobeying my mom...?? Or do you think he should give me the $250 because my mom already spent wayy more than him??

My dad refuses to give me anything extra, more than what my mom gave me! So i know 100% if i told him the truth i wouldn't have enough money for vacation!!!

2007-06-28 08:32:00 · 9 answers · asked by Hallee 1

My family is very abusive to me =(. My mother and Father always drink, and I guess cause of the alcohol, they think I'm some sort of punching bag. I'm scared everyone will treat me like this. I have no friends, the public seems to hate me. To make matters worse, once I was walking to the store to buy food, and I got rapped. I am now traumatized of society. I may commit suicide. unless I get some serious help, but no one seems to wanna help me, cause my family thinks I'm no reason to live, and they would never support me. They give me food to eat, and that's all. Most the time I need to make my own food though. Please help me. =(

2007-06-28 08:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by Saddened Soul. 1

my dad is picking me up for an hour. my mom says i have to go. i only see him twice a year. my brothers see him every week. i hate his girlfriend. i told him i wanted to go to the mall with him for one hour on the phone. now i changed my mind. what should i do? i really dont feel like going anywhere right now. i made a commitment saying i would go. my mom wont let me call him back because i changed my mind. how can i get out of it? what if i gotta pee? what if i get sick in the car? what if i get bored? what if i dont wanna go? help

2007-06-28 08:23:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

wat can i make or try to buy for my grandma cause tommorow is her b day (not expensive) im 14 so i dont have that much money

i only have 2 dollars : [

2007-06-28 08:22:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents have been married for 24 years. About 3 months ago, they announced that they were going to be taking a break. My dad had told me repeatedly during this time that he wants to reconcile.

Within the last 2 or 3 weeks, my dad has been spending alot of time with a new "friend" of his. My mother saw this and it really has been hurting her. She told my dad that she wants to reconcile and he has said NO now, becuase he is involved with this new woman.

Here's the problem. I need to be able to tell my father that this woman is not welcome in my home and will NOT be attending my wedding in October, if she's still around (please dear god no). I will not see my mother hurt on my wedding day becuase this new ***** is there.

What's the proper way to do that becuase I'm guessing I shouldn't use some of the terminology I just typed, but that's where my head is at right now...

2007-06-28 08:11:28 · 40 answers · asked by . 2

Okay so me and my mom have a little clothes issue.

This is what she wont let me WEAR.

Okay on top if she can see the line that seperate the boobs she wont let me wear it. USUALLY the line is so small man its like 2 cms. And if she sees the line she is like COVER UP. Then i cant wear skirts or shorts lower then my knees. If I wear a tanktp it has to cover my boobs COMPLETALY. not even a line or part of it until my neck basicly. For my pants i wear low rise pants and i cover them with my shirt. But if she sees my back being exposed (my shirt when i bend down goes up a bit exposing my back) She gets so pushy. But she lets me wear thongs. I mean i pay for my clothes but ig uess she doesnt like the way her daughter buys clothes. How can i make her loosen up? I am 15, and i know i shouldnt dress slutty or anything but she is taking it a little too far.

2007-06-28 06:05:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an 18 year old son.. I love him to death. He has a newborn son, 3 months old. About a month ago, the mother of the baby was kicked out by her parents and is now staying with us. My son just lost his job because he didn't want to get out of bed to go to work, the girlfriend sleeps all day and is up all night on my phone and my computer, neither of them are supporting the baby, (that my husband and I are doing). i know they are young, but they decided to have the baby. He is now here and the novelty has worn off. It is like pulling teeth to get them to care for him. I want them to be responsible, and Is making them leave the right move??? Of course the little guy would stay with me... Am I being selfish in wanting my house back??? Between them and their friends, my having to pay everything including food and personal items for them.. I can't take it anymore.....

2007-06-28 05:51:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have res. cust. during the school year w/mom every other wknd. Mom has summer cust. w/us every other wknd.We went fishing on Father's day, my daughter called her mom and told her what we were doing. Before we got back with her she called the cops on her own daughter because she wasn't back when she thought she should be back. My step daughter said she wasn't coming back since her mom called the cops. My daughter is a great kid and NOT a trouble maker, so her mom calling the cops was WAY out of line. Her step dad told her to get the F***out of the house. Her mom can do nothing but call her a liar, she says that her step dad never said that stuff and that she lied about going fishing and that she is nothing but a big liar. They even brought over all of her stuff and her grandma told her she had no use for her. Now the mom is saying that since doesn't live with her anymore she has to visit every other wknd. Her dad and I agree that if she doesn't want to visit she shouldn't have to.

2007-06-28 05:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by chldogod 1

When they stay every other weekend they always end up sleeping in the same bed. Sometimes all three in a single. He does not have his own place. Staying at a mutual friends house or his parents. Other sleeping arrangements are available but he won't be firm with them when they ask to be in his bed. Preferring them to idolise him. My friend is not happy about this either and I doubt if his parents would be. They are usually away when he stays at theirs. They sleep in their own beds at home, coming in for a cuddle in the mornings at weekends. When my youngest wakes with a nightmare I go to her room. I am not happy with the situation, they are 4 and nearly 7. Their stepfather thinks it is totally wrong and so do most people I speak with.

2007-06-28 05:05:59 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine is getting realy bad but its only been since i had my last child?Cant remember what i just did or have one thing for the bin in one hand and something important in the other and the wrong thing goes in the bin.Like your on auto pilot cus your so busy.i try and remember things but its just blank.

2007-06-28 04:47:12 · 18 answers · asked by odd socks 3

My step dad he is crazy.
i have lived in my basement and have gone without food,
and a bed..
he locked my little sister up in her room. and my mother is always passed out drunk. Or he hits her until she cant take it. she cuts and threatens to kill herself because her sister was shot. she always talks about this to my step dad. about how she is going to go back to the house she was killed in. burn it down..then shoot herself. its horrible.
He threatens to kill us if we tell anyone. and we never have the chance because he is always right on our back. the only time i could tell or anything. is at school.
NOBODY would believe me. he can clean up his act when he is questioned about it. I'm so scared. i dont know what to do.
And he has gotten my brother into this too. he hits our mom and me and my little sister. He is crazy he has raped all of us

--Dont report me or anything.-- it will be even worse.
ust try to give me advice.--

2007-06-28 04:29:12 · 8 answers · asked by sierrA; 2

A few days ago my cousin was found sitting in a chair, shot by an ak-47. Now my knowledge of guns is limited I don't even know if that is the correct name for it, but hopefully you get the idea. The body was sent for an autopsy to determine if it was murder or suicide. Family members close to him said he was depressed, and there has been no mention of this in the local papers or on the news. So everyone assumed it was a suicide. But just this morning we found out the type of gun he was shot with. My husband seems to be convinced that it would be nearly impossible to shoot yourself with that type of gun, due to its size. At this point the police aren't saying to much of anything. Does anyone have any knowledge about such a thing.
Also he was shot in the chest, if that means anything

2007-06-28 04:11:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a step mother to 3 children ages 10-15. I have no where to call my own in our house. The children are always wondering where i am etc. I am a smoker and I am careful to go outside etc. Last evening I had stepped outside to smoke and my 15 year old step daughter told her dad the smoke was still coming in her room on the other side of the house or maybe thru her vent. He informed me and I said I guess I have to go out to the street to smoke... I realize this is a horrible habit... but I feel like I am a 40 year old adult and if I want to smoke in my yard, driveway i should be able to .....I was shocked she complained to him......she is a very irresponsible child with bad grades and an attitude problem....I am always picking up after her or taking care of her messes....and i feel this is unfair.

2007-06-28 04:06:33 · 12 answers · asked by lucy 1

I am a step mother to 3 children. boy 10, girl 13, and girl 15. I have been married to their father for 2 years. Our relationship is very unstable due to his controlling nature. I see his children acting in the same manner. When I come home it is "where have you been?" not hey how are you? how was your day? or they will continue calling my cell until I answer....rather then leave a msg....which is just like their father. The middle step - daughter was looking in my car for the garage door opener when she came across an eyeglasses case hidden with some very personal items in it. She was told the garage door opener was in the driver door pocket. but she went through my entire car. She called her dad and said she had discovered the items in the case and was shocked. He called me and said I had some explaining to do to his daughter.I am confused.I feel he should have covered me and that should be the end of it. His daughter even left me a note in the case "what the heck is this"

2007-06-28 04:00:22 · 9 answers · asked by lucy 1

Well, my mother lives just a few minutes away from me now. She and I have definitely gotten a little closer since I've become pregnant. However, she suffered some financial hardtimes throughout my childhood and as a result, resorted to drinking, gambling, and stealing the identity of her three kids (myself included, which im still struggling to build back from since I refuse to sue my own mother). I obviously had a lot of anger toward her, but I'm trying to grow up and understand where she ever could've been coming from. She also hasn't spoken to her own mother, who lives down in Florida in years for what reason I still don't know. She lost touch with her own family, over financial matters I believe. She has made a lot of mistakes and driven most of the people in her life away. I feel like this is a cycle of bad relationships between mother and daughter on her side of the family and I'm terrified that my relationship with my new daughter will be cursed.

2007-06-28 03:51:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

stituation with a private land lord who won't pay for anything, AC unit keeps breaking, we redid the floors and walls ourselfs b'cause they were molded, anything you can think of we eat the cost. After living on my own for over 5 yrs, I'm married with an 8 month old daughter, my older sis wants me to move in with her so we can finally save up money for a house. I love my sis and we get along great and I want it to stay that way! Is this really a good idea?

Every time we saved up the least bit of money, something goes wrong and POOF, its gone.

I work during the day, take care of my daughter after work, (part time personal asst.) and go to med. school @ night. My husbands works up to 12 hour days and takes care of the baby @ night. Am I only putting us in a more stressful situation by moving in with my sis and bro in law?


I'm going nucking futs! Help please?!?!?

2007-06-28 03:30:51 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2

2007-06-28 03:28:07 · 22 answers · asked by Shaunte S ~Godschosenqueen~ 3

My husband and his brother went out a few nights ago. They went to a bar for an hour or two. My husband called me from there about an hour after they had left. One hour later, my husband was home. He said that his is brother told him to go home and be with his wife and baby.

A few hours later, more like 3am, we got a phone call from my hubby's brothers wife. She said that she had went to this bar with two freinds of hers, saw her husband smooching on some chick. She accused my husband of not watching his brother (who is older) and not staying with him longer to make sure he behaved himself. My husband is not my brothers keeper. She now wants my husband to talk to his brother and find out why he did this and is he seeing this woman. I understand she would like some help. She pretty much demanded him to do this. I feel she is asking my husband to take responsiblity. Its so stupid!

What should my husband do? What in the he1l is wrong with his brothers wife, demanding HE is at fault for her cheating husband?

2007-06-28 03:19:13 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs. K 3

I have reached a point in my life where i want to let my older sister know that i cross dress , any idea how i could bring this up i think she will be ok with it but not sure how to tell her, i thought about texting her but it seems a bit inpersonal, any ideas or experiances welcome

2007-06-28 03:14:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently my mother passed away....The family is all in an uproar and total chaos and nobody giving anyone information about anything... A brother my mom put in charge has been executor of her estate for the past two years..Now mom has passed and we will not be going to the funeral services our mother is having in 2 locationson both sides of the US...Do we have a LEGAL right ro request a copy of the will so we do NOT get left out of the estate like we all were 10 years ago when a sibling walked in with a second will signed 10 days before our Father died and pulled the rug out from under everybody and walked away with the majority of the estate???Any help would be appreciated.....Thanks much

2007-06-28 02:59:38 · 8 answers · asked by Dog Rescuer 6

My dad is has always been a womanising beer swilling pig, and left my mum 8 years ago after 22 years of marriage. He had always been cheating on her, we since found out, but he left my mum for the woman who I now consider my step mum. He has been with her now for 8 years and has treated her like crap too. I really didn't like my step mum to begin with as I saw her as the person who wrecked my parents marriage, but as time healed she became a great friend. She has helped me and my sister out tons and is good to our kids. Even my mum and her speak now as she has been good to us and things have moved on. My dad works away at sea doing months on and months off. He hasn't been in touch with her for 2 weeks and his fancy tart phoned me last night to say they are in love and hes left my step mum. I think this was a crappy situation to put me in. So what do I do? I feel I can't drop my dad in it but I also feel that I owe it to my step mum to tell her. Please HELP!!

2007-06-27 22:08:37 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ Bettyb ♥ ™ 4

so im moving soon,the evil step mom who gave me so much hell is in need of hell herself.Before i leave i want a little pay back...yes its chioldish but fun.i mean i cant leave and let her win every thing.she took all my dads money,now making me move,and jus a *****...so pll give me some ideas for a little pay back.I already put full fat milk in her low fat milk container and put purple dye in her shampoo.i need mean her and pay back.....ha ha

2007-06-27 20:53:41 · 11 answers · asked by Madam FiFi 1

I recently found out that my stepdau. is in a relationship with her female friend. Personally, it doesn't bother me, but if her mother finds out, she'll flip. How should i tell her?

2007-06-27 20:47:42 · 3 answers · asked by ozwol 3

How do you feel about your parents?

2007-06-27 20:41:11 · 27 answers · asked by Lebron Yao 1

my bf's exwife lives in il & has primary custody of their 2yor. the custody order is written as if he lives a town over & can see her as often as stated in the order. we live in de & have seen her 4 times in the past 2 yrs. we have tried to see her several more times than this but mom always says no or renigs after saying ok to a visit.
mom has been evicted out of at least 3 apt's & has moved in & out of her bf's home several times. she also "job hops". she is currently a part time bartender. oh also doesn't have a vehicle to get around in.
she keeps her on/off again bf around (he's verb abussive to her not the child) only bcse he has a vehicle that she can use & for $/daycare help. she doesn't have med ins for the child either.
my bf & i have been together for over 2 yrs, have a stable home, 2 vehs, 2 incomes, med ins & daycare avail.
i know there is no straight yes or no but with this much info would a judge more likely grant the dad custody if we went to court?

2007-06-27 20:40:53 · 1 answers · asked by nataliexoxo 7

what are somethings you remember when you were a kid ? something you will do or say ? bestfriend you had ? A place you will ask your parents to take you

2007-06-27 20:28:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My biological father has not paid child support for my brother and I in over 10 years. My parents would like to go after it but can't afford a lawyer. Is there anything we can do to get it?

2007-06-27 19:52:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Heh, I'm back again. Summary: I'll be moving out of an abusive, hostile household very soon, and staying with some already established old college friends in Manhattan until I can get a fairly good-paying job and find my own place/all that fun stuff.

I just have no clue how to go about it... the actual leaving. I've been in such a blur since I realized what everything has come to, that I can barely think of a way to go about this. Though I've been threatened with eviction plenty of times, I know actually moving out is (ironically) going to cause me to be a pariah in the family vilified for years to come. Not to mention the explosive reaction its going to cause. Can anyone give any advice how to go about this?

2007-06-27 19:43:18 · 4 answers · asked by lfg4312 1

My 2 years son recive for birthday interesting combination karo shirt mix of pink and blue and blue pantones with pink rope, looks good, but I know that pink is only gor girls, I'm not modern. Problem is, becuase present is by very close cousin and she will be happy if she see gift on my son.
Sory for my English

2007-06-27 19:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by Denicia 6

She had a tumor for a couple months and just got out of the hospital, the doctor told the WHOLE family not to make ANY sudden movements around her because the first heart attack or gasp she has would lead to sudden death. So I thought it would be funny to give her a little scare, I put a scream mask on and jumped out of the closet when she was in her wheel chair and screamed at her with a knife and jumped around and as she silently gasped for air i went "RRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA" and she died, i told my dad she fell, how do I clear this?

2007-06-27 19:37:03 · 30 answers · asked by john m 1