My dad is has always been a womanising beer swilling pig, and left my mum 8 years ago after 22 years of marriage. He had always been cheating on her, we since found out, but he left my mum for the woman who I now consider my step mum. He has been with her now for 8 years and has treated her like crap too. I really didn't like my step mum to begin with as I saw her as the person who wrecked my parents marriage, but as time healed she became a great friend. She has helped me and my sister out tons and is good to our kids. Even my mum and her speak now as she has been good to us and things have moved on. My dad works away at sea doing months on and months off. He hasn't been in touch with her for 2 weeks and his fancy tart phoned me last night to say they are in love and hes left my step mum. I think this was a crappy situation to put me in. So what do I do? I feel I can't drop my dad in it but I also feel that I owe it to my step mum to tell her. Please HELP!!
2007-06-27 22:08:37 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ Bettyb ♥ ™ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey first of all I am sorry to hear you in the middle of such a mess! My honest opion is she already knows what he is about after all she was the other woman. My thoughts are she knows and until its put in her face she don't have to deal. Like anything the truth eventually comes out and it would be best not to put yourself and family on hot seat. You love both and want a relationship so I wouldn't draw that line in the sand, after all you have done nothing so why should you pay with hard feelings. You will help more to be there when she faces her life and needs you! THINK and don't be so hard on yourself.....
2007-06-27 22:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always the chance that your step mother may not believe you. Think you are trying to cause trouble or something. That would be because it's hard for women to hear bad things about the men that they love. If you think your mother would definitely believe you then you may wish to tell her. It's really not your place or any of your business but we all know that dad is being horrible to her. Can you call your dad and ask if this is true and could he please tell your step mother himself because his bimbo is calling the house and harassing people. If he denies it and you feel you must tell step mom then I know you will do a good job at it being as tact full as possible and with a loving heart. Sorry to hear about your family troubles.
2007-06-27 22:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your step mum about it. I mean not being rude, but she's been a great mum to you. And your dad seems not nice at all. Besides, it's better if she heard it first from a close friend, rather hearing it straight from that fancy tart. I consider it would be so unbearable.
2007-06-27 22:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by early june 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. It's going to be much easier coming from you than it would be coming from him or his cheap floozy. Invite her over to your place & sit her down & gently tell her. You may want to ask your mom for advice on how to break the news, as she has been through this before. Your stepmom may already be aware of the situation in some form or another.
Talking to you will give her a chance to organize her thoughts, feelings, & give her time to call a lawyer over the marraige assets. I would take the un-sweet tart seriously, as he has already ended one marraige in order to marry someone else.
I would cut ties with your father, or at least as much as you can. It's so unfair of him to put you & your siblings like this. I suspect that your father may have put that woman up to this so he wouldn't have to.
2007-06-27 22:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got a phone call telling you to tell her, then I would tell her. It is up to her how she handles it, the truth is she probably already suspected it. Its a shame , but what she did with your dad to your mom has come back to bite her in the butt. Its unfortunate your dad couldn't have had the tables turned on him. You know how the story goes, once a cheater always a cheater. : (
2007-06-27 22:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have realized that, if he was cheating on your mom, he would eventually cheat on her too! He will continue to cheat. Men like that define themselves by what they conquer. There is nothing that you can do. Don't tell your step mom, let your dad do it. Do, however, remain in her life, and continue the relationship with her. She will need a shoulder to cry on.
2007-06-27 22:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother before someone gets hurt
2007-06-27 22:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by mcr girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i know u love your dad but hes an A s s ....really tell her and try and live with her if your underage
2007-06-27 22:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by desirable poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to the people who have been right to you. So be right to them. Even if it hurts.
2007-06-27 22:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rising Son 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her so she can do what is right.
It's cruel of your father to keep her in the dark...
Sorry abou this :(
2007-06-27 22:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lana S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋