Is it wrong to lie to my dad, even though it was my mom's idea?

Question

I am leaving on Sunday for vacation with my best friend and her family!! I was told to bring $450 for the 9 days. My mom gave me $200 and told me to tell my dad that she gave me $250 so that i could get that amount from him. I feel bad about lieing, but i sort of think he should give me more money for a few reasons:
1. He is close to loaded and my mom is just average
2. My mom bought me $300 dollars worth of clothes for the trip and my dad only bought me $125 dollars worth
3. My mom also pays for all my tumbling and gymnastics

Do you guys think it was wrong of me to lie to him even though my mom told me too, because if i didn't i would have been disobeying my mom...?? Or do you think he should give me the $250 because my mom already spent wayy more than him??

My dad refuses to give me anything extra, more than what my mom gave me! So i know 100% if i told him the truth i wouldn't have enough money for vacation!!!

I'm am 14 years old and am NOT allowed to get a job!! My mom won' t let me because even though i was hired at my dad's friends restaurant, both of my parents told me no way!

My parents will not talk to each other, they haven't talked since i was 3 and they got divorced...that is except all the ridiculous court battles because my dad tries to rip my mom off from his pention and also child support!

Please do not tell me my mom is worse than my dad. Yes she told me to lie to him, but my dad made me lie to her for 3 years and tell her that i liked his new girlfriend and that her daughter was my best friend, but in all reality the mom was horrible to me and her daughter was very annoying and a spoiled brat! I was only 7 and was scared of disobeying my dad so i did what he told me to do and to this day my mom still thinks i used to love them!

Answer 1

Was it truly reasonable for your parents to spend $425 on a wardrobe for a trip? Are these clothes you absolutely need? If it was just so you could have new clothes while on a trip then maybe both your parents should have taken the daily expenses (while on this trip) before they spent this much on clothes.

Secondly, lying is wrong. It is wrong to also disobey your parents. However, if your parents ask you to do something that is morally wrong (lying falling under that category) then it is OK to not obey. It shouldn't matter if lying means you have an extra $50.

Also, I doubt not having the extra $50 means you won't eat for a day or survive on this vacation. Being a bit thrifty will ensure that your money will last the trip and who knows you may have some remaining.

I would also like to add that if we were discussing a matter of child support then yes both parents (who are divorced) should try to equally partake in the financial aspect of their child's care. However, this is a trip, which means it is extra and each parent should give what they can or what they feel is reasonable.

Answer 2

Wow what a tough situation to be in. Correct me if I'm wrong but the way it sounds, if you were truthful and told your dad you needed $450 for the trip and that your mom gave you $200 he would only give you the same amount your mom gave you (the $200) and that you would have only $400 for the trip and not the $450 you really needed? Then your dad sure isn't looking out for you is he?

While I don't condone lying, if it is true that your mom spent $500 total for your trip then in all fairness your dad should do likewise. Since he spent $125 he really needed to come up with more than the $200 your mom gave you.

Would I have lied if I were in your situation? Proabably. Would I have liked it? Not at all. I would chalk it up to a learning experience so that when you grow up you know how NOT to act.

Answer 3

First of all, a child must never lie to the parents. If you lie to your father and he finds out that your mom had something to do with it, then he may get mad and feel bad because he was lied to by the 2 persons he loves the most. The expenses of a child is the responsability of the father and the mother. Now you say your father has more money that your mother. We can look at it that way and say your father should pay for more, but it is from both that your expenses must be shared. Now, your mother and you should have sat down with your dad and explain the trip and all the costs of clothes and extra money needed, that way between all of you, your parents could have decided who will pay for what and come to an agreement on sharing the costs and expenses. Now, if he has been a bit penney pinching, he should open up more after all you are his daughter. Since I made more than my children's father, I at most ran their expenses. In your case you both should have talked to him first and it is never too late for all to sit and have a nice conversation, don't let your father feel hurt because of a lie so as not to make him feel hurt. Now it the time to solve your situation in a family matter.

Answer 4

I've learned that lying is never a good thing. What does that say about you or your mom's character? A parent should never encourage thier child to lie.

Answer 5

What is your personal reaction when you catch someone in a lie...even when they feel totally justified? Trust is a hard thing to win back! Live like you want to be treated! Have a wonderful vacation!

Answer 6

I don't agree with lying however young lady you are not lying your mother is lying and you are following your mothers instructions, SHAME on your parents for putting you in the middle. Go on your trip and let your mother deal with HER LIE.

Answer 7

Maybe you should get a job and earn your own money so you don't have to worry about it.

Answer 8

Eh, why not? Your mom seems to provide more for you than he does. Shallow as it is, I think that it's ok.

Answer 9

THAT SO WRONG UR DAD MIGTH BE BETER THAN UR MOM