My husband and his brother went out a few nights ago. They went to a bar for an hour or two. My husband called me from there about an hour after they had left. One hour later, my husband was home. He said that his is brother told him to go home and be with his wife and baby.
A few hours later, more like 3am, we got a phone call from my hubby's brothers wife. She said that she had went to this bar with two freinds of hers, saw her husband smooching on some chick. She accused my husband of not watching his brother (who is older) and not staying with him longer to make sure he behaved himself. My husband is not my brothers keeper. She now wants my husband to talk to his brother and find out why he did this and is he seeing this woman. I understand she would like some help. She pretty much demanded him to do this. I feel she is asking my husband to take responsiblity. Its so stupid!
What should my husband do? What in the he1l is wrong with his brothers wife, demanding HE is at fault for her cheating husband?
2007-06-28 03:19:13 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs. K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just to make the situation a little more .. crazy.. my husband is 39, his brother is 45. (I believe)
2007-06-28 03:20:23 · update #1
Yes she is not being reasonable, but what is reasonable behaviour in this situation? Maybe she is very stressed out and not coping, and when she has had a bit more time to think and calm down and take it in, she might realise that she needs to talk to her husband, and it is between the two of them, and not your husband's fault or responsibility to act as intermediary. Either of you getting cranky with her is not going to help. She might need your husband to remind her gently that you are both there for your family, but it is their business and they need to sort it out. If he wants to talk to his brother, maybe it should be as a brother, not to report back to his sister in law, and she needs to accept that too. Try to have a little more tolerance, I think. I am not saying he should give in to her demands, but if you tell her she is being stupid while she is so stressed out, it might make her more upset and not help her realise what she needs to do to start to sort this out. Good luck.
2007-06-28 03:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is in denial that it could be anyone's fault other than her hubby's. Really, she needs to realize that your hubby has you at home to go lay with and he is not staying out all night to babysit a grown man. Really, dude was probably drunk after those few hours and just smooched on a random drunk chick out of stupidity. She might think he "knew about it" or whatever, Just stay away from them 2 until they calm down.
2007-06-28 04:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stay way out of this. You and your husband need to protect yourselves now. I would put as much distance as possible between you two and his bro and family meaning no contact for a while. Can you leave a message saying that you are sorry you cannot help this situation and wish them the best. You cannot solve this problem, but a clue might be the way she 'demanded'. Perhaps she has driven him away? But not yours to decide. I cannot say stronly enough-keep away.
2007-06-28 03:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STAY THE HELL OUT OF IT!! lol....seriously, I'd be telling your SIL that he's not involved in this, that it's their personal business not his.
You're right, he's NOT his brother's keeper, it's not his responsibility to babysit his brother. The brother is an adult, he's married----this is something that the two of them need to handle on their own. ---And you both can tell them that!
She's just pissed and hurt by what her husband's done and wants to blame someone other than her man.
2007-06-28 03:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is fishing for information. I dont believe that a wife could catch her husband smooching on another chick in the same bar she was in and not confront him right there on the spot. Like everybody else on here.....tell her to handle her own business.
2007-06-28 03:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to BACK off and talk to her own husband about it. Like you said (and you can tell her again incase she didn't get it the first time), your husband is not his brother's keeper. She can ask the loser himself. Don't back down on this and if she's still going on about it, hang up on her.
2007-06-28 03:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no, it is not your husband responsibility to prevent his brother from cheating. Tell her to talk to her oen husband and leave you (your husband) out of it. You said right with the comment you are not your brothers keeper. He is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong.
2007-06-28 03:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by To The Point 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband should tell his brother to be an adult & deal with his wife. He should tell the wife exactly what you said "I'm sorry but my brother is a big boy now and I am not going to babysit him"
2007-06-28 03:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is not responsible for his brother. I would say you don't need to get involved. If she wants to ask she can ask him herself. And if she had a brain she would leave him because she caught him red handed at the bar!
2007-06-28 03:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your hubby should stay out of it. they definitely need to work this one out for themselves. If his brother asks him to mediate, then that is a different matter. but not like being demanded to do something. that is just pain coming through.... she needs to do this herself. she needs to ask the cheating hubby herself.
2007-06-28 03:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋