Family - June 2007

I'm 14 and my dad has been abusing me by throwing, plates, knives, chairs, etc and locking me the basement (unfinished) for days on end, and also emotionally abusing me.... he has been doing this for 6 years now and I've had enough of it but I love my dad and I don't want to get him in trouble. How can I get him to stop without telling anyone?

2007-06-27 05:45:19 · 17 answers · asked by Lyzz 1

I am 23 living with my parents and my 18month old son. I Moved back in after 4 years of not being home. My son is growing up and needing boundries. My Mother is constantly putting her "2 cents" in, and blaming me for him crying. (We recently took him off the bottle, and he cries a little.) I'm not sure if I am over-reacting or if she is becoming too controlling. And yes, I know I need to move out, and am doing everything I can to financially be able to do it. (Single mom alert). Any other suggestions? Preferrably what to tell her?

2007-06-27 05:38:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi all -- I'm a high school student (17/f/half japanese) in north cali, I'm taking some classes this summer at the junior college before my senior year in high school. I have an assignment about welfare for one class and wanted to ask some single moms. My daddy says that 98% of single moms are on welfare at one point or another, so here goes:

1) When you were on welfare, what did you think of people like me that drive shiny new cars? (I drive an Acura if that helps.)

2) Where there any things you did while on welfare that you swear you will never do again? Did you do anything that in retrospect surprised yourself?

3) Did you get more pregnant while on welfare?

4) If you ever got off welfare, was it because you were kicked off?

Thanks so much single mom's, have a great summer (I'm heading to the beach) ;)

2007-06-27 05:19:29 · 8 answers · asked by perfect_scrotum 2

My mother has given me life and has provided for me since birth. So that's not the issue. The issue is her constant nagging and criticsm. In the presence of her church friends and coworkers she's a saint. But behind closed doors, she's a nightmare. From everything to my hairstyle to parenting style, nothing I do is ever up to her standard. She's even insisted that my husband and I are abusive when I rarely discipline my child....yet she has been verbally abusing the entire family for years. Over the years, I have built up anger to her. I know that is not right but what should I do? I'm trying to let that go but it's so hard when she insists that my business is her business.

2007-06-27 05:14:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

she live in ohio and im in alaska. she is my father in-law's girlfriend. her 12 year old daughter is seeing this. my father in-law punches her, kicks her, and recently threw a charcoal grill at her and busted her jaw. he also lets other people, including his youngest son of 13, slap her around and call her names. this is eating me alive because i dont know what i could do other than listen to her talk about it. any advice would be appreciated.

2007-06-27 04:56:39 · 5 answers · asked by caligirl76 1

There is a Def Leppard concert tonight that I have had tickets for forever. Both of my parents want to go, but there are only two tickets, and I'm dying to go. the seats are in the back, so thy aren't great. But anyways my dad loves the band, and so does my mom. I want my mom to go because my dad is incredibly embarrasing, and my mom is fun to be with. i'm just not sure if it will upset my dad. who should I take? I NEED HELP!!!

2007-06-27 04:38:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-27 04:11:37 · 8 answers · asked by Theresa P 1

2007-06-27 03:23:26 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

2007-06-27 02:34:50 · 21 answers · asked by Julie S 1

Like when you try to help them find a solution to their problem,and they say,"No you can't it is adult buisness" or something like that. It is like they are telling us that we don't have problems.

2007-06-27 01:45:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK. Here's the situation. My husband and I just recently, like last year found out that a child he supposingly had with someone else wasn't even his. The child is now 17. Child support is still taking my husband's money. He went to child support with his proof of not being the father of this child. They told him that the mother of the child has to stop the case. The mother of this child told my husband more than once that she would, but she still hasn't. She just got a big lump sum of money from my husband's state income tax and she don't want to stop the case at all now. She wants to continue to collect money knowing that this child does not belong to my husband. What can be done legally to stop her? Do anybody have any suggestions? Oh, another thing, he barely even knows the child. The mother of this child kept the child away from him when she was little. My husband moved out of sate, so he still didn't get to see the child. He saw her when she was nine then again at age 15. HELP ME!

2007-06-27 01:09:34 · 14 answers · asked by 3boys,&3girls 2

My brother is 16 and im 14 and he still hits me.. like smacks, pulls my hair, calls me names, comes in my room, teases me, spits on me, punches, takes my things, annoys me and more. Some times he does it for fun and other times when his mad and it really hurts when he smacks me. I dont think its normal for a brother to hit his sister? I cant stand up to him because he will hit me. Is this normal, i dont know because i lived like this for ages. He also annoys my parents like heaps and yeahh.. He is not on my case 24/7 but some days its worse then others and other days he does nothing. My mum says he will grow out of it but i dont think he will... can anybody help any sugestionss? plz help...

2007-06-27 00:44:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you see that ur father don't stop make mistaks in this behavior; if he make ur mother sad and don't spend any time with his young chidren , how would you correct him? can you make something to change him? how??
please help me!

2007-06-27 00:38:36 · 6 answers · asked by linda c 2

2007-06-27 00:27:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

This might go on a while, so i appologise before hand lol.

My mam started a huge arguement last friday saying that i'm spoilt and i don't do enough help around the house, and that i give and not take, it sounds like im making easy excuses for my self, but if i'm spoilt its my parents fault for giving me money, getting me what i want and then letting me get away with doing F*** all to help in the house.

I'm more than willing to help and do stuff, but they don;t give me anything to do, they just expect that i do things, then when nothings done i get told off. After every argument like this, i tell my mam i would like a timetable so to say, with lists of jobs for me to do, wot days and what time etc, but shes never made one.

she is really strict and overprotective and we argue alot, she doesnt see things from my point of view. I'm 17, but i feel more like a 10 year old, i'm not allowed out much, my mam makes all my descisions for me, its like im not allowed my own opinion...

2007-06-27 00:22:34 · 6 answers · asked by lisaaaa 1

I was able to get his address and phone number after years of searching! Im preparing to call him but dont know how to handle it. please help!

2007-06-27 00:20:31 · 10 answers · asked by JohnC 1

He'll be 21 soon, and he's so great at getting presents for people but I have no idea what to get him! He's a student studying english literature, lives in a student flat with three other guys, and he mostly drinks beer and you know, does whatever students do! What do you think he'd like? I really need help, I'm useless at this sort of thing!

2007-06-27 00:19:04 · 12 answers · asked by floppity 7

They never let me out to see mates, iv'e asked to them to speak with my friends parents but they wont do that, they're doing everything they can to keep me away from the world. Just because they dont like talking to people they're trying to make me like it too. They base everything i feel on hormones, for example, if my step-mum asks what's wrong and i tell her a good reason why, she'll say something like " yeah but that's just stupid teenage stuff, that's no reason to be down " or if i just say im feeling down for no reason she'll base it on hormones, so that's why i dont tell her whats wrong cause she'll just call it " stupid teenage stuff " and i said to her the other day " well when im 18 i can move out then cant i " she said " maybe we'll see " AHHHH! I mean what the hell does she think she's on about, she thinks she can control me at 18! im going crazy, i start college in 2 months but this is driving me insane now, she just will not listen, neither will my dad, i hate them both.

2007-06-27 00:10:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

if one thinks bout imself or herself.. career ....is one bein selfish

2007-06-27 00:00:15 · 15 answers · asked by ladybird 2

Still being treeted like I'm a child, she argues about everything??????

2007-06-26 23:55:30 · 11 answers · asked by Animalfriend 3

I like "newish" music (ex: the black-eyed peas, the pussycat dolls, rihanna, fergie, etc.) but my mom,dad,sister,grandparent and stuff don't. I mean i can understand why, i'm 6 years younger than my sisters but i'm still old enough. I know they would hate anything other than mary poppins going into my brain so i listen to music on my laptop in the dead of night, otherwise i'm stuck with stuiped hyms that we heard in church on Sunday. I'm fed up with staying up until 4 to hear some decent stuff, any advice on how to break it to mom that i'm not 2 and we're not living a million years ago? I mean i don't want her to hate me and think i'm a putrid piece of **** but i want to be able to have a little pleasure when i'm not about to conk out. I mean i love my parents, they're the best ever! they just don't get all the new stuff going on, that frills,stripes, and bonnets are out of style, know what i mean? and the black eyed peas aren't exactly clean but whatever, my teachers cuss more! HELP!

2007-06-26 20:56:29 · 8 answers · asked by Sweet B 1

i know nth wrong wit it but im gonna stay home till im done college rents expensive out there

2007-06-26 19:50:46 · 8 answers · asked by heavenz_rain 1

I'm 12 and the baby of the family, but really, this is getting too much! Here let me give you an examp,le of how mean they are too me:

We were all watching a PG movie and my big brothers kept covering my eyes even when the movie wasnt scary! So I said Stop it guys but they all started tickling me. And they are 3, 4, and 6 years older than me so I couldn't fight them all! They tickled me so much that I started crying and then my mom told my brother Sam to tuck me into to bed since I obvioussly couldnt stay up with the big kids. So he took me upstairs and made me go to sleep while he was laughing and teasing me by tickling me more the whole time! Isnt that mean! What wuld you do?

2007-06-26 19:45:16 · 24 answers · asked by Marty J 2

Hi. Not enough room to post the whole story. My question is for my inlaw's boyfriend. Things are not working out. Gets
mad/fustrated at my baby. Don't like I am up late. Seems to have a quick temper I belive. I don't know him.Tried to talk to them about it and suggest some nice alternitives, but he refuses. Didn't barley want to hear about them. Says not used to kids, knew I had baby that cries! I told him about it all up front. I listened to his reasons but they seemed not valid to me, but I agreed to keep the peace.But the deal is that this is upsetting me after only couple of days. I don't want to throw them out with no place to go and she getting mad at me and probally try to relaliate. My hubby agrees with me on this. I just want it to be nice. Tried explaining that to em. I think I been fair. It is my place after all. Says respects all that, but y is he acting this way? Says he needs time to get used 2 it. Y he move in if he not comfortable? Just trying to help em in a pinch.

2007-06-26 18:48:03 · 8 answers · asked by Kodycat 2

I am 19 and a sophmore in college. I have super strict parents and though I love them to pieces, I can't deal with this much of it anymore. (examples include early curfew when Im home, constant lectures about the proper order of doing things aka marriage before intimacy of any kind including just staying over at his place, not being allowed to visit him over the summer as he lives 2.5 hours away even if I stay in a guest room at his mom's house etc). They pay my room and board at school, so I either need a way to be declared as an independent in order to get more financial aid or a way to convince them to let me make my own choices. If anyone has suggestions I would love your advice.

2007-06-26 18:05:55 · 12 answers · asked by Liz 1

Ok here is the thing. Everyone in my family has since the first moment they found out I was pregnant (even on my husbands side) has been asking me about the baby shower. Questions like who is supposed to be giving me one and that sort of thing. Thing is no one wanted to give me one, I haven't asked anyone to give me one because that would just be bad taste. Then my mother told me that her side of the family was waiting to see if my father's side of the family was gonna give me one and my father's side of the family was doing the same thing. My mother-in-law who is a witch and doesn't really like me at all. Has finally decided that she was gonna do it but she told me the only thing she was gonna do was send out the invitations. She thought that was enough, but she didn't even bother asking other people like my mother and and others in my immediate family to help. She told me if I wanted food or drinks there that I would have to take care of it.

2007-06-26 17:46:14 · 21 answers · asked by Whitneyd 3

2007-06-26 16:49:50 · 3 answers · asked by jenny A 1

My husband is East Indian (been in the USA since he's been 6 y.o.) and I am American. Our marriage is great, and we've been together for 2 years. My mother-in-law, however, feels that the Indian culture is the only game in town. During the wedding planning, I kept incorporating Indian traditions to make the family happy. I've worn saarees for family events, taken relatives back and forth to the airport, made sure to say Aunt and Uncle in their language. I try everything and my MIL seems to never be happy. My husband has supported his family both financial and emotionally for years (father-in-law had a stroke and brother with autism), I would never oppose this because I'm very close with my family too. But I feel a great sense of competition and she has caused problems in the past for attention. I keep giving and giving, and lately I've stopped because I'm so drained from it all.

2007-06-26 16:46:39 · 13 answers · asked by Lyla 3

I usually spend about $140 for three people, and that only lasts us about a week or so.

2007-06-26 16:10:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm pregnant with my second child and I just turned 18. I have heard alot of bad things. I'm just wondering what all of you think about the matter.

My soon-to-be-husband and I are getting married after this little one is born, we have our own house, we have our own cars, we both have pretty good jobs, and we both finished high school.

Does that make it any better for all you haters?

2007-06-26 16:07:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous