Ok here is the thing. Everyone in my family has since the first moment they found out I was pregnant (even on my husbands side) has been asking me about the baby shower. Questions like who is supposed to be giving me one and that sort of thing. Thing is no one wanted to give me one, I haven't asked anyone to give me one because that would just be bad taste. Then my mother told me that her side of the family was waiting to see if my father's side of the family was gonna give me one and my father's side of the family was doing the same thing. My mother-in-law who is a witch and doesn't really like me at all. Has finally decided that she was gonna do it but she told me the only thing she was gonna do was send out the invitations. She thought that was enough, but she didn't even bother asking other people like my mother and and others in my immediate family to help. She told me if I wanted food or drinks there that I would have to take care of it.
2007-06-26 17:46:14 · 21 answers · asked by Whitneyd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Guess what I am doing just about all of the work. My mother is helping some. I am alittle put off by this. It kind of hurt my feelings as well. You think with this being my husbands parents first grand child and my parents first grand child people would be a little nicer about it. I am just wondering should I tell them not to worry about it. oh and they have waited untill the last possible moment I am 36 weeks now and the shower isn't untill 3 weeks from now. They doctor told me he didn't think I would last that much longer. They all know this too but they said that they had too much to do and that it would interfer with their weekends.
2007-06-26 17:51:00 · update #1
Oh my Gosh, you poor thing.
That is horrible. You wasnt kidding when you said you MIL is a witch.
I would give you a baby shower if I could. :-)
Go ahead with the baby shower. INVITE whom ever you want.
Ask your family to help with the food.
GOSH, cant believe you have to do any of this.
Tell your MIL you are inviting your famil, if she acts weird about it, tell her you have changed the location. Then plan on having it some where else. Ask your hubby to jump in and help, rather than you having to do it.
I wish you luck my dear. Your not getting a very good start are you?
~faith
2007-06-26 17:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You know this is tough one. I am 33 weeks now and I did not have shower. I did not want to go through all the drama. Our families are very similar. I decided to put together an online registry and send it out to everyone I would have wanted there. I do live out of state now but I was going to fly home. Sometimes I just dont see all the hype in a shower. I did this a few months ago and now my mother has finally broken down. She feels bad from the arguing and waiting and now she wants to have a shower at her house for me anyways. I can't go because it's tooooo late to travel but hey, she thought about it. I told her she could put me up on the web cam and mic. It's really up to you and how much you can handle. I couldn't do it and didn't even want to deal with it. I really dont feel bad about it either. Take a day or so and think about it. You shouldn't have to throw your own shower. They are being selfish. I hope this helps a little. You are not alone! This stuff happens more than we know. Maybe you can try the online registry. Walmarts is really easy and they can purchase online or in the store.
2007-06-27 01:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a very similar situation right now. My parents are going through a nasty separation and the last thing on my mom's mind is a baby shower. Her family is mad at me because I haven't turned my back on my dad, so they aren't giving me any support. I was never close to my dad's family, so they aren't really in the picture. And my hubby's family is spilt up worse than my own is right now. My dad is the only person giving me any support now. I decided not to bother worrying about a shower. I don't want a bunch of people that don't care about me pretending that they do. My hubby and I are just going about our business preparing for the baby alone. I would rather have it that way than to have a bunch of unwanted drama during my pregnancy. I'm sad that I won't get the fun memories of a shower, but no memories are better than bad ones, right?
2007-06-27 00:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Erin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So take care of it. Maybe you should do your own baby shower after all it is for your baby not you and even if you are out a little money by doing it yourself it will be a lot less then paying for all that baby stuff you can get from the shower, and you will definitely Know it will end up the way you want it to be. So go ahead and register somewhere great and have fun.
2007-06-27 00:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by snapdragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband think? Maybe you should get him involved into contributing some of the input and the decision making. If you are uncomfortable with your mother-in-law, tell you husband to deal with her and not to make you a baby shower. She is his mom not yours, so you shouldn't be stressing out about it because of her witch attitude. It is your baby that you are carrying and you have every right to decide where the shower should be. Go with the people that make you most comfortable.
2007-06-27 00:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by maestra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well go ahead and have it! I would just ask some people from YOUR side of the fam to bring some sort of dish, wether it just be finger foods or whatever! Or u can forget about ur mother in law and say soemone from ur side is goin to have one for ya! And go with ur side of the fam!
Yeah and u def want to have a baby shower..u get a llot of things u will need and it saves ya sooo much money...lol
well best of luck to ya hope it all works out for ya!
congrats on the baby!
2007-06-27 00:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by woohooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband's side of the family did everything - the baby shower should be held for you not by you! you're the mommy not the host. they are acting in poor taste! If you want to have a baby shower just with some close friends than just throw a picnic and tell them each to bring their favorite child-hood dish and make a party out of it. There you go.
2007-06-27 00:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by christie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel so sorry for you. What a bunch of inconsiderate, ignorant people you have in your life. Your mother or sister if you have one should throw it for you and ask the others to help. No one person should have to pay for it all. Your husband needs to step up and be a man and talk to mommy and tell her to do her part and stop being a witch. If this keeps up too long with everyong being lazy waiting for the other one to do it, I'd definitely tell them to Forget it! I'd say don't bother, I don't want any of you to be put out for your grandchild. They are being so childish and selfish. If I knew you, I'd throw you one. Don't let them ruin your pregnancy, it should be a joyous time.
2007-06-27 00:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The godmother should give you the shower and anyone who wants to help should be more than happy to help. Planning a Baby Shower is a lot of work and takes a lot of time so get a move on things.
2007-06-27 00:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tangerrayy1021 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is. But I would let her do whatever crappy thing she wants to do for you, and then see if your mother will throw you one for your side of the family and your friends. sounds like your mother in law is being a real witch about it all. But I wouldn't bring any food or drinks, let it be some crappy event that she threw for you, with whoever she invited, and then let the real party be with your family that your mother can throw for you.
2007-06-27 00:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋