How can you get a relative to move out nicely if you can?

Question

Hi. Not enough room to post the whole story. My question is for my inlaw's boyfriend. Things are not working out. Gets
mad/fustrated at my baby. Don't like I am up late. Seems to have a quick temper I belive. I don't know him.Tried to talk to them about it and suggest some nice alternitives, but he refuses. Didn't barley want to hear about them. Says not used to kids, knew I had baby that cries! I told him about it all up front. I listened to his reasons but they seemed not valid to me, but I agreed to keep the peace.But the deal is that this is upsetting me after only couple of days. I don't want to throw them out with no place to go and she getting mad at me and probally try to relaliate. My hubby agrees with me on this. I just want it to be nice. Tried explaining that to em. I think I been fair. It is my place after all. Says respects all that, but y is he acting this way? Says he needs time to get used 2 it. Y he move in if he not comfortable? Just trying to help em in a pinch.

Answer 1

Sounds like their "pinch" is going to be a lifelong pattern because they do not know how to behave.

Your job is to provide a home for your baby - not everyone else in the world. Tell them you meant well, but they are obviously not happy, and neither are you. The atmosphere in the home is stressed and your baby is more important.

Tell them they have 3 days. If you think you will have trouble, check with your police and see what the laws are about having them removed. Also, take care to hide your valuables, because if they behave the way you have portrayed them, they will swipe something on the way out just for revenge.

Answer 2

Your house, your rules. If he doesn't like them, he can find another place. That's it. Period.
You are doing him a favor. He's a BF of an in-law? Not even family. He should be on his best behavior as a guest in your house. I assume he isn't paying rent.
If he is, then you guys have to figure out what's fair to both parties. Keep a record of any violations of the rental agreement, as you may end up taking him to court to get him evicted. Make friends with your court clerk.
Either way, give him enough notice before you throw the bum out. 2 weeks to a month ought to do. Just watch your stuff if you think he'll retaliate.

Answer 3

Your husband should approach the subject with his family member. He should tell them that he does not mind them staying for a short period of time, but that this is your home and that you have a child. If they want to continue to stay, some ground rules need to be set. First of all, the baby does cry sometimes, secondly, we enjoy going to bed late sometimes. If those things bother you, you will need to find another place to stay as soon as possilble.

There is no way to be overly nice about the situation, but you need to tell your man that it is either he has a talk with them, or you will be looking for another place to stay until they leave!!! There is no reason you or your baby should be uncomfortable in your own home!!

Answer 4

Talk to your husband and see about setting up a time frame in which they must move out!!!! Stick to your guns!!!! Sometimes it is hard to be a b__ch!!! But sometimes you have to be so that people won't walk all over you and they will respect you.
If the inlaws like him so much - let him stay at their house. End of problem!!!!!

Answer 5

tell them nicely your reasons why they should move out or try to comprimise that they should deal with the baby since it is YOUR house. not theirs. be in control!!! good luck wit that. srry if i didnt help. im only 12

Answer 6

It's your place right? Well he'll have to deal with it or get his own place then he can call the shots! babies cry some more then others, the nerve of him!

Answer 7

Sometimes you have to dispence with the niceties and take care of business... especially if they are at odds with your family...

"Take a hike" might work nicely

Answer 8

just say it nicely