What's your opinion.......?

Question

I'm pregnant with my second child and I just turned 18. I have heard alot of bad things. I'm just wondering what all of you think about the matter.

My soon-to-be-husband and I are getting married after this little one is born, we have our own house, we have our own cars, we both have pretty good jobs, and we both finished high school.

Does that make it any better for all you haters?

I guess I didn't word my question quite right...I was just wondering what everyone thought of young parents...but THANKS for ALL the SUPPORT!

I knew what to expect, but I was just seeing what people thought about the matter now as opposed to a year ago. And, let me tell you, MOST **uh-hem uh-hem** people are much more excepting then they were a year ago....

Answer 1

If you are happy with your life, why try to make everyone happy? That is pretty impossible. Look, you can divide people in three equal groups, this always happens.... you'll have:

1-People who agree with you
2-People who disagree with you
3-Undecided people.

This means you will ALWAYS find people who are against you or your points of view. Why bother trying to make them happy? That is a waste of time.

What you are doing is being responsible and mature. You are so much better than those girls who have sex and then go and kill their babies aborting them. I admire you for taking care of your family like you are doing at such young age.

If they are going to judge you about your age and your life they are just not worth your friendship or consideration. Just ignore them and be happy. You are young and have a family.... turn to those who support and love you.
The rest of them can eat sh*t.
And die.

Answer 2

I had my first child at 18 and my second at 21. I'm not saying that it's exactly wise for young people to go out and make babies before they have even settled into life but I'm also not going to judge a parent based solely upon their age. I have seen a lot of "older" parents who are no better at caring for their child than a 10 year old would do. If you and your soon to be husband love each other and take very good care of your children then live your life. It's hard to ignore others comments and judgments especially when they include questioning our love or care for our children but let them be consumed by their ignorance rather than allow them to drag you down as well.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you and your partner are getting it together, and heading in the right direction. Good Job. I don't agree with having children so young, nor do I before marriage. BUT....that's already said and done now, and you have two precious lives now, and you'll have many hard times as well as many wonderful times. Stick it out, be the Best parents you can be, and be open and loving to one another as a couple. YOU are an adult now officially even though you chose to live as one before hand. I Wish you all the best =)

Answer 4

I've never 'hated' people who started their lives before graduating high school. I think that it's just an awkward subject because the 'traditional' thing to do is to graduate HS, go to college, get high paying jobs, and start a family in the suburbs.
Some people hate because someone doesn't fit their mold or necessarily do things the same way they do.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have accomplished so much. I am really happy for you. I have never been a hater to young parents, even though it breaks my heart sometimes but I get so happy when I hear stories like this. That you are really doing okay. I think that if you keep working hard like this, you'll end up with a beautiful life. So many answerers are going to say: YOUR TOO YOUNG. but isnt that a little late? accept her for who she is people!

Answer 6

Why would I hate you I don't even know you, so you've made some mistakes in your life so what who hasn't . I wish you nothing but happiness and good luck. And I think it's great you finished school. I hope you raise your children to be good citizens and to look for the good in people instead of the bad.

Answer 7

Well I would think it would have been preferable if you had waited a few years before you got married and then had children afterwards. But if things are working out for you as they seem to be, then I wouldn't worry what other people say. Good luck to you and your family!

Answer 8

For "all us haters?" Do you think, that people, who "hate" you are sitting by their computers waiting for your messages?
OK, you have a house, cars and jobs and you both finished high school. You sound like a normal family, so, what do you want? A medal? There is another hundred million couples like you and your "soon-to-be" in this country, so you are just a normal, average family and you do not get a medal for this.
Now, shut up and get on with your life.

Answer 9

Getting married to a guy just because you have his kids is a pretty dumb idea. It won't work out in the long run. You're 18, way too young to be married, regardless if you two have jobs (I'm curious to know if they are good jobs) or not. I'm not trying to be a jerk, but this has happened to too many people I know. The best thing you can do for your kids is provide for them, if you're boy friend is helping, great, but don't rush into marriage, it won't end well for you.

Answer 10

I applaud you big time and give you my congratulations. At least you are taking your responsibilities seriously and not blaming others. You are a good example to other young people out there.