My dad's in trouble with the governemnt. Not serious going to jail trouble its just his construction company is at the threat of being shut down... Its been like this for about 6 months.. My dad's really stressed my mom's really stressed.... My dads made wonderful income and also he might have to pay a fine in the hundreds of thousands to millions... Im only 14 my parents have also been fighting alot... Not hitting, but just FIGHTING alot verbally.. Aruging, I really feel for my dad. Sometimes I feel my mom nags him too much and thinks hes doing something wrong... What should I do? To get away from this? I dont want to get involved cause I get in trouble and scolded if I get involved... I feel scared and worried that my dad will commit sucide because hes being driven crazy by my mom sometimes. I feel like my mom is the culprit. I love her and all, but shes just so overprotective and so on with my dad.... I just dont know what to do... I feel stressed out....
2007-06-28 16:58:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My younger sibling whose 12 is okay with this shes fine.. shes strong.. I just feel im more emotional and take things seriously. My baby brother whose almost 3 is okay most of the time too... He probably doesnt know. I just sometimes am worried.... I feel I am very emotional and want whats best for my family... My dad is so busy.. my mom is really stressed and worried... We were suppose to move to a brand new wonderful house but because of this problem we cannot yet.. We have to live on rent in a small tight squeezed up house... My dad is not a criminal or something I just think he violated some rules... Truthfully, this last year my mom has been quite mean to me. Constantly nagging me for not studying all the time, not getting in shape (im a fatty)... It seems like she puts all her anger out on me or my sister.. She loves the younger one too much to do that to him... I just dont know what to do.. What should i do? How do I get away?
2007-06-28 17:02:17 · update #1
You have got to hang in there. None of what's going on is your fault. Don't take responsibility for it, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Your mom is probably stressed out for everyone especially her children who I assume she loves to death just like I love my own children. Don't get caught up in playing the blame game. You have to keep yourself busy. Read some books, now that the summer is here maybe you could visit a long distance relative and stay with them for a couple of weeks just to unwind and be a kid again. Do you play sports? maybe you could go see a psychologist or psychiatrist to express yourself. Good luck!
2007-06-28 17:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ann D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds so very scary and stressful for you! I know a little what your parents are going through- my brother has a construction company and is haveing some major issues with the government also. It makes them fight because they are scared too! Sometimes a really little stupid mistake can snowball into a huge problem when the government is involved!
Okay, kiddo, here's my advice, for what it's worth: Stop eating in reaction to the stress- it is really not healthy for you. Do your homework like you are supposed to- one less thing for mom to worry about. If you need help, see if any teachers at school can sit with you during lunch or after school at least for the time being until things cool down at home.
Get a job. Paper route, babysitting, mowing the lawn for the neighbors. It will get you out of the house more and give you some spending money instead of asking your parents.
Make sure you tell them both that you love them. Often.
And last but not least, write them a letter. Tell them how frightened this situation makes you feel. Do not blame them but rather just explain how you feel. Maybe they need to see how they are affecting you and it will be a wake up call to stop the arguing!
No matter what happens, it is not your doing or your fault. You can only love them and be supportive as best you can.
2007-06-29 00:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell that your parents are very stressed, so whatever you do, DON'T get involved in their fights. They will take their anger out on you, even though you are innocent. Start doing random favors for your parents, that should make them more happy. Watch out for your brother and sister and things should be better. best of luck!!!
2007-06-29 00:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by bored1800 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, people don't go to jail for violating rules, they go to jail for breaking the law. your mom has a right to be mad,unless you have endless other money coming in or another family member that will be taking care of your family, her life and kids life as you know it now or knew is about to end. your mom will probably have to get a job and there will be alot of changes in your house. you are old enough to know this. you ought to sit down with your mom, when your dad is not around and say to your mom that you are there to help, and want to honestly know what is going on. your dad might go to federal prison or not, but people change and things will change between your dad & family, don't right him off and get off your moms back.
2007-06-29 00:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by jeanniep 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋