I"m going through some rough times :( help!?

Question

OK heres the "deal" my parents are divorced and my dad has fallen in love ( again) and she loves him back so they become boyfriend girlfriend, and my dad my brother and I are living in a 5 bedroom house 3 bathroom house, ( but we could only live there for a year cuz we were " house sitting it " and we had to move we couldn't find a place so we decided were moving into my dads girlfriends place. and she has 3 kids, as the days past by i feel like hes getting closer to his girlfriend but drifting away from me, i feel unwanted. how can i stop this feeling?

ps. I'm only ten years old
pps i live with my mom too we swich off days

Answer 1

Dont try to stop the feeling because then it will come back and you wont knwo how to deal with it. go to your dad and tell him how you feel , he may not even realize that it seems like that to you he loves you and cares abotu you so talk to him and tell him how you feel. i hope you feel better and that it all works out! =]

Answer 2

It's hard when you're stuck in the middle. Try to get your dad to spend a "family time" with just you and him. Ask him if you could go somewhere together, just the two of you--even if it's to the park to kick a soccer ball around or something, anything. Then, when you get some time with just you and your dad, tell him how you've been feeling about the whole situation lately. Right now, it sounds like you're currect living situation is crowded and that can be part of the problem. I'm sure your dad still loves and wants you very much, but we parents can get stressed out at times too and sometimes may not realize that our kids are feeling the side-effects from that!

Answer 3

You should tell your dad how you feel and I know what your going through because the same thing happened to me. But when I tryed talking to my dad he always told me he didn't have time so if he says that maybe write him a note and put it some where that he will find. I'm sure your not unwanted everything just hasn't fell into place yet, but once everything settles down things could get better. But I would say try and talk to him and see if that changes anything. If it doesn't just remember one thing that your dad does love you no matter what and sometimes it may not feel like that, but Im pretty sure he does. And if talking to him doesn't work at least you know you tried. But you could also consider the note thing. I hope everything works out and just stay strong and remember that God is always there for you.

Answer 4

Your feelings are quite normal. Your life changed once when your parents divorced and then again when your dad (and you) moved in with someone new. Even adults have problems with this level of change.

Talk to your dad about how you're feeling. When you do this, it is important to pick "a point of non-conflict". Find a time when you and your dad have the time to talk and won't be interrupted. Don't try to discuss the issue when you (or your dad) are especially tired or busy and don't bring it up when you're fighting about something else. My pastor recommends being direct...tell your dad that you need to talk to him about something important and ask him when he thinks would be the best time.

When that time comes, be honest and open with your dad. Tell him how you feel. Focus on YOUR feelings NOT his behavior. Don't say "Dad, you're spending too much time with her", say "Dad, I feel like you're drifting away from me" or "Dad, I feel sad that we aren't as close as we used to be".

One idea for changing directions to help you stop this feeling would be to ask your dad to schedule some time with just you every week. Call it "date night" if you're a girl (a term used by married people but works for you too or call it "guys night out" if you're a boy). Date nights don't have to be expensive, you could agree to go for a walk, go to the park, eat dinner out somewhere...anything that you both enjoy that gives you a chance to talk.

It can be very hard to open up to someone and tell them how you feel, especially at your age. I'll say a prayer that God will give you the strength to be open and honest with your dad and that he'll respond as any loving father should!

Answer 5

I'm 26 and still going through it. Parents got divorced when I was 7. It's a crappy thing to deal with - it's lifelong. Just ask him for some time alone together. Hopefully he will. I missed out on years with my dad and now he's leaving for Afghanistan. It's hard to accept what you want is not always what it is. Adjust - figure out the best ways to cope. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. And remember he still loves you - amongst many other people.

Answer 6

This is a rough time and I definately feel for you. Try being honest and talking to your dad about how you feel. This is a new time for him too, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to lose his relationship with you. Try suggesting a day once a month when just the two of you can do something special together. Also try spending time with him and his girlfriend, and becoming friends with her. I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 7

First of all, I am sorry that you feel lefted-out. I am sure that your dad doesn't intentionally means to make you feel this way. I hope things get better for you. The best advice I can give you would just be talk to him and let him know how you feel about whats happening. Good luck. Have a Happy Fourth of July and hope I helped. ☺

Answer 8

1) Seek the advice of your guidance counsler at your school or an adult who is easy to talk to who knows your situation well (this person should not be your mother.)

2) Make a meeting between your father, your father's girlfriend, your mother, and yourself. In this meeting, tell them your feelings, and if look into your father's girlfriend's eyes and tell her that you feel left out since you moved in with her.

3) If it is not possible to make a meeting, do it secretly with the help of an adult (not your mother.) Tell your father and his girlfriend one thing, and your mother another. You get the idea. You have to have this discussion in order to create any peace in your household.

4) If this discussion does not work, try moving in with your mother full-time and going on visits every month with your father.

Good Luck and Stay Safe!

Answer 9

i see how this must be difficult for you. it seems like a complicated situation but the only way forward seems to be to talk to you dad and tell him how you're feeling. the worst thing you could do is to bottle up your feelings because then he will never know how this is affecting you. it is easiest to tackle the problem when it first surfaces, otherwise, you just become more and more deeply involved in it and find it really difficult to get out. wish you all the best

Answer 10

when we adults fall in love we do silly things. But we never forget our children, just let him know u r happy for him and all get along and u can't go wrong, life is all about putting up with things we like and dislike, but we have to love one another and support each other, when mums and dads split it hard for everyone especially u, but it does not mean to say we feel no pain too. Just let all know u love them and will try yr best.