Family - September 2007

My father has a tendency to put me down. He does it jokingly but I have asked him not to. It is always embarrassing and degrading. The last time he did it, I told him it was offensive. He has chosen now for 3 weeks to ignore me and my child. I don't live with him but his behavior has made it difficult for me to see the rest of my family. Is there any way to make him grow up? Also, how can I get over it. He is such an *** and I'd love it if I just didn't care about him. My life would be much easier. I'm the only one of his 5 children that he puts down.

2007-09-27 10:29:28 · 5 answers · asked by Sport 2

my mom went in to the doctor to see if she had breast cancer. she asked me what i thought. i dont know what to say cause if i say i think it will be fine than she will think i dont care ( it is how she is) and if i say dont stress on it........ idk i need help

2007-09-27 10:27:57 · 28 answers · asked by yourdeadmeat 2

Hi i have recently read a short story which consists of the human issue of family conflict

Son “My mother is dead but I have another old woman in her place”
Father: “When he shouts his voice breaks high like a woman.”

After a tragic incident (mother died) conflict arose as niether charcter is able to express there 'real' feelings towards each other.

Both charcters 'son' and 'father' miss the mother terribly. They blame each other for her death. So why are the criticising each other for acting like woman!

2007-09-27 10:22:43 · 2 answers · asked by Herp-da-Derp 5

2007-09-27 10:18:56 · 7 answers · asked by babigurl 1

i watach a lot of csi criminal minds and bones, my 4 month old occasionally glances to the tv while i nwatch, will my hobby grow into his habbit, worried mother

2007-09-27 09:58:19 · 5 answers · asked by Akush 1

I feel so bad today. I got Halo 3, which you would think is a good thing because I am now a 15 year old boy. But, my dad waited, the day it came out, 6 or 7 hours just to get it for me. He went out of his way just to make me happy on my birthday. He had a surgery very recently, and I feel so bad. He said it was nothing, what should I do to make it up to him?

2007-09-27 09:40:30 · 11 answers · asked by dsbag 1

For those of you who answered my question the other day, Thank you. I have to tell you what has just happened. My grandparents escaped assisted living and the police are out looking for them. We have to go pick them up when the police call because the assisted living facility wont take them back. Now we have to pay to move them back into the house and we have to send my grandfather up north to live with his kids. She cant take care of him. She cant even take care of herself. She hasnt taken a bath in weeks. Im just so irritated right now. I just need to vent. I am so irritated with them right now.

2007-09-27 09:27:36 · 2 answers · asked by Bridget 3

My son's father and I have been separated for about 10 years now, our son is going to be 12 in December. My son's dad , Jason, is on his second marriage and has 4 other kids by 3 different women since we split ( we are both in our early 30's) I have only my one child by him and remained single up until recently. When Jason found out that I am in a relationship again he said that he was jealous .
Jason only picks up our son when it is good for him,(I have control over visitation because he would either not show or cancel all the time. I ALWAYS let our son go with him whenever he and our son agree on it.) Jason lives about two hours from us and uses that as an excuse but picks up his one daughter all the time, she lives 15 minutes from us. He pays child support whenever, pretty much when I say that I am tired of him not helping and mention court. Last night I said that he need to pay child support again and that I am tired of him not being there for our son.

2007-09-27 09:18:56 · 7 answers · asked by kellylee 2

2007-09-27 08:59:48 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda G 1

I'm sure every teenager goes through it, but.. they sure don't show it. I've gotten to the point where I feel like my mom mentally abuses me. I have no idea where to begin. She spends her days working different hours(court reporter), and the rest curled up in a book, knitting, or playing IE Scrabble. When we're in the car, she tells me to take my iPOD off to talk to her, but she ends up getting on the phone. If she's in a bad mood, she takes her anger out on making me do extra, or yelling at me with no paitence. I used to get good grades, but lately, I haven't. She tries to tell me- You're not a retard, so why is that what your grades are telling me? She's so quick to assume that if something isn't right, it was my fault. And, half the time, it isn't. I mean, my FIRST 4 & a half weeks interim for high school came today, and I lettered D in Math, and Spanish. I can't explain to her that both are going up, and even if I do, she doesn't listen.

2007-09-27 08:57:58 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 39. I've with this guy for 5 years, and we have a 3 year old son. For the first year everything was just right, but like after a year or so everything just got worse. We argue for stupid ****, every time that we have a conversation we end up screaming to each other, saying real bad things to each other. Sometimes I feel that we have to separate, and move on, I don't love him like I used to. Like I said, everything changed. What should I do???????????

2007-09-27 08:49:26 · 31 answers · asked by mac 2

The mother all along thought her son was a very innocent by, a good boy, a decent boy, and there in his closet are hidden these things. He even talks rudely to her these days. The son is single, student, works part time, and is semi dependent on his parents financially.

2007-09-27 08:38:27 · 48 answers · asked by serena 1

My son is 11 years old and is lately getting into a really bad place of doing spiteful things to my partner. He will purposely not do things he is asked to do liek clean up his room or when he is toldnot to do something he will do it anyway. He does not act like this with me and when I ask him about it he just shrugs me off and wont have an answer for me. It is really becoming a soft spot in our relationship because he is feeling very disrespected and although I do not take up for my sons behavior he is growing increasingly frustrated and so am I... Any suggestions??

2007-09-27 08:07:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay well i live in NY wth my mom and i want to move to my dad's in michigan but my mom wont let me. i am very depressed in ny and my stepdad is an alcoholic. im tired of seeing her hurt and it hurts me to see the fights. i have to get away from here, because im becming depressed. is there a law that at a certain age a child can decide which parent they want to live with?im 14 and i dont want to bring this to court and have a big argument. i also dont want to tell my dad about my family problems in ny. please help! i will choose a best answer!

2007-09-27 07:37:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad has no trust in me whatsoever. He won't even walk to the library afterschool, which is five minutes away from my school... I really need to earn some trust. Any suggestion. Also, he says I have a really bitchy attitude, I agree sort of. Any ideas on how to control my attitude?

2007-09-27 07:34:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

When your in a meeting and really have to fart how do you hide it.Do you cough or sneeze or let it out.Tell me now

2007-09-27 07:17:10 · 12 answers · asked by alex o 2

Such as cleaning, washing dishes after dinner, helping with homework, any ideas would help.

2007-09-27 07:15:47 · 7 answers · asked by Brandie 3

drugs, guys come and go. and those two things are her umber one priority i moved out due to this issue but its hard to just sit there and watch my brothhers suffer but i dont know what to do?

2007-09-27 06:35:47 · 10 answers · asked by Elizabeth J 1

I am finding it hard to handle my teenage daughter. She is 15 and does not want to cooperate with me for anything.

She refuses to get up on time or study when she should. Then, she cries because she did not get anything done.

She was living with her father from age 10 to 15 and I had a chance to reunite with him, but did not. He said that I could not handle our daughter alone. I wonder if he was right.

I can not get my daughter to work with me for anything. She ended up not going to her part-time job today because she wasted the whole evening last night and did not study for a test that is Friday. She pinches me and says, "Why did I not study?" Then, she wets the bed at night. This was a problem for her earlier.

Have I caused her too much stress by moving out from my parents and not reuniting her with her father? I hate to beg her to do things, but I end up doing that.

I am at my wits end????

2007-09-27 05:30:06 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My parents and I were invited to my cousin's wedding but a few days prior, my mother fell and broke her arm. She had to have surgery and had a serious reaction to the pain meds and she was very sick for a few days.
My parents decided it would be too hard for her to travel the 5 hours to the wedding, and she called to tell them what happend and we couldn't make it.
A couple of days ago at a family event, my cousin and his wife went out of their way to embarass my mother and my Dad in front of our relatives for what they felt was a poor excuse for not attending the wedding. My mother is heartbroken and very upset over this.
Is there anything we did wrong or that we could do to amend things? We sent them a big check in the mail too.
PS- my cousin has a rep for having a temper.
Sorry for the long story!

2007-09-27 05:24:30 · 19 answers · asked by /\|][/| 4

what should i do my ex and i have been looking for a place cause im 18 and my parents say i have to be out by the 1st but we can't find a place we have been looking but his past apartments say that hes not a good renter or something i need a roomate cause i don't make enough money and im still going to school what should i do i don't have anywhere to go if they kick me out.

2007-09-27 05:13:13 · 4 answers · asked by Angeldoll 1

Here's the dilemma
he cusses and yells as loud as possible at my daughter but never yells and screams at his two boys in the same way or as loud as he does her. She's his step daughter and he says he dont like her ways. But seriously, she is so sweet and would give her right arm to anyone even him if needed. She can just get on his nerves just by talking to me and he blows off at her. I'm afraid that one day she will either hate me for it ( for not leaving) or she will eventually run away to my sisters or possibly grow up to be a miserable, sick minded,suicidal person. I'm telling y'all this because I really want to know what your opinions are as to helping him control this anger. His sons can tear stuff up(lawn care equipment: serious stuff), not mind rules, dress like thugs, not do their chores or help around the house and he wont say anything but if he does it aint yelling! Now he does cuss at them every once in a while but not like he does her over little things.

2007-09-27 04:39:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

moved in to house from my council house together 5 years ago,we both work so all bills are shared as well asbying all goods in house together,

2007-09-27 04:06:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 14 years old. My foster bro is 12. He is a good kid, and I like him (as a foster bro you perve :P) Anyways, we usually get along, but sometimes, and I dont know why, he just gets on my nerves and I freak out and start acting really mean. And I mean REALLY MEAN. I don't hit him or anything though. But after he leaves for school or whatever, I feel really bad. I've tried stopping myself when I start acting mean but it doesn't work. I don't know, maybe I'm just not trying hard enough...Any suggestions? Thanks for your time.

2007-09-27 03:51:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think this is a good idea? I have heard of cases where an abuser was confronted by their victim, but the victim ended up being more upset afterwards because the molester denied everything, and tried to make the victim think she was crazy and "imagining" things.

That made me think to myself, is this a good idea. Should a child abuse survivor confront the abuser, or should they just move on with their life through therapy and whatever else.

I was molested as a child, and I haven't seen the abuser in years. I don't even know if I would recognize him if I see him, but I always wondered to myself, if I had the opportunity to see him again, what would I say? Would I confront him about it, or would I just keep walking like I didn't see him? What he did to me as a child still affects me today, but I have learned to "get over it". If I confronted him, would that open old wounds, and bring back memories of things I don't want to remember??

What are your thoughts on this?

2007-09-27 03:40:45 · 11 answers · asked by CJ 4

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aseimpvhz47AXAn03tGVBD3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070925105637AALjmY5

Please read the previous question to get more insight into this one, thanks!

Okay... after reading the answers to the previous question I talked to my boyfriend and gave him my insight. He told me that his parents have already discussed everything at that his MOM, who has been a housewife for 20 years now is going to move out of their home. She has no source of income for herself and though she seems to think it is okay, it just seems wrong to be putting her out like that. Anyway, the problem I see is that if she leaves there will be nobody to take care of the "home", and though my boyfriend has a good relationship with both of his parents, I just can't see him and his dad being okay by themselves (eating healthy, keeping things clean). When I said that, he excitedly said that when his mom moves out I should move in! Honestly it would get me out of and enviornment I'm not...

2007-09-27 03:40:31 · 3 answers · asked by ♥Infatuation 3

We are a united family, we dont drink, smoke or do drugs at all. I kind of understand this as a stage in his develpoment, but sometimes it gets so hard to deal with him. Besides, my wife seems to take sides with him, in other words, I'm ALWAYS the wrong one. What to do?

2007-09-27 03:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Dr NO 5

I lost my mom two years ago. 9/11/05 to breast cancer.. I was 15 at the time... Yes I was torn when she passed, but it wasn't like her death was a surprise. Six months before, my mom was incapable of moving that we sort of lived living without her help. I live with 3 other guys in the house and although none of us really get along, we tried our best to be happy in my mothers eyes; for its wat she wanted. Many people now see me and have always asked me if I'm doing fine; I tell them I am and they think Im lying or some crap like that. It's as if because I don't cry when they talk about her, I'm tryin to say to others that I really dont think she died at all or that im hidin all my true feelings.. I dont cry, one because in my house of men, there really never was reason to. Two, because me as an individual, I don't feel like emotion should overcome a certain situation.

Anyway, wat should I do to let others know.. I'm FINE.

2007-09-27 03:24:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you suppose that we enforce rules and responsibility without being able to spank or yell at a child. Time out, grounding,take things away, not buying them things that they want? Come on these thing don't really work? at least not in my opinion. But then we all gripe about the kids getting worse in this day and time! Whats wrong with a butt woopin' every once in a while (ages 4-11)? What are we supposed to do after this age? CPS says we cant spank or yell at them. But when they dont stay in the room, walk out, laugh in your face, and do what ever the hell they want to do. What can we do as parents in this situation? what do ya'll think?

2007-09-27 03:06:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

it is definatley his baby as we knew she was expecting but was told that she had had a termination, my son is in the navy and is based in scotland, she was a bit older than him, (he is 23) and he told her he wasnt ready to be a dad, she obviously couldnt go through with it and now wants him to have the option of getting to know his daughter. I cannot contact him as he is a sub-mariner and is at sea till the end of November, but what do I do in the meantime?? Do I get to know her and be a part of her life, (as I am her grandmother after all) knowing that it will be impossible for my son to visit regularly, even if he wants to, which I dont know yet. She is my first grandchild, (I'm 43) the ex girlfriend is now a single mother of 2, her other child is 4 and I am at a complete loss as to what to do for the best......help!!

2007-09-27 02:52:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous