2007-09-27 10:18:56 · 7 answers · asked by babigurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, do you know the reason why she gave you up? Maybe she couldn't afford to buy the things you need, or that she has some other complications. She could've done it so that you can have a better life than being with her. You should definitely have some time to talk with her and catch up. By understanding her situation, you'll make a better choice. Good luck!
2007-09-27 10:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe she may be trying to use you as a tool just to get money from your dad.
If you go and live with her, she may file for child support and he will have to pay big $$$'s. That is money that he will no longer have to support you like he has done all these years and there is no guarantee that she will support you that well with his money. After all, she gave you up to him many years ago.
What makes you think that she's all that keen on suddenly having a "strange child" in her home that she showed she had little interest in?
Stay with your dad. He's raised you all these years and I'm sure by now he likes having you around. Don't leave him. He will feel rejected and very hurt that you left and will always wonder what he did that was so wrong to make you want to leave and go live with a person who is a stranger to you and who didn't want you.
You can get to know her without living with her just like you would with anyone else. Just because she gave birth to you doesn't mean that she has some sort of attachment to you.
She may be trying to deal with her own guilt of having gave you up.
Don't let her use you as a weapon against your father or to suck money out of him.
Best Wishes
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2007-09-27 20:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your dad, because she is knowing to do it again!
Same here but I live with my mother and my father and I tried to know each other but it didn't work. Guess he cant handle a girl in his live...he has 3sons and me.
If you do go see her ask her questions like why did you leave me and why are you waiting this long for? and if she don't answer the then say why the f^ck come back for me if you cant tell me the truth
2007-09-27 17:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by savanna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Honey. Get to know her and stay with Dad. If you live far away, she can come see you, write, email and phone calls. Give her a chance though!
2007-09-27 17:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get to know her, then get to know her. But be wary. Stay with your father of course. If you want have a visit with her WITH your father so that you don't feel so uncomfortable.
2007-09-27 17:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know her....but stay with Dad.
2007-09-27 17:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by honey3737 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you really should
she probally has a good reason to come back
and i bet she loves you lots
2007-09-27 18:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by mOLLy sUe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋