My parents and I were invited to my cousin's wedding but a few days prior, my mother fell and broke her arm. She had to have surgery and had a serious reaction to the pain meds and she was very sick for a few days.
My parents decided it would be too hard for her to travel the 5 hours to the wedding, and she called to tell them what happend and we couldn't make it.
A couple of days ago at a family event, my cousin and his wife went out of their way to embarass my mother and my Dad in front of our relatives for what they felt was a poor excuse for not attending the wedding. My mother is heartbroken and very upset over this.
Is there anything we did wrong or that we could do to amend things? We sent them a big check in the mail too.
PS- my cousin has a rep for having a temper.
Sorry for the long story!
2007-09-27 05:24:30 · 19 answers · asked by /\|][/| 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would have opened my mouth right back and repeated why you could not make it. Maybe you should stop payment on that check.
2007-09-27 05:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by sjl6987 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew what was actually going on with your mom and dad. You should pull your cousin aside and give her the what-for. She had no right to embarrass your mom and dad like that. If your cousin thinks it's a poor excuse then show her the proof and then make her look like a fool for doing this. If you have to then just kick her butt and get it over with. Boy if it were me, I sure would because my motto is: Nobody had better talk bad about my parents or there will be some serious repocussions.
2007-09-27 13:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Karen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you did anything wrong. Since it was only your mother who was injured & got sick by it, I suppose that the rest of you could have attended without her, but there could be other circumstances that you didn't include here.
Of course it was your decision, & I don't see any reasonable cause for why your cousin couldn't respect that.
Now is there anything you can do about it?
Well, I guess the only thing that you can do is accept that your cousin is a jerk, & if he does jerky things like this, then what happened was a predictable outcome.
So accept that this is how things happened, & this is how your cousin reacted to it, & move on.
Next!
2007-09-27 12:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you could have done, except made your mother sicker than she already was. You are not the ones to amend anything. They are the ones that are rude, and ungracious. I would distance myself from this ungrateful people. I also would not accept any invitations from them, and would not give an excuse for not being there. When asked I would just say you have another engagement and cannot attend. Your cousin will learn that her temper will get in trouble, because not everyone will put up with it.
2007-09-27 12:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom already apologized for not being able to make it, and sent a nice gift. Tell Mom all the other relatives understand why she couldn't be there. Cousin Rude and his ugly wife are the ones who should be embarrassed because the rest of the family are probably talking about them and their bad behavior. Eventually you will have the opportunity to tell them how you feel about what they did to Mom. Revenge is sweet.
2007-09-27 12:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something you can do... realize your cousin is a total idiot and that she has a tendency to react badly to situations. realize you can't control what she says or does, and also, realize everyone who knows her is fully aware of her attitudes and behaviors.
Your mother didn't break her arm on purpose and she did not miss the wedding on purpose. Your cousin, on the other hand, is an ungrateful b|tch who has little compassion (see? i don't' like her already!)
Your parents didn't have to send them a large gift of money, but they did... See how people like your cousin show their appreciation? And gee, i bet she cashed the check too!
Your family will be better off avoiding situations with her. And please, tell your mother not to be upset about it...she is better off to worry about more important things... and i hope she recovers from her broken arm soon.
2007-09-27 13:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, the cousin publicly humiliated your parents because her severe injury caused them to back off of their acceptence of the wedding invitation?
Cousin owes your parents an abject apology.
It doesn't sound likely, however.
A bit of coldness toward cousin would be warranted.
Otherwise, all reasonable people who understand what happened will, well, understand why your parents couldn't make it.
Other than registering your disapproval of your cousin's rudeness and unreasonableness, I'd say let it go.
2007-09-27 14:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could do without any contact with this cousin. They sound like loosers!! How did the relatives handle the situation? Did they stick up for your mother? Your mother's health is much more important than anything.
2007-09-27 12:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your cousin is one self-centered ***-hole, no wonder he has a bitchy wife! Your parents should just let this role off their back, if your cousin is to into himself to care about the health of his family members, and him and his new wife act like spoiled brats at a family event then they deserve no apology... or gift for that matter!
2007-09-27 12:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Infatuation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you guys didn't do anything wrong. They should understand medical needs and health issues and if they don't, then they have the issue. They are being selfish to you and your family. Next time, don't allow them to embarras you. They are probably used to calling people out and no one standing up to them...hence the temper. So, just stand your ground and don't let her make you guys second guess your decisions. And cancel the check while you're at it.
2007-09-27 12:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by karamell08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG your cousin is an idiot. If its not too late, I would stop payment on the check. Amend things? Your family did nothing wrong.
2007-09-27 13:43:41 · answer #11 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋