I'm 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 39. I've with this guy for 5 years, and we have a 3 year old son. For the first year everything was just right, but like after a year or so everything just got worse. We argue for stupid ****, every time that we have a conversation we end up screaming to each other, saying real bad things to each other. Sometimes I feel that we have to separate, and move on, I don't love him like I used to. Like I said, everything changed. What should I do???????????
2007-09-27 08:49:26 · 31 answers · asked by mac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what is best for the child. remember that 2 happy homes is better than 1 unhappy home. And dont keep leading your boyfriend on. Its only going to make things worse. You should be straight up and tell him. Maybe he will try to make things better. I know how hard it is, but you cant go on living so unhappy. Best wishes
2007-09-27 09:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by kitamonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that is what happens in relationships sometime, we grow up and apart. Arguing isn't the way to go, you did 5 years, hey you did good, but if it is time to move on, then do it. Things and people do change, you gather up your son and while you might not need a relationship at this time, use the time to get closer to your son, so that you and he can grow in ways you never even imagined. Oh and you are still young, don't dwell on what was and what could be, but continue to live and learn and you will be okay. God Bless.
2007-10-04 22:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Know That You Are Staying For Your Son. But Do You Really Want Your Son To Grow Up Hearing Mommy And Daddy Calling Easc Other Those Names? Do Whats Best For You And Your Son And Find A Hero And Leave That Zero.
2007-10-04 11:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by LALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have hope for your relationship, try to think why both of you are arguing and find what is the problem and then change to fix it. I think both of you need to sit down and have a chat one-on-one time to see if the relationship needs to be work out or end it. Probably both of you are at a different place in your life and it is causing a rift. But, really, sit down and talk it out and make the decision right then and there.
2007-09-27 08:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stay with him just because. If you are sure is not a 5 year itch or the 30 bug that will get better in the next 4 months or so... I'd call it quits not only for me but the child who gets it from the static at home, you not happy, daddy not happy and the arguments it becomes 24/7 sadness for he baby and you. Saying goodbye, its over, is sad, but believe me life goes on. Usually a better one.
2007-10-05 06:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by EEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it always so easy to say "dump the boyfriend/husband" and screw the kids in the process? Can you go to counseling? Can you work on the relationship before ripping your child's life apart.
However, if you can not work out the relationship, then move on. But don't plan on dating or hooking up with anyone anytime soon. You have a son to raise. That's your priority - not another man.
2007-10-04 16:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sundays Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better to split than to have all that arguing around your son. He should be your main concern. Don't make a split bad on him. Work out some kind of arrangement where he will always be # 1 in both of your lives. The child should not be neglected in anyway or mistreated. He should always be No. 1 to both of you to give him the security that he will need in his life.
2007-09-27 08:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like what I have to say, but its reality. It sounds to me like you need to walk away from this relationship or get some counciling. i know that having a child in the mix will make it work, but I think you should try the counciling first if he is up for it then if that doesnt work after 6 months or so, then go. Keep it friendly though for your child. I wish you all the best of luck
2007-09-27 08:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your feelings have changed, what are you waiting for? Leave him!
The older your son gets, the more your fights and raised voices is going to affect him and his development. For the sake of all involved, end it now before something worse happens.
2007-09-27 08:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant say leave. cant say stay. the both of you share something so precious. that's the son. and children that age can sense problems such as yours. your boyfriend needs to realize this as well. the both of u should get 2 gether and act like civilized adults and talk about some type of agreement before things get worse. make it fair not only to yourselves but the blessing GOD has giving on you as well
2007-09-27 09:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Brandon K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋