I am 14 years old. My foster bro is 12. He is a good kid, and I like him (as a foster bro you perve :P) Anyways, we usually get along, but sometimes, and I dont know why, he just gets on my nerves and I freak out and start acting really mean. And I mean REALLY MEAN. I don't hit him or anything though. But after he leaves for school or whatever, I feel really bad. I've tried stopping myself when I start acting mean but it doesn't work. I don't know, maybe I'm just not trying hard enough...Any suggestions? Thanks for your time.
2007-09-27 03:51:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
K, thanks for all the great answers! But I made myself sound like a jerk...I dont mean to brag, but I consider myself a really nice guy...thats why I feel so bad, especially right now for some reason, about when i freak out. I dont scream or anything though. no no no, i dont et mad like that, I act REALLY unfairly. THATS how I freak out. But seriosuly, thanks for the answers so far guys, ill put em to good use
2007-09-27 04:02:00 · update #1
You sound to me like a normal brother. I had two of them and I was not the best brother in the world to them. From a more mature standpoint now that I'm grown. I wish I had taken some of the advice that some of the others have given you. When you feel yourself getting "mean," leave the room, count to twenty (even 100 if you need to), then go back and tell him why he was getting on your nerves. It sounds like you really want to be a good brother, not just a regular guy. You must be a pretty neat guy to even ask this question. May God hold you in the palms of His hands.
2007-09-27 04:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know when you're going to start acting really "mean" then count to 10 before imposing on the act.. And in those 10 seconds remember all the fun you guys have and hopefully that will cross out the mean feelings you have... Hope that helps!!
2007-09-27 10:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by luvfuzz05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have some unresolved anger issues. Don't take it out on him because he's gonna think that's the way you are and he won't like you anymore.
Apologize, tell him that you don't mean to be so mean to him, and when he gets on your nerves, walk away and do something else.
2007-09-27 10:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by medsans1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
brothers and sisters, even foster ones, can feel competitive and argue, or just be plain mean to each other sometimes.
if you want to improve the way you respond to others, STOP, and count to 20 in your mind before you say anything to them...
this gives us time to think about our behavior and it takes practice but it does work!
also, apologizing doesn't hurt either.
2007-09-27 10:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out what wrong with you, not your brother,
better do it soon or people will only remember you as jerk.
2007-09-27 10:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by DSV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try harder
2007-09-27 10:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by fireguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋