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Okay... after reading the answers to the previous question I talked to my boyfriend and gave him my insight. He told me that his parents have already discussed everything at that his MOM, who has been a housewife for 20 years now is going to move out of their home. She has no source of income for herself and though she seems to think it is okay, it just seems wrong to be putting her out like that. Anyway, the problem I see is that if she leaves there will be nobody to take care of the "home", and though my boyfriend has a good relationship with both of his parents, I just can't see him and his dad being okay by themselves (eating healthy, keeping things clean). When I said that, he excitedly said that when his mom moves out I should move in! Honestly it would get me out of and enviornment I'm not...
2007-09-27 03:40:31 · 3 answers · asked by ♥Infatuation 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
happy in, I could help them out, and my boyfriend and I would get the experience of living together... but I don't want do hurt his mom (and I know it would). I have a good relationship with both his parents, especially for being their only son's girlfriend, and I don't want to jeapordize that. What should I do? I want to work with my boyfriend and sort things out, but my only idea is to set up an agreement with his parents, have both of them move out and for us to buy the home my boyfriend already lives in... just so that both of his parents feel they are equal, and it doesn't seem as if my boyfriend is "choosing sides".
2007-09-27 03:45:39 · update #1
We're not trying to fix his parent's problems. We are trying to figure out what to do for ourselves, unfortunately right now it is revolving around his parents spliting up. My boyfriend has a great attitude about it, he was upset at first, but now he seems totally over it (he's not concerned about playing Dr. Phil to help them reconcile, he just wants to move ahead). It could be that he's trying to cover it up... but the great thing is that he's not letting it effect our relationship at all, actually it has made us closer, I think because he understands now what I went through, and can relate to how I feel about certain things.
2007-09-27 03:58:33 · update #2
This is a tough question because there is not just any one right answer. It could be best for him to stay a little longer with his dad, because things are going to change alot when his mom moves out. I would hesitate to move in right away. Give it a little time...his parents might end up getting back together. What would you be expected to "do" for them if you move in? You don't want to be expected to be the one that does all the cooking and cleaning and laundry and all the housework, right? That would not be fair. Just give this situation a little more time would be my advice. You can always move into a place with your boyfriend later.
2007-09-27 06:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just seems like a bad move all the way around to stay in the home that his family lives in. I think if you guys are going to move in together, that you should find a different place to move into.
2007-09-27 03:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to let his parents work out their own problems.
You can't save his parents.
Live your lives and do whatever it is you need to do for YOU. you can't "fix" others.
2007-09-27 03:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋