my mom went in to the doctor to see if she had breast cancer. she asked me what i thought. i dont know what to say cause if i say i think it will be fine than she will think i dont care ( it is how she is) and if i say dont stress on it........ idk i need help
2007-09-27 10:27:57 · 28 answers · asked by yourdeadmeat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks you guys really helped
2007-09-27 10:44:41 · update #1
Like the old saying goes "Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you. Meaning, let's try and not to worry about it until we get the results and then we will handle it then. Good luck!
2007-09-27 10:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by tn2vegas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you think she must be worried and that you are there for her. Tell her that either way, you will stick by her. If it is breast cancer, then you will work together to beat it. If it is not, then you can celebrate together. That is the best that you can do. Perhaps she is scared and wondering if you are.
Hang in there. Most lumps are NOT breast cancer. Tell her you will decide how you feel when the test results come in, but until then, you are hopeful they will be good results.
I wish you both the best. Hang in there. The waiting is the worst.
2007-09-27 17:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is...if she has cancer, it may not be fine. Instead, tell her you love her and will be there for her. Tell her she can be honest with you about her treatment and prognosis. Ask if theres anything you can be doing to make her treatments any easier. Try to imagine how you might feel if you were a sick mom with a young daughter. This would be a great time to show her how well she has raised you, by acting with some maturity. God Bless you both.
2007-09-27 17:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by redmane_at_stargazer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom has cancer. When she found out, she cried on my shoulder because I have it too. I told her that I know everything will turn out fine because I need her so much in my life, and to be there for her grandchildren. I told her that I will hold her hand as much as she wants me or needs me to, and that I will help her be strong. Cancer is a difficult thing to go through, just lay your head on her shoulder and tell her how much you love her. Unfortunately there are no magic words for telling her everything will be okay. Good luck, you and she are in my prayers.
2007-09-27 17:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by journie_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell you are there for her and you will be by her side no matter what happens. research the subject a bit and find some postive facts- like that lots of people fully recover from breast cancer- and also not too worry too much until you know for sure
2007-09-27 17:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughy. I work for an oncologist office. I've seen the sadness of this disease. I think that you should show concern and let her know you think she's going to be fine, but that if something should arise you'll be there for her and that she can make it through no matter what. Best of luck to you and your mom!
2007-09-27 17:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by eeyore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are which also comes into play. You can only be honest and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't believe it then that's her choice and you needn't take on the responsibility for her beliefs. All that we can take responsibility for is our own thoughts and actions. Your mom needs to get professional help to deal with her own insecurities and not lump them onto you.
2007-09-27 17:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is asking than she wants an answer like the other person said "tell her you don't know what to say and then offer to go with her to get the test done.
2007-09-27 19:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by turbocrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are glad she is being checked, that it's very important to do. Tell her you are sure she'll be fine and to try not to worry too much. Say it in a sincere, caring way, not as a brush off.
2007-09-27 17:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her and you hope all goes well.
If she needs support give it to her with a hug and let her know your there for her.
I truly hope everything turns out for the best for you and your mom.
Hope this helped!
2007-09-27 17:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Hugs from Sugar bug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋