The mother all along thought her son was a very innocent by, a good boy, a decent boy, and there in his closet are hidden these things. He even talks rudely to her these days. The son is single, student, works part time, and is semi dependent on his parents financially.
2007-09-27 08:38:27 · 48 answers · asked by serena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You must have had another reason for searching his closet. Possibly looking for drugs? Regardless, since it's your house, you get to tell him you and your husband get 100% say in what comes into the house, and if porn and such aren't allowed, he needs to abide by that or find himself another place to live. If you find it again, you and your husband get to tell him he has 1-2 weeks to find himself another place to live, or you will dump him off at a homeless shelter.
Now if he had his own place, he can have all the porn he wants. My husband and I won't allow certain things to come into our house, and my stepson and other family members know this. I have thrown a few things away, but they already had warning. Now those that disrespected us don't bring those things in the house.
2007-09-27 09:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
2
2016-07-21 11:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jorge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think the mother has a bit of a problem if she is snooping in her son's closet. He's 24 years old, that's old enough to make his own decisions. He probably has had sex before, that doesn't make him a bad son. And he's probably talking rude to her because he has an idea that she has been snooping. I think she invaded his privacy and she should apologize for that. If she is upset that he's doing it in her house, than maybe it's time to talk to him about moving out. Otherwise she must just leave it alone. He's a normal adult.
2007-09-27 08:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by Shauna 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The son is still a grown man, legally an adult, and the mother has no say or control over what he does, even if he is still somewhat dependent on his parents. He's being rude because she disrespected his privacy.
I agree that porn and sex toys are not healthy pastimes and could lead to behavioral issues. However, I have to repeat that he is still a grown man and legally an adult.
I am presuming that he lives with his parents. If he doesn't, Mom way overstepped her bounds by going into his closet.
However, if he is living with his parents, and they don't want that stuff in her house, then they should tell him so and he will have the option to get rid of it or to become fully financially independent and move out.
2007-09-27 08:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
As far as him buying them or reading them they can do nothing he is of age. However if he is living with them and they do not want this stuff in their house then he should follow what they ask. They pay the bills. Thing that kind of bothers me is that she was looking in his closet. Does she go in his room regularly to snoop. He does have some degree of understanding with his privacy. If he is paying rent then it is like having his own apartment and his room should be off limits to the landlord.
2007-09-27 08:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by debbie f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is mom doing going through his closet in the first place?
He is an adult, regardless if he is semi-dependent on mom & dad, you should not invade his privacy like that.
You do nothing - he has every right to a sexuality of his choosing.
The way he talks to you has nothing to do with what he has in his personal belongings, if you don't appreciate his tone, you tell him.
2007-09-27 08:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
that sounds pretty average actually. i'm a 21 year old girl and i have porn. just because he looks at porn does not mean that he is an indecent person. it's natural, especially at his age to want to see that stuff. he's single, and trust me masturbation is a much healthier release than sleeping around. he works and goes to school, which he should be praised for. cut this kid a break and let him have his fun.
p.s.-the last thing you'd want to do is confront him about it, how embarrassing would that be?
2007-09-27 08:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by rawsonofchoice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's 24, not 16. I would worry if he DIDNT have those things hidden in his closet at that age....be lucky he respects the house enough to actually hide them, instead of leaving them proped on his nightstand for everyone to see
2007-09-27 08:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is Twenty-four years old. He is an adult and his sex life is not and should not be the mother's concern. Would you think it appropriate if he went through the mother's closet and questioned her about anything he may find?
2007-09-27 08:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ben H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For one thing he should be out of your house because he is grown and should not be staying in his house. And you should tell him he need to be looking for a place by a certain day like give him a month or two.So he can do what ever he wants if that's him let him keep it but u don't want it in Ur house so make him leave .
2007-09-27 09:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful Helper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋