Family - September 2007

I have a daughter who will be 16 on 10/24/07. I had to have her leave our home beacause she was violent towards my husband and myself. She has been staying with a friend of hers' family. I DON'T want to give custody of her to anyone else. But at this point we are soul tired. Though I am weighed down completely by guilt, I am DONE with the fighting with her. I am ready to give up. Our entire family is at the point where no one will take her in now. They have all had it with her. We are desperate for some legal alternatives.

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Winston, Oregon

2007-09-27 23:26:40 · 11 answers · asked by rakesh s 1

2007-09-27 21:09:43 · 5 answers · asked by mafraqnavsari 1

i know that we all love our father and mother as parents but wut u think of them as a person? do u admire them ? do u wish to become like them in future? or do u like me hate them as a person yet u love them as parents.............think about it

2007-09-27 20:10:13 · 9 answers · asked by Albert 3

I'm a junior in highschool and I moved here in Arizona with my family 3 years ago and I've finally settled in and things are going great. But I just found out that my dad has an interview or 2 and his company might move him to Dallas, Texas ofcourse with us (it's not definite yet..but he sounds pretty sure we might move) i want to be happy for my dad, but it's so hard just thinking about starting all over again, especially since i only have 2 more years left of highschool..what should i do?

2007-09-27 19:34:11 · 5 answers · asked by The Dreamer 5

this has been going on for about 8 years...long story short:she let my daughter fall into a pile of burning leaves causeing 3rd and 2nd degree burns/now scars. that was when my daughter was 15 months old! i didnt let the grandma see her for 2 years until my husband and i got back together and was kinda forced. so she always does stupid stuff that i fight with her about..smoking around the kids, taking them swimming without permission...then i found out a few weeks ago that she LOST our 4 year old son at wal-mart!! she didnt tell me, i heard it from him. then last weekend she let my daughter make brownies by herself and my daughter got ANOTHER 2nd degree burn right by the other scars. my husband agrees with me right now about her not being able to see them w/out one of us there, but he always gives in. how do i get him to realize that it isn't okay, even though it's his mom??

2007-09-27 19:24:15 · 13 answers · asked by bef 2

Ok so i want to know all the bad things that could happen if i decide to run away. You know will i go to juvy foster care etc.. please i need answers

2007-09-27 19:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by hbkadam316 1

2007-09-27 18:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by terrysains 4

Why is it? I try staying away from my family but the favors is never ending, They will go crazy very (nasty acting) just to turn around and ask me for a favorite? like do they get enjoyment out of it.

2007-09-27 18:18:08 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 18 and want to move out asap because my father is horrible and often abuses me and my sister mentally, verbally, and sometimes physically. However, I know I can move out, but I want to take my sister with me. She is only 16, what can I do to be allowed to take her out of this house legally? Money is not an issue.

2007-09-27 17:58:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please take tha time to read this: This is how it went. You know those small butane tanks that u use for a heater? The ones that cost about $40 brand new. Well, I was staying over at my cousins house and it was winter. It was pretty cold for me and my kids and my aunt wouldnt let us use an electric heater. About a month or two before my other aunt was living next door. They left a lot of "junk", stuff they didnt want in the garage. So my cuz remembered there was an empty butane tank there i could get filled, and use for a heater. I went to a store and had it filled for about $20(my money). I used it mostly at night for about 3 days. Then outta nowhere my cuz comes and tells me that we gotta move out! So i get all my stuff together, and the tank that i paid to fill, and leave. When we come back my cuz asks where tha tank is. I told him it was in tha trunk of my car. He says "i was gonna use it to make a fish fry". He doesnt ask me to take it out. Continued below....

2007-09-27 17:52:26 · 6 answers · asked by DIVINITY 1

My husband is the main source of money in our home. He pays all the bills and I take care of the home and our girls. He now wants to move his brother into our home to sleep on the couch. His brother isn't a very upstanding person and he has plenty of issues and I would rather not have him live with us. My husband knows this but is going with it anyway. How do I tell him no way I can't allow this to happen without causing a fight? Is there anyway when it's family involved?

2007-09-27 17:08:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My God Child was dropped off at my door two months ago because her mother (a good friend of mine) has lost her way again. What rights does a God parent have? Will I be able to enroll the child into school next year and if I start a Saving account for the child will the mother be able to get to the money if I but the account in the child’s name?

I have been thinking about this for sometime and i wanted to ask online before i make my next move.


Thanks to all that helps

2007-09-27 16:49:53 · 9 answers · asked by Black Beauty™ 4

i am the luckiest daughter alive to have the cooliest parents in the world who are happily married of 21 years. i can just cry right now for typing this, this has been bothering me for years, i have tried and tried and tried to get this out of my head, i imagine my mom getting attack by a pack of dogs, or her head cut off screaming so much, or my dad getting in a car crash or falling off the bridge into the water with sharks, i can't stop being worried because all of these are CAPABLE of happening. i hate this throb in my throat, i love them so much i can't stand of thought of knowing they wont be around one day, it hurts so bad and i need some help. im going to miss my mom's smile and she laughs alot, and my dad, hes such a geek and always wants me to be happy, i hate that they are working, i rather work for them and let them relax. please is there anybody who can help me, im so sick of feeling this way, i worry every single day!!!! please please help.

2007-09-27 16:26:52 · 13 answers · asked by A Decade Ago 7

okay so my husband and i have been together for 8 years and married for 4,my mother in law was the perfect mother in law until the day we got married.she always is rude to me and saying things i didnt even say.she tells other family members lies about me.my husband and i have worked things out with us and he understamds how his mother is but it still bothers me she gets away with this stuff she does,how to i say to back off with out causeing more ripples in the water and with out her spreading more lies??

2007-09-27 16:14:20 · 16 answers · asked by his_wife72603 1

If she insists on moving out, should I help her with furnishings or money? I am stumped.

2007-09-27 16:06:18 · 17 answers · asked by MBA-MsBadAss 3

My kids father shows at least 7 signs of antisocial personality disorder. Everything he does, says, looks at a certain way, thinks... it all benefits him eventually. When he keeps the children, how long he keeps them, it is always at his convenience, and if it's not convenient for him, he makes his mother take them by guilt tripping her about how bad a mother she was to him. He lies about what he's paid to the daycare, leaving me responsible and I'm so strapped that milk is a luxury. He constantly gets on his mom and I about carseats, but never remembers them... he is manipulation central. I don't want my children to grow up thinking it's ok to use people like he does.
He's a liar, he has no respect for ANYONE/THING. He feels the world owes him something. No self accountability at all.
He's illegal. His help at this point is worthless.Which is better; seeing him do nothing or be sure that there is no way I can even try to ask for some fairness?
He does love his kids.

2007-09-27 15:59:49 · 5 answers · asked by julianna85014 1

I have come to realize that the man i wrote about in the last question is so incredibly amazing. We have been together for 7 months now and everything is awesome. All the spark and chemistry is still there between us. I am so incredibly in love with him. We are now trying to have a baby and have talked about getting married.We have been trying to have a baby for a little over 5 months now. But so far we haven't had any luck. We are patient and we know it will happen. My family love him and so do i. so incredibly much. We are both so happy .. My family and his support us 100% and think we are being rational. It isn't like a spur of the moment decision.This is something we talked about and made sure we are financially able. I want to be a mother so bad, and not just any mother, the mother of HIS children and I have never even attempted to have a child with anyone else, except him. Everything just feels so right. I KNOW this is the next step we both want to take. What do you think?

2007-09-27 15:55:19 · 6 answers · asked by linderlou2006 2

There are cops and fireman and paramedics all around. He is on a straight back board with a neck brace. How would you react to this? Would you be calm? Hysterical? Moms, answer this as well. What if it was your son?

2007-09-27 15:33:37 · 8 answers · asked by Babygirl325 2

i took care of her my whole life as she was always sick and i took care of her at home till she died .. she had heart/ lung failure.. i am having such a terrible time coping with her death..

has any one else had a experience like mine when a very loved one died, that they didnt know how to cope ? and if so what did you do to make things better ?

2007-09-27 15:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by Medusa 4

well i have no dad im 16 i have tree sisters that are 17 and a brother that is 16 now my family hates me my mom buys everything for my sister and my brother cell phones laptops,cars like BMW and MERCEDEZ and a punch of other stuff but my mam never never buys me anything nothing nothing! no shirts or pants every single **** that i got i bout wiht my money is not that mad im mad cuzz they dont care about me and is not my mam is the all the family they hate me..y!..i dont get nothing for cristmas nothing for my brith day i dont think that they rember .... :*(

2007-09-27 15:26:22 · 2 answers · asked by famous Gilbert 5

my brother younger brother is giving me the silent trewatment. he wont talk to me. i say hios name and he wont even respond. we live in the same house so this is difficult. he constantly tells me that he hates me and to leave him alone. i walk into his room and he immedietly says leave. i dont know what ive done. he has a friend that was initially my friend and he always says ur just jealous that he likes me more..etc. hes so irritable but he doesnt even talk to me anymore...what should i do?

2007-09-27 14:56:25 · 4 answers · asked by goalieboy7789 1

my mom is starting to take drugs cause she is depressed due to my dad abusing all of us.i wanna get her to stop.when i saw drugs i am not talking about pot i am talking about taking a bunch of uneeded meds at once.i wanna runaway cause my dad is always yelling and abusing leaving us all with bruises.how can i stop my mom from doing this?i can actually related to the song runaway love the part about nickole.

2007-09-27 13:39:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example, if you're an orphan, or your family disowned you , or you live far far away from your nearest relatives. How do you fill that void? Especially around the holidays.

I live alone and my parents are deceased. I have no significant other or children either. So, it's just me.

2007-09-27 13:28:08 · 10 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4

2007-09-27 13:08:54 · 4 answers · asked by HumbertH6 2

I got in to a car accident with me and son in Indy. I am new to driving and in a new big city. I am scared to drive now. I just really would like as many prayers as possible, I really need it. Thank you and Gos Bless you!!!

PS:Leave a small note saying you are going to pray for me, =).

2007-09-27 12:50:17 · 23 answers · asked by Random 3

I am on punishment and am not allowed to get on the computer unless its edacational purporses she asked me once if what i was doing is for homework i said yes 10 minutes later she asked again i said yes 18 minutes later she asked again i got mad and told YES WHY YOU KEEP ASKING ME THE SAME THING then she said your on yahoo then im like yahoo answer geting help with my homework now can you quit buging me now for like 5 minutes shes been going on and on about me being dissrespectfull im the son shes the mother and no matter how much times she ask i must answer so after her rambeling i tell her im trying to do my homework can you stop then she hits me with the belt and say its her house and she pays the bills and she can go on and on as long as she wants then i ask her can she do that in her room im trying to study for a test and she hits me again what her problem

2007-09-27 12:40:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i had a dream about me and my little brother in a park on my birthday.and some guy i never met gave me a bear and a purple flower.then me and my little brother walked towards some benches and my parents were there sniffing crack. but my parents never did drugs. and i had to work at the age of 16 to support my little brother and me and some family members sent us money for support..what could this mean?

2007-09-27 12:26:08 · 3 answers · asked by mulatata t 1

I'm a step-mother of a 9 year old girl and 8 year old boy. There father got custody of his children bc their mother spent some time incarcerated. We've had them for almost 4 years. There mother has a 7 month old now, and I know the kids think constantly about their little brother. There mother has gotten better in ways about getting them when she is suppossed to but not when it come interms of her drinking which it states in the decree for her not to consume alcohol. She's very mental absusive towards the kids and very verbal absuive towards myself and their father. We did get children services involved 2 years ago bc she was having intercourse in front of them and they were acting out well she didn't comply with it and we did so they dropped us.
She has bi-polar (which is fime with proper medication - I'm depressed, but I take what I need to and see my doctor if anything changes. She is very manipualtive, sneeky, you don't know if she is telling the truth or lies. She's just a very ackward person and likes to start trouble with anyone.
When their mother drinks she gets drunk especially when she's on a certain anti-anxiety pill.
Their mother likes to blame us for every action her kids do over there... she thinks we don't know how to raise them. I think they just don't mind her because of the way she is.
The kids at our house are not perfect. The boy which is ADHD did 2nd grade again. Which was our fault considering to her but he has learnig disablities. He's a little angel compared to his sister. He does not like to get in trouble so he just listens to us and follows directions here. He has his days but who doesn't. He was mad at his mom for the longest time bc of what she did to him. When she had custody she would just drop in him (3 1/2 at the time) and say here keep him. And wouldn't pick him up for days. So we got custody of him first.
The girl which witnessed and experienced things that a little girl shouldn't.... misses her mother darely and that's why she acting out. Not applying herself in school. Always making excuses up like her mother does. And today for instant when we were trying to dicipline her for her grades in class.... starting pulling her and scratching her face.
I asked her who does that? And she says her mother does when she fights with her boyfriend. It was very disturbing to see it happened.
My biggest fear is and I know this sounds very selfish. I raised these kids for 3 1/2 years and I know they need help and I know thay tell us they want to live with us and they tell thier mother they want to live with her. I'm just afraid they would want to live with her and I know it's their mommy and that's normal. But she's demaging them and she'll continue even when they do go back when they turn 12. Suppossely she wants them when they turn 12. But if she wants them so badily why doesn't she try now? An money is not an issue with bc her gramndmother paya for everything.
What should we do? Are we harming them for not helping them?

2007-09-27 12:17:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

He does not want her to have a boyfriend and she is still in school but is only allowed to go to school and work and is not allowed to see her boyfriend. I have a trip planned for her to come and see me I told her that her boyfriend can come too, the only problem is that she is afraid her dad will find out that he came with her. I also told her that if she is under so much stress with her dad that she can move here with me and I would make sure that she finished school or at least got her GED. Her dad never worried when she was 12 and 13 that she was home alone while he was at work but now that she is 18 he wants to lay down the law. She is concerned that her dad will be mad if she was to move out and she does not want to leave her boyfriend who is 19 and lives with his parents, but he does not want to move here. What would you do?

2007-09-27 11:55:11 · 2 answers · asked by scottjen_71 2

Hello all, I am 19 and lately my older sister 24 has become very secluded and acting very strange. I am contacting anyone who can help me. I have reason to beleive that her husband of 4 years has physically hurt her and now is asking her to do things (of the private bedroom nature) that goes completely against her morals. I have contacted her family in the area and they won't talk about it and have choosen to take a blind ear and eye to it. I have contacted anyone I could think of! In her last e-mail to me she told me that she wouldn't be e-mailing me anymore for a while and that she was cutting off communication with a lot fo friends and family. I went to her myspace and she has turned her profile to private and removed all of her close friends and family from it. I know something is going to happen this weekend and I want to help her. What should I do? I live very far away am going to college and am in the military....so it's not like I can just rush to her aide right now.

2007-09-27 11:19:36 · 1 answers · asked by Ever M 1