For example, if you're an orphan, or your family disowned you , or you live far far away from your nearest relatives. How do you fill that void? Especially around the holidays.
I live alone and my parents are deceased. I have no significant other or children either. So, it's just me.
2007-09-27 13:28:08 · 10 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the best thing to do is to reach out to others.you could join a group or simply volunteer at a nursing home or hospital.many people are alone and even those with family's are somewhat neglected.help with kids or whatever you are good at.if you are not sure it does not matter you can help in some way and you will not be lonely either.help at a local food pantry or soup kitchen,serving meals or cooking or helping prepare the food or washing dishes.whatever.good luck.
2007-09-27 13:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that it can be very lonely at holiday time so I would suggest that you volunteer at a local hospital, soup kitchen or nursing home or veterans hospital, where there are people who have no one either. They love to have visitors and it might make you feel a little happier to be with someone. You could also become involved with a church group and they usually have get togethers for those who are single and have no family in the area. That way, you could meet people who are also alone and share your time with them. You might also consider becoming a member of the Lions Club, Kiwanas, or Rotary or some other organization in your area. They are almost like a family or brotherhood, and do a lot of service work. Doing the service work with other people is especially rewarding. You help others in need and it makes you feel a part of giving and sharing that makes the holiday special. I always try to invite people who are alone to come and share Thanksgiving or Christmas with my family. I am sorry that you are alone. You just have to find a bunch of people who share some of your interests and I am sure that you will be included in some festivities when they realize you are without family ties. You might try joining a singles group so you could meet and share some time with someone who is your age and has no ties. It would make them feel happier and less alone at the time when everyone else is with family. Hope this helps.
2007-09-27 20:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bunch of friends in similar circumstances, so around the holidays I host a few potluck dinners (usually a vegan thanksgiving and x-mas dinner) and a fun Queer-run event called the "bake-a-thon". We make a ton of sugar cookie dough and use a metal gingerbread man cookie cutter and we decorate each one to represent a different part of the LGBT community. Many of us are Intersex so we make a whole bunch of those, and so on, until we make every kind of cookie we can think of that represents a sex or gender category (Poly-Orchid, etc.) or a Queer-Friendly ally (such as Ladybird Johnson, Tammy Faye Baker, etc.) Since these are cookies for adults only, shoot me an email through my Y!A profile and I will send you the link, for I dare not post it here.
2007-09-27 22:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Testika Filch Milquetoast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have other single friends around? Invite them over and have your own party.
Sometimes even my married friends will invite me over for dinner (because I also invite them over to my place) for the holidays since I live far away from any of my relatives.
Or do what that one girl said, and volunteer to help out at a homeless shelter or charity. You will realize that other people are worse off than you.
2007-09-27 20:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fill that void by doing something that i love doing, scrapbooking, taking a trip, dancing, or skating, stuff like that. it really helps me stay a lively person my friends are like my family so that fills my void as well.
2007-09-28 02:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Hi I'm Stupid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your friends extension of family. believe in God, go to church. make your church people your family. join clubs that subject matter you enjoy. it's amazing if you find people with your interests in life how much a family they can be become. your interests become your bond. also, bring a pet into you home, they have endless love and fill a void that eventually you'll realize was never there. good luck and be happy in life.
2007-09-27 20:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You appreciate the lack of drama, remember the good times from the past, connect personally with ecards, music, doing something nice for others. Make things about others, not yourself.
2007-09-27 20:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen. Do you have friends that you could be with on the holidays? Or you could treat it as any other day.
2007-09-27 20:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sad for you . But theres something I cannot understand Why you do not have friends at least one I will pray for you but you too you have to pray love
2007-09-27 20:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will someday.
i know someone in this situation, well he was, and he eventually got married and now that is his family, it made him so happy too.
i really cant tell you exactly what to do, but that it will all be ok.
best of wishes
2007-09-27 20:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋