I have a daughter who will be 16 on 10/24/07. I had to have her leave our home beacause she was violent towards my husband and myself. She has been staying with a friend of hers' family. I DON'T want to give custody of her to anyone else. But at this point we are soul tired. Though I am weighed down completely by guilt, I am DONE with the fighting with her. I am ready to give up. Our entire family is at the point where no one will take her in now. They have all had it with her. We are desperate for some legal alternatives.
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Winston, Oregon
2007-09-27 23:26:40 · 11 answers · asked by rakesh s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
See a lawyer about trying to have her committed to a psychiatric facility that may be able to curb her violent behavior. This will protect you and her at the same time.
2007-09-27 23:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all You should NOT have left this specific information about your daughter and your family on the internet. According to your city's profile you live in a very small town. She most likely a Trojan and goes to Douglas High School. You have done everything but given us her name.
If you want legal help you need to go to your county's District Attorney and file a FINS petition (families in need). This gives you and your family legal protection and gives your daughter severe consequences if she doesn't immediately and clearly straighten up her act. A Youth Services worker or Juvenile Probation Officer will monitor your daughter's status, compliance, and attitude.
Several people have mentioned Mental Health services which is an excellent opportunity for everyone involved - separately. But be prepared to answer or think about some tough questions like "how do I react to frustration or anger with other people?" "What am I doing that could make a situation better or worse during the situation?"
Mental Health will not "fix" your daughter but it will give you all a starting point. Everyone must learn new ways of relating to each other.
2007-09-28 17:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. We went through the same thing with our son, but I didn't have him move out until he was 18. We did have to Baker Act him for his and our own protection. He did admit that he was feeling better when he was on his meds and eating properly while in the hospital. You don't need a lawyer to do this. You simply take your daughter to any hospital and they will handle things. But if you're not ready for that, then you definitely need to get some family counseling. Your daughter is violent and you need to find out why. Contact your mental health line through your insurance company for a reference. She may hate going at first, but after a while, she will start to come around and open up about her feelings. Don't feel guilty for doing what you did. Everyone has their own breaking point. Good luck.
2007-09-28 02:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she been seen by a medical professional? It may be depression or some other type of mental health issue. Did you try family counseling?
Your city/state should have some type of family court or an agency that can provide you information on where you can go to get help with this issue.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-27 23:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by fab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer know approximately Oklahoma regulations, yet i know in my state it does no longer additionally be considered statutory rape ( many think of that merely through fact he's eighteen and she or he's not that it is computerized) yet in certainty many states, such through fact the only I stay in, have a 4 three hundred and sixty 5 days regulation, the place as long as there is not any greater suitable than 4 years between them, that's no longer statutory rape. you may look up your close by regulations in this concern. additionally, she will pass out on her very own, yet she would be in a position to no longer legally be allowed to pass into right into a settlement of any type ( ie residences hire, very own loan for a motor vehicle, etc. until she has reached 18, minors can no longer legally enter right into a valid settlement. so as that in the process itself will make it demanding for her to proceed to exist her very own until the toddler's dad is keen to place each and every thing in his call. additionally, in some states sixteen is the age the place young ones can legally drop out of faculty, look that up additionally. the quick answer on your question is she will legally bypass away your domicile now, in spite of the shown fact that it is going to likely be demanding for her to discover everywhere to bypass on account that she is without money and a activity. i could look up your states regulations and discover out for helpful.
2016-10-09 23:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some counseling for her. If you live in the US, there are Free mental health clinics, if you do not have the finances to have her see a private therapist. I had to do that for my son, and it did wonders for him. Just remember that teenagers do push the envelope in order to fight for their independence. The violence, however, is not necessary, and needs to be dealt with immediately. It is not at all impossible that she is experimenting with drugs. That is a classic symptom.
2007-09-27 23:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write to Dr Phil. I'm not joking either. You are in such an awful and desperate situation.
2007-09-27 23:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all how can you kick a 15 yr old out of the house?Legally you can't..Someone can report you to legal services.Seems to me if the child had been disciplined when she was younger you wouldn't have this problem.If it were my child I would have beat her little *** I'm the adult not her. You kicked her out so live with it..
2007-09-27 23:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Failure on your part as a parent to teach her respect.
2007-09-27 23:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like she needed to have her azz whooped when she was little.
2007-09-27 23:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋