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I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. When I first met him he was going through a divorce and a custody battle. THe outcome was that he signed away his parental rights because he was in no position to pay child support. He did not see the kid or her mother for 7 years. Now the child and her mother comes to see him. I am having jealousy issues. What is up with this??? Someone please help explain. I am not there when they are there because I showed my but in front of the mother before and she wont stop if I am there

2007-09-29 08:23:59 · 8 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships Family

8 answers

All you can do is show support. This is his child, and its not like they child was born while he was with you. et him know you arent going to go for it if he stars having time alone with the ex wife. But the mother possibly wants the child to have a relationship with daddy. Just think about it if you were the single mother..

2007-09-29 08:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0 0

First deal with the jealously - the truth is you knew what you were getting involved in at the very beginning. If you love this guy how can you feel negative toward his child. Of course you and the ex is another issue but if approached the right way maybe both of you can resolve any issues for the sake of the child be respectul even if she is not, positivity is better in the end.

2007-09-29 15:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by C'est la Vie 1 · 0 0

there is something the mother is wanting from your bf. the child may be being used as a way for her to edge back into his life. or she may be pretending to be his friend just to find out if he has anything she can take to court to try to sue him for back child support. i would warn your bf to be very careful with what he shares and how close he allows her to be. but at the same time he needs to try to rebuild his relationship with his child---invite the child to sleep over or out to eat and a movie with the both of you.you should try to get to know the child and never resent the child for the mothers actions.Good luck to you all

2007-09-29 15:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just learn to trust him...jealousy will drive a man away, if you love him, stick woth him and be supportive. As for the mother, apologize if you want to be in the mix with them both...I would. Even if you do not mean it.

2007-09-29 15:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 2 · 1 0

If you love your boyfriend, you'll get over it and quick. Jealousy is the fastest relationship killer there is. Do yourself a favor and get over this. Trust that he'll do the right thing here.

2007-09-29 15:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0 0

if you love him and he loves you, nothing will destroy the relationship; but, i would ask him what his plans are for this child, because if you marry this guy, and he wants joint custody of this child, she then becomes your stepchild, and, you have every right to want to know what's going on.

2007-09-29 17:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0 0

tell them (all) that u wud be happy to let them all be together or just u and him together but not such a big mixup. If they don't get it, u just quit. no fun in boggling ur mind with this.

2007-09-29 15:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Cant stop thinking 4 · 0 0

do a yahoo search for OVERCOMING JEALOUSY.

you will find a lot of information. take care.

2007-09-29 15:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0 0

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