I'm starting to plan my first year of college already; I plan on attending the University of Illinois and I'm going to live in my grandmothers house. She has extra bedrooms and I would get much better food than if I was living in a dorm. Dorm life just isn't for me. She says I don't need to pay her at all, but that just doesn't feel right, I feel like I NEED to pay. What is a reasonable amount of money to pay for rent, which includes food and extra utilities, etc. I don't know how much money is appropriate for this siituation. I don't want to take advantage or anything. Please help me.
2007-09-28 17:04:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe spend some money ON her. Take her out, buy her something frivolous, make her feel good! That will mean more to her than cash!
2007-09-28 17:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by arizonapolecat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does she own the house she is living in? If so there is no need to pay rent, if she is renting her house then you could pay a percentage of it, maybe 30% to help her out. As far as food and electricity goes you could give her about $100-150 a week to help with expenses. She is your grandma and loves you like a child and wouldn't want to charge you anything so just let her know that you really appreciate being able to stay with her and really don't feel right not contributing any money.
2007-09-29 00:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your grandmother is happy to help you out and be able to spend more time with you. She will probably be insulted if you just give her money because she feels that she is just doing what family should do. When my mom watched my kids for me while I worked, I bought the groceries for the things they would be eating during the day, and some extra goodies I knew she liked. My husband and I also helped her around the house doing things like mowing the lawn and raking leaves, so that she didn't have to pay someone to come do that anymore. Since you will be living there, help her do household chores that may be difficult for her to do. Also, offer to make dinner one night a week for the 2 of you, or to take her out one night a week. This gives you each a chance to relax and enjoy this very special time together. Wish I had my Grandma around longer ... You are one lucky young lady.
Best wishes for a successful future!
2007-09-29 11:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dear grandmother what her bills are. Things like the telephone, lights, gas and water bills. If she is paying rent or a mortgage, you would like to know. What ever you feel comfortable paying her, would be a "good thing." Then tell her that you won't feel comfortable living there for "free." Let grandmom know that because you "love" her, you can't possibly impose on her in this way. Just as she loves you, YOU also care deeply for her. You want to make her life better NOT "slow it down." Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-09-29 00:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your satisfying your sence of integrety, your are going to offend your grandmother. That is the worst way to go...
However, by living with her, you should make sure you do more than your share of the work. Do the dishes, wash clothes, buy food, even cook meals from time to time. When the phone bill comes, you pay as much of it as you can, and explain that your are using the phone alot, and so you want to pay for what you use...
Rather than trying to figure out how much a month to pay her, find ways to work you desire to help out so that your grandmother does not feel like she is being disregarded as your grandmother.
2007-09-29 00:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vman 2040 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no set $$$ amount. Help out around the house, chip in for groceries and help out with bills as much as you can. I am sure she will give you a hard time and not want to take your money but do it anyway. Most important let her know how thankful you are and how much you appreciate everything she is doing for you.
2007-09-29 00:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 300.00 answers. At least to start and see how it goes. If she refuses, then you buy the groceries before she does- include cleaning supplies and laundry soap, shampoo and hygiend items. Also take on a chore as your own.
What a lovely way to start out college life!
2007-09-29 00:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your grandma doesnt want to accept money from you try to pay her with helping out with the household taking her wher she needs to go buy her favorite foods or take her out to dinner be there for her because chances are shes doing what she feels is best for her grandchild let her know meveryday that you will never forget her kindness and hospality and that you will make her proud.
2007-09-29 00:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if need be get food stamps and call united way for extra help but if u can afford it at least 100 per month for the room and board alone food can be pretty expensive and try to make smoothies and eat salads and soups to keep you both healthy.
2007-09-29 00:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her help you out. You can help her out by helping her take car of the house, cooking, errands, and just keeping her company. You sound like a nice person and your grandmother sounds great! Good luck in school!
2007-09-29 00:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋