my girl friend is bipolar, she was crying to her family every time we have a problem, and make me the reason for it, till I found out they are asking her to leave me, thinking I’m bad abusive person, while I care, love and respect her and them, she admitted that she was lying at them but she didn’t want to tell them truth, how can I save my love and care for my girl?
2007-09-28 18:42:28 · 9 answers · asked by amro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to form a relationship with her family. Try and spend some time with them. They will see what kind of a person you really are. Become myspace friends with her siblings and chat with them. Spend some time with her folks.
If she is as crazy as you say, her parents probably are aware of it, and will realize the problem isn't with you.
2007-09-28 21:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bertone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it's great that you're being patient and loving with this girl but bi-polar is nothing to mess around with. Right now, it's all passionate and you love each other. But do you really think you can handle her mood swings and ups and downs your entire life?
She sounds extremely immature for not realizing that complaining to her family about you all the time might just make them NOT like you - gasp, SHOCK. What an idiot. No wonder they hate your guts! She's done nothing but tell them all the worst things about you and your r'ship!!! If I were you, I'd be PISSED at her for portraying you in this way. Unfortunately, she's dug her and you into such a hole with them that it will take a long time for them to ever trust you or think you're a good guy.
2007-09-29 01:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, always be aware of your level of control. Don't get duped by the feelings of empathy, that you lose your opportunity to find a better companion for you, and one where you can more fully develop your own love, and the person you are with can more fully develop their's as well.
While love can motivate us to do amazing things, always be aware that the relationship is promoting happiness and joy between you and your girl. Don't let love bind you down to something you will regret in the future, if only you weren't so concerned about your girl.
That said, if you see great potential in the heights your relationship can reach, including this girl's family members, then by all means do some service for them. Get involved with them, and don't manage a "secret" relationship with your girl only. Be open to and receptive with her family members, like establishing relationships with them as if your girl had never existed. Avoid exhibiting any form of possessive behavior toward your girl around them. When they are around, it's not time to be with your girl - it's time to be with "everybody." Don't neglect that, and they will open up to you a lot.
2007-09-29 01:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Atom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you, because you have a real problem! However, the good news is there are at present some excellent medications for bi -polar-ism. You did not say how old she is, but if she is in school, she needs to see the school counselor about her problems. If she is out of school she needs to see a psychiatrist about her problem, ( If she can't afford one most all counties and perishes have programs that can get her the help she needs at little or no cost.) Her parents are another problem altogether. You MUST be as kind and patient with them as you are with her. Blowing up at them or arguing with them will get you nowhere. T ry (within reason ) to cooperate with them, because I will guarantee you that you she are not the only problems they are having with her,( bi-polar-ism is not selective) When she is blowing up with you, she is also blowing up with them about other things. I wish you the best of luck,,,,you're gonna need it.......
2007-09-29 02:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by ooldroger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she is insecure and childish.See if a girl really loves u be it watever she will always respect u in front of family and friends bcoz nogirl wants her wld be or lover potrayed as a bad person.Personal probs and fights happen in bestest of relationships however in the end its the understanding that wins(Understanding plays an imp role in ev ery relationship).
2007-09-29 03:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in over your head. Try standing back while she is in her manic phase. If this is a young love it may be too much too soon.
Be CAUTIOUS
2007-09-29 01:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can run like hell for a relationship where your partner lies to her family and is probably lying to you also!
Run Like Hell!
2007-09-29 01:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for a dinner with the family. And be yourself
2007-09-29 01:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by howardlee1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it was the truth.
2007-09-29 01:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋