what rights do i have to see my children from?

Question

i have been told i am not allowd to see my two children.bailey is aged 6 caitlin is aged 4.i have offered to pay a monthly payment by cheque but there mum wasnt intrested i havent seen my children for two weeks now.my name is on there birth certificate and they have the same surname as me.i have a appointment to see a solicitor on the 13th october.could you give me some advice. i just want to go round and see them but dont now if i am allowd.

Answer 1

You'll probably have to go to court. I'm from America. I don't know how the law works there.

But over here, I know once it goes to court, the judge sets a schedule. I can only assume (and hope) that it's the same over here. Just pay your child support and try to be the bigger person in the situation.

Best of luck. She should realize how lucky she is. My daughter's dad never wanted to see his daughter or pay support.

Answer 2

Any parent who keeps children away from another parent - is a bad parent . This is a form of child abuse. She is using her children as pawns in her separation from you. It's so wrong. Shame on her. BOTH parents should be involved in their children's lives. It's not against the law and there is most definitely NO rule againstwanting to spend time with your kids. This is someone who is doing the wrong thing.

And you... had better be wanting to see this children for the right reasons. They are little and won't understand if you are sporadic in your visits. You must see them ALL the time on visit days and regularly, or they will be seriously disappointed too. Please make sure you are both doing the right thing for the right reasons when little ones are involved. Whether you get a new girlfriend or whatever, always honour your visiting time with your kids so they have a parent they can count on.

Good luck

Answer 3

If your name is on their birth certificate (UK) then you have parental responsibility and it does not matter if you and their mum were married or not. You have a right to see them.

If you cannot persuade their mother (who sounds like a spiteful bitter woman) to agree then see a solicitor and go to court to sue for visitation rights. Stopping a child seeing their father is a form of child abuse. It is cruel to refuse to allow them to spend time with you - this will cause them pain and problems in the long run.

Whatever problems two people have in keeping a relationship together, children need contact with both their parents.

Answer 4

sounds hard but you have to be the bigger adult here.
don't press to see the kids till your solicitor has advised you, cos the last thing you want is for her to get the cops involved and get an injunction against you.
she could get that easier than you can get access to them and its a hell ov a lot harder to defend in family court.
get your solicitor to bring the date forward,
there is NO reason why you cant get a walk in for a free 1/2 hr session.
if he/she wont do it then vote with your feet and find someone who will.
gl :)

p.s. biker2girl is sadly misinformed about the kids being to young to have a say.
things have moved on now and when it gets to court the children will have their own solicitor who has been appointed by the courts and who's sole interest is what is best for them and what THEY want.

Answer 5

Depends on whether you were married to the Mother or not, you don't say. Nevertheless,a solicitor is a good idea, he can get family mediation going. Perhaps, instead of just 'going round' arrange a mutual territory where you can meet the children on a consistant, regular, basis. Mediation can arrange this.

Answer 6

you have every right to see your children if the mother won't let you see them and you have offered to pay child support it will look bad on her side not yours you have done everything right. also if you right letters to her stating that you want to see your kids photocopy the letters for the courts as it will help your case. what ever you do do not sign over full custody of the kids to her as then you will have no rights what so ever. good luck with it all and most of all be patient and don't lose your temper as that will go against you .

Answer 7

I know it must be really difficult for you but try to be respectful towards their mother even if shes not being so towards you and dont do anything rash. Within time hopefully she will come to her senses or else it can be sorted out through solicitors civilly. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Snap, yes it is hard on you as it was with me but mine are grown up now and i see them all the time, your turn will come but keep fighting to see the, I have written a book about my ups and downs in life after falling in and out of love so many times, also divorced twice and had to move out that upset my kids and turned me to drink but now I no longer drink, so I did a book to help others out there, who like me was cheated and used, Publishers spent money to do my book and is out in 106, also on most book shops and sites in UK, so I am not trying to get you to buy my book but it is a fact it will help you, it is full of good advice and called, =
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Answer 9

you do have a right but just turning up will p your wife/girlfriend off you do need to seek a solicitor they will tel you how to go about this the children are to young to have a say what they want just hang in there
good luck

Answer 10

i'd think that, if they are your biological children you have every right to be a part of their lives and to help raise them, yes!

your ex is probably bitter over your break up and is using the children as a way to "get back" at you.. it's not uncommon, and yes, it's selfish.

try to keep a clear head, be calm and dignified through it all... i'm sure that, eventually, things will work out.. good luck at your appointment! take care.