She says it'll make her happy to see me this year. The only thing is that I live 5,000 miles away from her and plane tickets can be really expensive. Now I know of her paying my sister and my brother to come visit her... Why wouldn't she pay my way??? Why she expects me to go every year but on my own dime?? Alsoo I asked her to pay my way just to TEST her and she'll deny 100% to do it, which I wouldnt allow anyways but it gives me a sad feeling...
2007-09-28 18:05:48 · 11 answers · asked by I Speak the Truth 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
*
* Member since: September 22, 2007
* Total points: 244 (Level 1)
* Points earned this week:
* --% Best answer
*
Gabriel & Co.
S
My mom wants to see me for X-mas BUT!!!...?
She says it'll make her happy to see me this year. The only thing is that I live 5,000 miles away from her and plane tickets can be really expensive. Now I know of her paying my sister and my brother to come visit her... Why wouldn't she pay my way??? Why she expects me to go every year but on my own dime?? Alsoo I asked her to pay my way just to TEST her and she'll deny 100% to do it, which I wouldnt allow anyways but it gives me a sad feeling...
ps: Money is not the issue, I could easily pay for the ticket the issue is that she'll pay for my siblings but not me.
2007-09-28 18:12:27 · update #1
Sounds like you mom is testing you... most probably just yanking your chains to see how far you will go for her.
You need to tell her that you can't afford the plane tickets as well as the time off from work... tell her you have bills to pay.
2007-09-28 18:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a problem because of the distance, or is it really a problem because you feel jealous of the thought that she has paid for tickets for your sister and brother????
Are you better off financially than they are??? Do they visit you Mom more frequently, and she feels as if you are ignoring her?
How do you know that she has paid for your brother and sisters tickets, have they told you???
There is something else here going on that you are not saying, or that you have not realized yet, so you need to figure that out before you make a good decision.
Both of my parents are deceased, and I would pay any amount for any ticket to visit with them again, even though I know I cannot. Is it worth not visiting for the sake of the price of some tickets???
Don't be sad, figure this all out and make the best decision for you and your Mom.
Good luck and have a good day.
2007-09-28 18:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of worrying about her paying for your siblings and money (always money that divides family and everyone else, it seems) think of seeing your Mom for the Holidays. You can find cheap airline tickets if you just shop around online.
Someday your Mom won't be around at all, and you won't have the chance to see her at Christmas; count yourself lucky you can see her and find a way to get there without focusing on who pays for plane tickets...you're lucky you have a Mom to visit.
2007-09-28 18:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She thinks in her own mind that you are the strong one and you can pay your own way. This doesn't mean she loves you less . Don't feel sad about it parents have their favorites but love all their kids the same. They just help out the ones who need it most. You should confront her about this.
2007-09-28 18:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your earnings are not enough to see her every christmas. Tell her much you miss her and wanted to see her too.. When the budget is enough you will see her right away.
Why she wouldn't pay your way? Simple, she thinks you have enough money. and it doesn't mean she has a favor for your two siblings.
2007-09-28 18:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way now you only have the one and if she was to die the day after then what would you say? damn i should have gone.... but no i didnt have the money so your mom's not worth it book a flight a head and do some searching... one day she wont be a round ... then you will miss the time you could have had
2007-09-28 18:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by infoman89032 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Massaging slippers tub stuff like bubble tub candles spa set present certificates to the spa. in case you had to furnish her merely one factor, i could supply her the final one, yet once you had to furnish her some issues i could fill a basket with the proper stuff and a few greater stuff like shampoo and conditioner and lotion.
2016-10-10 00:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you better off financially than your siblings? If so,go see her. If your feeling are hurt, tell her. It's your mother, be upfront with her.
2007-09-28 19:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think about expanses to make your mom happy during christmas u should forget all your enimies and make friends
2007-09-28 18:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by S S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that money's tight this year and that you simply don't have the dough to visit her ***
2007-09-28 18:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by Llew 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋