Family & Relationships - 9 October 2007

Ok...this is for ALL the married men out there...

Please be open and honest.

Regardless of how long you have been married,
whether its 1 month or 50 years....

Would you ever cheat on your wife with her best friend?
And if you have, why did you do it? Was it sexually
motivated or were you missing something emotional
in the marriage that you sought out in the best friend?

I am doing some research on this, so please,
serious answers ONLY.

Thanks

2007-10-09 04:30:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i live in tulsa,ok and all the women are self absorbed. or think they are too good, either that or they go for the abusive type, i just want a nice girl that will love me, and want love in return

2007-10-09 04:28:09 · 7 answers · asked by ryan u 2 in Singles & Dating

I've got a friend (man) and really like him. He does too but we havnt dated even though once when we met we became quiet close without discussing our feelings. There is a connection at least I think so. Due to work/school commitments and geographical distance, dating would be very difficult. I also get the impression that this guy is shy of getting into something and therefore could distance himself from involvement. This doesnt change my feelings for him. I cant bring myself to make any moves to progress the friendship we have which currently amounts to the odd chat and nothing more. Am I right to leave things be and just see if it is meant to happen, he will do something?

2007-10-09 04:27:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've never had a problem with Tammy even though she is a bit too much on the wild side for my tastes. She and my wife have been friends for years.

Anyway, I told my wife a party sounded fun. She told me though that Tammy was calling this a CFNM party and I just stared blankly at her not knowing what that was. (She didn't know either until Tammy told her) It's a Clothed Female Nude Male party. All the men that attend must undress totally at the door and walk around the party in the buff while the fully clothed women have total visual and physical access to any man they want. My wife laughed out loud and thought it was a wild but fun idea while my response was less enthusiastic. I'm told the people invited are couples in the neighborhood along with some of the "hotter" single men in the area and some single females as well. My wife thinks it would be a trip to go and try it out and I am against it. What do you all think? She already said she won't go without me.

2007-10-09 04:27:13 · 44 answers · asked by mark s 1 in Friends

This is my first baby and ever sense i brought him home my hubby's mom is crazy about the baby she started out the first month coming over every day and not leaven for a long time now he is 8 weeks but every time we go and see her or she comes here she will not give him back she spends the hole time holding hi9m it got so bad we will go in a store he will be sleeping she ask can i hold him i said no and she dose it any ways its so bad we will goo out and eat and she will show up has any one had this problem and how to dill with it with out being a total ***** and making her hate me?

2007-10-09 04:26:59 · 10 answers · asked by c_wilke22 3 in Family

life. Do peoples manners go out the window when it comes to a wedding? This woman called me and told me that she wants to be invited to my wedding. I called her back and told her that I do not have it in my budget, and that I didn't even know who she was when she called me and it wasn't anything personal,

2007-10-09 04:26:04 · 18 answers · asked by donellew2002 2 in Weddings

Looking to take my ex to court for child support and he only works half "on the books" if at all. Plus he constantly jumps from job to job. How do I make sure I am owed the correct amount for what he "really" makes?

2007-10-09 04:26:01 · 11 answers · asked by Allison S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating my girlfriend for several months, and things are going great. When we first started dating she confided in me and told me she had been in an amateur porn video on a very popular site a few years ago. She told me she was disgusted and very ashamed after doing it. Curiosity got the best of me and I located it online and watched it recently. I'm actually ok with it since it was in the past and she is very sorry for doing it. She does not know I have seen it. How should I be feeling after seeing her on film with another guy? Also, I'm not as upset as I thought I would be after seeing it. I had a ton of questions when she told me she had made it, but after seeing how scared she appears in it, I actually feel better. So I guess ... just accept her and move on with our relationship?

2007-10-09 04:24:19 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

any ladies here have ever walked in on your boyfriend, while he was... you know.. pleasing himself? how'd you guys feel about it

2007-10-09 04:20:10 · 1 answers · asked by Luther King P 1 in Singles & Dating

my best friend (a boy) is in love for me, i think...
what do I have to do??
do I have to say him that he's only a friend for me??

please help me!
byee

2007-10-09 04:17:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-10-09 04:15:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Gifts left behind, cards, letters, pictures, clothes, nothing super expensive. Any Ideas? Should I sell what I can? Should I give her notice? It's been 1 1/2 years since she left. Besides she cheated on me and then married the guy. THANK GOD!!!

2007-10-09 04:15:16 · 15 answers · asked by Stick'em in the Trunk 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I wanted 2 forgive my wife 4 what she has done. I can only wear my blinders 4 so long before I have 2 accept the truth that she slept w/another man. She has only hurt me worse during this time by telling me "if u knew the truth there would b no turning back" & "if u knew the truth, u would leave me 4 sure". Why she said those things 2 me I dont know. I told her she should have never said those things if she wanted me 2 try & get over it. She is currently still living w/me at our house but I am ready 2 go file. Do I file and then tell her I did it? Do I tell her I am going to go file and then go? Do I just file & let her get served? Tell her move out, that I am going 2 go file? What is the best CIVIL approach 2 this. She has admitted to staying in a hotel room w/another man. I saw the clothes she wore out the night of this. The clothes she wore home the day after. The following wkend I read a txt fm him 2 her that said "I'm going 2 bed all alone now : (" So I know!

2007-10-09 04:14:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-09 04:13:43 · 10 answers · asked by delina_m 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

what makes a person grow younger in self?

2007-10-09 04:10:41 · 10 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We were best friends, we got married out of friendship more than lusty passionate love. We have a large family together, he has two children and I have four. He has a son who is autistic and we both work full time jobs. Our life is extremely full but also very good. Our kids are all great, while having a special needs son isn't easy, it's rewarding and we go above and beyond for him. It's the little stuff that's killing us, I am OCD with a clean house (and I mean display home clean) and he isn't (at all), I am supermom and he is more passive aggresive, etc. I find myself being short and crabby with him and uninterested in him romantically but I am not sure why? I find myself nit picking everything about him to the point where when I look at him I get almost angry and he isn't attrative to me anymore. When I try to discuss our differences (very gently) he becomes angry and then pouts for days and I mean POUTS (like a child), What does all this mean?

2007-10-09 04:10:14 · 15 answers · asked by LilSunbeam 4 in Marriage & Divorce

how many of you ABSOLUTELY WILL NOT have sex with your wife/girlfriend if she is on her period??

2007-10-09 04:08:34 · 11 answers · asked by krazy_chic6944 3 in Singles & Dating

History: My stepson is 13, I have been married to his dad since he was 5. My stepson's mom is a piece of crap and is not really in his life. Because his mother is not around, my in-laws really cater to him to try and "fill the void" with giving him what he wants. What they have done is created a monster (but they don't see that) and now my husband and I are suffering for it.
Question: My husband's mother accosted me the other day because she does not like the fact that I discipline (come on now, he has 4 "F" grades and he wants to go out---not happening on my watch). My step son bad mouths not only me but his dad to my in-laws. Because she physically threatened me, I feel that there are consequences for your actions. She does not need to be involved in our parenting and the fact that she came at me like that, makes me feel like she does not deserve to be a part of our lives. Do I let my hubby deal with her or do I and what would you do?

2007-10-09 04:08:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

if they had known the problems that were ahead of them because of an ex spouse? I am on one hand the luckiest lady in the world because of the man I am married to, however his ex is always causing problems and the children act out because of it.

2007-10-09 04:07:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been married 6 months. I have recently found out that my husand is Bipolar. He had an episode last month where he became violent. He has finally gotten help and is now on meds and doing great. However, he is now realizing that this was the cause of losing his previous wife.He calls my daughter by her daughter's name. He has in the past few months threw her in my face, telling me he wished he never told her to leave . I have a feeling there is unfinished business there for him. I think that since he is better he regrets not getting help in time to save his marriage withher. Since his outburst a month ago, my daughter is affraid of him. She fears his meds won't work or he'll relapse. Now she wants to go live with her father. What bothers me is that when I told my husband about it, he immediately told me I should leave and we shouldn't be married anymore. Why do I get t the feeling he wants me to go so he can see if he can make it work w/ his ex, and this was his out.

2007-10-09 04:07:06 · 6 answers · asked by tammy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex-boyfriend told me that if I get back in shape that he would take me back. I mean I still love him and my feelings for him never completely went away but I kinda took it as an insult because there's really nothing wrong with me I mean of course there's always room for improvement but I just need some insight please.

2007-10-09 04:05:26 · 33 answers · asked by ~Cheta K.~ 6 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I have always took care of him like he was my child. I moved out of the house 3 months ago but I still see him and talk to him. He got laid off his job and then stupid me started paying his rent again and power bill. Well he has been lying to me. He is a liar that lies over and over and over. He can look so calmly at you when he is telling lies. Any way his ex started coming back around and he told me that it was just so he could see his daughter. The child is 9 and he signed away rights 7 years ago. I find out that the ex wife who is still married has been staying at the trailer with him that I am paying rent on. Well no more., I am not paying anything for him. I dont understand this mess. He has no job and no license and no transportation. He cant take care of himself much less a kid. What do you think will happen in this situtation??? Am I doing the right thing?? I am just going to quit going to check on him.

2007-10-09 04:03:59 · 14 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i want to get my biyfriend i am the one that left cause i was unhappey but i thought that is would make him see that i was being serious and he would cahnge it has been 3 months and we have hung out and had fun but he can never make his mind up we have a young son i want my family back what should i do??

2007-10-09 04:03:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

OK ,I haven't complained in a few months and tried not to about pety stuff but here is my question. My husband turned 40 back in the spring and I threw this huge surprise party for him and took me a couple months to plan,etc. My 40th b-day just passed and instead of a party for me that weekend my husband was planning his own party at a bar for people he worked with to come to because he was changing departments within the same company!! So I thought maybe(just maybe) that this was his way to get me there so I would be surprised. But no it actually was for him. Then another girl from his work actually planned for us to leave that bar and go somewhere else where she said friends were. So we went there and Surprise! Another party for him!My question is should I be a little mad or just disappointed that he could put that much effort into planning his own party for his co-workers and not one for me? Or is this pety?I probably wouldn't even be upset if he did not have this party for himself!

2007-10-09 04:02:51 · 6 answers · asked by confused one 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok a girl I really like is going to give me a note saying that she likes me so much and her friend likes me too and so she doesnt want to come between that and but i dont like her friend at all and so its going to be too hard so please tell me ehat i sould say before i get it

2007-10-09 04:00:58 · 9 answers · asked by Shane 2 in Singles & Dating

im so damn pissed and wish i can jump back in time; i asked the guy i really really like for some money only because he kept insisting that if i run out of money here at school, i should ask. i never wanted to, i never asked my own parents for money in my whole life and the idea of asking someone for it doesn't really tickle my imagination. might be that i am a weirdo, but i grew up to depend on myself only and i have some silly feminist attitudes at times.. then i run out of it, and ask him. he hesitates! the mere fact he hesitates embaressed the hell out of me. i was so damn hurt and felt that i just wanna vanish.thank goodness it wasn't face to face.. we were chatting, but he didn't exactly say yes the way i expected him.. and i ran off. can't talk to him now. not because of the money thing, but because it means i really don't mean anything to him. if i were him, at least if i had NO money (btw, he did say he has some so he aint broke) i would at least say 'sure' than apologize! :s

2007-10-09 04:00:34 · 1 answers · asked by JustMe 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He still acts like a kid. I thought he would grow up eventually, but hes going to be 30 this year and acts like he is 18 years old. It really is a big turn off. I get tired of being the one that takes care of everything. I also make a lot more money than he does, and I don't feel I should have to comprimise who I am so he can act like a man. I have stopped "nagging" him about helping around the house, because I am not his mother, hoping this would make him grow up, but I think I have made it worse. What are some ideas, without being submissive to him, to get him to grow up?

2007-10-09 04:00:26 · 7 answers · asked by Freakalicious 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Everyone is telling me that it is better to have your engagment ring & wedding band sodered together. I am not sure I want this, does it matter? Any advice?

2007-10-09 03:57:55 · 15 answers · asked by TIGERDD24 2 in Weddings

There are more young mothers now than there were three years ago. I mean young as in NOT EVEN 18YRS OLD!!!!!!! There is an old saying that holds true throughout time. " Just because you CAN have children, DOES NOT mean that you should." I mean, how immature are these people today?

2007-10-09 03:55:15 · 31 answers · asked by squirephlem 1 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my boyfriend have been going together for 5 months and i really like him a lot. i chose to go with him because we like each other aand we are so much in common but there is this person that is trying to break us up

2007-10-09 03:51:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating