Family & Relationships - 9 October 2007

My family and my inlaws clash so for my daughters upcoming birthday we have decided to have different parties.

I was understanding that my spouse and myself were set to buy the cake for both occasions. I was informed yesterday that my MIL is buying the cake for that side of the family. Plus she is inviting people without my consent.

The birthday is Saturday and I just found this out Monday.

Should I be mad or am I just over-reacting?

2007-10-09 08:49:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i am engage and in love with my fiance. we both ahve kids from previous relationships. I have one but my ex does not even show his face, he is not a problem to us. on the other hand my fiance has two kiddos from two drifferent women. to me its a little hard to get used to the idea that they "the mother's" will always be a part in his life. one other thing is that one of them is not happy with me and him being together. she is not very nice to me when we see eachother. he said he had talked to her about it. he tells me just to ignore her. really not sure how to handle her or the situation because i don't want to fight with her or cause any problems between them. you know make things worst! for right now i try to ignore the whole thing but its hard. she told him she doesn't want to see us together when she is around or when he pick up the kid. she wants respect but she can't respect me...
it might get bad when she finds out that him and i are planning our wedding for next year.

2007-10-09 08:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by preciosa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

that think.s wine is horried .

2007-10-09 08:46:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Just broken up with a man that I really loved. Not really by choice but it had to be done. Would it be really mean to send him pictures, cards and emails between us for him to get rid of along with a note telling him it is just too painful to look at the stuff any longer?

2007-10-09 08:43:55 · 10 answers · asked by hmbuehler1 1 in Singles & Dating

A very close friend of mine has been married for 3 months. The other day, he found out that she is cheating on him and he told her that he wanted a divorce. She lives in the home with no children and because he doesnt want to be around her, he has taken him and his child (previous relationship) to a friends house. She has no job and he pays all the bills. Is there a way that he can have the house and she move home with her parents? He lived in the home before her and signed the lease a few years ago. She has been staying with her new "boyfriend" but wont vacate. What should he do prior to divorce?

2007-10-09 08:43:29 · 7 answers · asked by :) 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Lately I've been purposly hurting myself. It actually makes me feel better, which is somthing that doesn't make a lot sence to me. My mom and I have been fighting worse and worse as I've grown up; and it's not getting any better. I have this Teddy bear, and having him up to my face just calms me down (since I've done that since I was a baby) It's a fool proof way to calm me down, and let my stress melt away. My mom this I'm sucking on my fingers (like I used to do when I was little) and dispite my millions of time of telling her I'm not, and that it just makes me feel better, she compares me to a baby and took it away (to God knows where) ALSO; during our fights she doesn't listen to what you have to say. She thinks of only what she will say and ignores you and if she thinks that you're a ***** then yea. You're a ***** to her, can't change her mind no matter what (yes she thinks I'm a *****) Lately she's been slapping me, so I also hurt myself. Is it wrong to do this to myself?

2007-10-09 08:43:23 · 7 answers · asked by Melissa N 2 in Family

Usually guys like 16+ think im cute, they always so how beautiful i am and stuff, well how come boys my age dont say that stuff.. i meen some do.. but it seems like more older guys like me.

2007-10-09 08:42:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

reduced? What is the amount based on, like minimum wage or what if one parent is unemployed? Really in this case the custodial parent does not work either so how is this fiqured. The amount has been set since the divorce when the noncustodial parent was working, just wondering? Child support has been paid somewhat by family at times This is a difficult situation, where the non-custodial parent was mental problems but draws no disability or income. Thanks

2007-10-09 08:41:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My live in boyfriend ...has a drug addiction. And is blowing all our money on it. he's only partially honest with me about what he dose. but he dose tell me he's not doing it on perpous or to hurt us (i have children) but at the same time refuses to get help on his own..I love him very much and i need to know how i can help him or if theres any thing i can do to force him into treatment (i'm his health care proxy) I don't want to leave him if i don't have to...

2007-10-09 08:38:47 · 4 answers · asked by ME 1 in Family

let the stress begin.i found out what team i was on, 7-4. i was so excited because my best friend in the whole world was on my team. but, when we went to school they were all people we didn't know (losers, no offense..) and EVERYONE else was on 7-2. i used to have a best friend. his name was adam. we used to talk on the phone for hours and IM each other forever. my best friend (shes the one who's on my team) her name is nori. shes the one who introduced me to adam. remeber when i said we talked on the phone and computer nonstop? well we did that with nori. from chat rooms to 3-way we talked so much. the 1st time we talked on the phone was july 4th. then nori and adam start dating and adam breaks up with her 3 days later for his neighbor lauren. all phone calls ended. we talked on the computer less. they are still going out, mind you. and when i see adam in the halls he never says hi to us and in gym... (this is really long and im runing out of room so im typing in additional details).

2007-10-09 08:35:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

y do women complain about the toilet seat being up? do girls actually get annoyed with this? r they actually that lazy to put it down?

y cant they put it up 4 us the cheeky lil ******

2007-10-09 08:34:39 · 10 answers · asked by sugarplop9 1 in Singles & Dating

I was married for three years, and have been separated (now divorced) for a year and a half. My ex sent all wedding pictures to me after I moved home from overseas where we were living together. Until now I've had them at the bottom of a box in my closet, as I'm unsure what to do with them. It seems like a shame to throw them out, but at the same time they're pictures of my past - no longer the life I'm living. My boyfriend and I have recently decided to move in together and these pictures make him uncomfortable. (Understandably so.) Unfortunatly after spending 5 years with my ex, there are a lot of "memories" floating around in the form of photographs, some in albums which include close friends and family members. I have no negative feelings towards my ex. I'm not sure what to do. Should I chuck them? Burn them? Give them to family? Any advice would be great - especially if you have experience with this.

2007-10-09 08:34:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've asked a lot of questions about this girl but I really like her and I'm really stressed and a little depressed. I'm a really nice guy and I have done beyond what a normal person would do to show how someone that they like them. The reason why I'm stressed and a little upset with myself is because I didn't get a job that I kind of needed because I didn't want to ruin my chances with this girl. She works at Ihop and I had a chance to get that job. I currently have a job but I don't work very much which is why I was looking for a second job to pay some bills. I can get by with what I make now but barely. I really like this girl but she said she didn't have any feelings for me yet she makes it seem like we still have a chance to take our friendship to the next level. I know its kind of pathetic but I have never had a girlfriend I think its because I'm really shy. I'm not bad looking btw. I'm 19 years old and she is 18 years old, what should I do?

thanks

2007-10-09 08:33:38 · 14 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband's ex has custody of his 5 year old son. He is supposed to have his son on holidays and school vactions, but she refuses to let him come (she lives in another state). We have a lawyer and have gone to court. The court told her she must let the visitation happen or she would be in contempt, but still she did not let him visit. He has not seen his son in over a year. The last court date we had was in June and finally we have one set for the end of November. Can he ask for custody of his child based on her not following court orders which are based on the best interest of the child? He is also paying a lot of child support plus the cost of the child's travel expense (which she has never returned). She says the only income she has to support herself is child support so she can't get the child here.

2007-10-09 08:31:08 · 22 answers · asked by klyn 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he said she and him have a relationgship. mind you, this girl has been married twice, just kicked her husband out, and has a little girl she doesn't see much. the husband has taken care of the little girl, since this woman works 6 days a week

2007-10-09 08:29:47 · 15 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been dating for 4 months he told me he loved me twice when we were physical with each other then a few weeks later he said indirectly that when people feel vulnerable they say things like that...I don't wanna waste my time he's great and nobody us perfect but I feel like I can"t trust his feelings and I feel like ending it It was pretty much like he was playing with my feelings...he also said he loved me when we would talk on the phone and this was after we were physical. please share some insight.

2007-10-09 08:27:41 · 29 answers · asked by Ginger 2 in Singles & Dating

i dont think i want any children later on (i might change my mind, idk)...honestly, i think theyre too much responsibility and i feel they're going to tie me down for good. i know many people believe happiness cannot be accomplished when a couple, for example, decides not to have any children.


id rather not go into detail about my opinion on this, but id like to know other people's views on this.

2007-10-09 08:23:18 · 16 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

down right too dirty for me .would you be pleased ;or horrifed.

2007-10-09 08:18:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please help me with my husband's 30th birthday this weekend!

2007-10-09 08:17:06 · 11 answers · asked by Mlle 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well here is is, I am very much in love with my boyfriend and I know he intends to ask me to marry him in the near future (saw the ring) but I think that I need to let him go. He loves me more then anything and tells me so every day, he wants me to have his kids and be the last woman he is ever with. Still I have a gut feeling that I cannot shake. I think in the long run we will not work out. On the other hand just the thought of letting him go breaks my heart. He is 30 and I am 36, I want kids he wants to wait another year at least, what should I do. I know letting him go is the right thing but why does it hurt so much to do the right thing?

2007-10-09 08:13:06 · 7 answers · asked by one Life to live 3 in Singles & Dating

Last weekend a guy called me and invited me to go downtown. I was already out on the town, so my friends and I met up with him and his friend. He offered to check my coat, bought me all my drinks, only danced with me and walked me to my car. He's definitely a gentleman and didn't try to make any moves.

So was that a date? Or what was he thinking?

2007-10-09 08:12:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is she really out of pain, or do they just say that to make people feel better?

2007-10-09 08:12:16 · 5 answers · asked by hello_starshine 2 in Family

how do girls react when they say they love u compared and mean it compared to if they say they love u and dnt mean it ?

what body language/ tone in voice etc can i look out for in my new partner to see if she rele means it when she loves me

above - same question in 2 ways depending on interpretation, what signs will girls give if they love u or the relationship is jus a farce?

2007-10-09 08:10:19 · 1 answers · asked by stuart l 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What do yal think about pre-martial sex???? i am not married and i have sex with my Fiance and him only but we are getting married....
What do u think???

Find me interesting???? dont forget to mark the star. best answer will get 10 points

2007-10-09 08:09:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

cuz i want a gf so badly .......so how do i do it

2007-10-09 08:02:07 · 9 answers · asked by LilROb 1 in Singles & Dating

Sex with my bf has always been great, but when i put on a bit of weight over the years he made it clear that i wasnt 'physically attractive' to him anymore. Although this is a problem for me because i love him and ofcourse want to make him happy, i know i am not physically repulsive and part of me prefers my look now. Because of this though i feel incredible insecure in the bedroom, and i dont feel i can satisfy him as well as i used to, because at the end of the day it all comes down to confidence, and i just dont have it around him because i know how he feels...(yes he has voiced it.)
What can i do?

2007-10-09 08:01:06 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what do you think of when your hear the word jockstrap and cup? have you had anything to do with one?

2007-10-09 08:00:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-09 07:58:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-09 07:58:39 · 8 answers · asked by sweetie 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm a first semester freshman at college and I took a class here over the summer and fell in love with the school.

I came back in August expecting to live with a good friend of mine but she ended up transfering instead i got a jehova witness who tried to convert me...I couldn't take it so i moved out into a sports dorm which I was told I would be in until the end of the semester. A week later the girl's roommate came back so I had to move again. A week after that my cash got stolen!!

I didn't have that great of grades in high school and I really want to transfer. It's breaking my mother's heart and I can't understand why!! She's so afraid I'm going to end up not being accepted anywhere else for next semester

She really wants me to stick it out but i'm MISERABLE!! I'm not eating right, I'm depressed, I don't talk to people!! This wasn't me a year ago!!

She refuses to help me look at other schools
she just wants me to get used to here
but i hate it here!!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?!!!
HELP!

2007-10-09 07:57:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating