he said she and him have a relationgship. mind you, this girl has been married twice, just kicked her husband out, and has a little girl she doesn't see much. the husband has taken care of the little girl, since this woman works 6 days a week
2007-10-09 08:29:47 · 15 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess that's up to you, this other woman sounds like a hot ho in bed and once your hubby and her move in together he may find out that's all they have in common, hopefully your hubby will come to his senses before it's too late for the 2 of you.. best of luck to you.
2007-10-09 08:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is a very difficult situations as is every situation where a spouse cheats. The relationship CAN be mended but it will never be the same as it once was.
You have to decide what YOU want here. It will be beneficial to you to seek out a friend or family member whom you can trust or a counselor who can help you as well. Maybe even both.
The next best thing will be talking to your husband. Get the facts (or try) and figure out what his next intentions are. Keep in mind that this is not your fault and that you did not deserve this. He is the one who did the bad thing here, and many times cheating husbands will turn the situation around and blame the wife. It migh be beneficial to talk by getting marriage counseling.
Before you automatically decide to get a divorce, as that is not ALWAYS the best thing, you need to do a few things. Find out if your husband plans on continuing to see this woman, if he is sorry, if he wants to try to make things work, etc. Keep in mind though that any of his answers could be a lie. But also remember that many marriages with a cheating spouse have been mended. It just takes hard work and a sincere willingness to try and be honest. You will have the painstaking job of deciding whether or not to trust him again. He will have to earn that trust back, something that takes an extreme amount of time. But, if both of you decide that you want to try to make things work again, marriage counseling is the place to start.
Keep in mind that EVERYONE makes mistakes. You have made mistakes in your marriage and he has made them too. Some have greater consequences, like this one.
Granted, cheaters often cheat again, but some do realize their horrid mistake and, in the end, become better for it. Not that that is an excuse at all.
Conclusively, you need to find someone to talk to (in person) and possibly a counselor. You need to have a talk with your husband. Things will never be the same again, divorce or no divorce, but a cheater, as horrible as they are, are not always the end all to a relationship.
By the way, it is okay to be hurt, to be mad, to be angry, frustrated, confused, and every emotion of the like. You have every right. But there are better ways than others to handle it. Talk to someone, don't act irrationally, and don't, like, go out and kill him or anything.
If you ever want to talk some more or have any questions, feel free to email me.
2007-10-09 08:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Julie D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi, i think of you may furnish your self with protection and pass forward with the divorce. particular, it must be the money (cynically talking) or i assume extra than a number of alternative reasons. maximum states have a default divorce available. I only moved from NJ and there as quickly as you record for divorce the different individual has 35 days to respond. in the event that they don't respond you may record for default meaning the divorce is going on without them. it could take yet another 35 days to get on the courtroom docket or so counting on the state of jurisdiction (which may be the place you and your spouse resided in the process the marriage). you do not choose a legal expert to try this. They call it submitting professional se commonly and you may record for approximately 250.00. you additionally can qualify for legal help which might get you loose legal suggestion over the telephone. they gained't signify you in courtroom yet might furnish you with each thing you may renowned. i'm very sorry you're dealing with this- yet please, please, please do what you may do to furnish your self with protection. no rely what the circumstances are, your spouse gave up her suited to something and not responding contained in the final 7 yrs.
2016-10-06 09:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband has told u they have a relationship, than where does this leave u, hurting and feeling rejected. it would just be easier to get a divorce, but first before u do ask your husband if he would be willing to get therapy, and give her up, if not there is no hope and u need to get out of this with your dignity. why stay or invest anymore time with someone who lives someone else.
2007-10-09 12:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he made his choice clear to you, then you just have to move on. Unless, you want to see how long those two last and are ready to give him a chance when he comes back to you.
There's no right or wrong.
Only what you believe in and what you can cope with.
At some point though, you have to make the choice to move forward and look out for yourself.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 08:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know exactly how u feel! i went through a really similar situation, except the whore did not work and the idiot took from our family to support her stupid butt! needless to say i found out and confronted him with names and what not and gave him the choice of dumping her or saying bye to his family.. i reminded him that she would probably dump him when i drained him financially for child support for our three kids. i left for awhile, packed my kids stuff and let him fend for himself. i chose to forgive him for the sake of our family and the fact that i had invested 15 yrs with him. but if u can't forgive him 100% and let it go without bringing it up when u argue, don't waste time get a divorce because u will be miserable!
2007-10-09 09:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by gurlynmgurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yell at him and work it out. don't waste money on marriage counseling. go to your pastor, priest or rabbi. you get better results. Also, write him a letter saying that you love him. the rest is up to him. if he still is not interested, start your new life but let him dovorce you. start going out after work or taking the kids away on the weekends.
2007-10-09 08:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by jazz41 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she must be a great lay because he's obviously thinking with his penis and not his brain, otherwise he'd see what a loser she is. i say, let the birds of the same feather flock together. this is the bed he wants to make, so let him. their relationship is doomed so just sit back and enjoy the show.
2007-10-09 08:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer that question.
Is he going to keep seeing her? If not can you forgive him and get past this?
2007-10-09 08:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Earl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't over react.... is he still treating you nice??
Go check out the movie "I Think I Love My wife", it just came out on DVD.... It's what some guys have to deal with...
2007-10-09 08:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋