Family & Relationships - 12 October 2007

Sorry I had to post this once again...but I'm in desperate need for help

I love my guy friend and I'm not sure what's next. I know FOR SURE that I'm special to him, that he has deep feelings for me, but I'm puzzled by this awkwardness and distancing behavior. It had been for the past few months of pulling and pushing (from his side).

I know he’d been struggling with his own issues/feelings & I helped him through some of them…but I can’t do it this time because my feelings are involved too!

I’m withdrawing away from him & giving him his space. Would he consider this as loss of interest or abandonment?



(10 pts for the most helpful answer)



Thanks

2007-10-12 23:39:51 · 10 answers · asked by HopeH 4 in Singles & Dating

I really love him,but I am the opossite of his girlfriend.She is blond,she wears dresses that are so short(:(),she has legs like sticks and blue eyes.I've got dar hair and eyes,yes I am tall like her and pretty,but she is like a princess....I won't do anything with them,I won't try to brake them up(only cause if i do he will hate me and they will get even closer)that night she wore a dress and I white pants,brown shirt and sweet brown shoes.Her hair was streiht mine was wild....I don't have a chanse with him...We are on msn all the time but he didn't sey hi that night.It was just like in a film,i came and they left,i was with left my mouth open like what the ****....Pls help....

2007-10-12 23:35:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i ADORE my best frnds boyfrnd. i like him sooooo much. he flirts wid me all da tyme. but he really loves my frnd. i cant take it. its driving me mad. i feel soooooo jealous. last nite, we had this function thingii in skl. so, i went up in the buildin. no1 was there. it was dark. i needed somthin from my locker. he saw me and came 2. he started flirtin alot. i was like "omg, josh, thinks britney spears is hot." and then hes like "well, i think ur hot." n i did say nething.
THIS MAKES ME WANT HIM MORE. he knos i like him. but he likes my frnd wayyy more.

2007-10-12 23:33:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im a girl who is 13 years old. B4 3 months a boy in my school (who is a leader 4 a gang called (Black Fire) asked me to join his gang. Of course i refused not 4 a personal thing but bcoz his gang and he are trouble makers and they wer about to be fired frm the school 2 times. he tried hard to induce me to join his gang but i refused too.
aftr 4 days he started to tell my friends wrong bad things about me and they believed him.and they started to leave me one aftr another till i found my self alone.
The last Monday I went to Jhon(The leader of the gang) and asked him y he is doing this with me? He answerd me by 2 chices either to join his gang or i will be unlikely girl soon. i went to my friends and told them all the story but no one listend or believed me wat shall I do? Do i join his disgusting gang and get my friends back or just do nothing and be the most unlikable girl in school. im losing my life plz help me in any way.

2007-10-12 23:32:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

One of my closest friends is having marital problems & out of respect, I've asked that she consult a professional. I just don't want to give bad advice or interfere in any way. On the other hand, her husband has been calling a lot. He keeps tabs on me thru her. So he'll call and want rant to me about their problems. I've tried explaining that I don't want to be put in the middle, but he'll go on and give me personal details. For the most part I ignore him, and have made it known to my friend that I'm uneasy with his behavior.

Lately, he's been behaving inappropriately, telling me he loves me. Or he'll give me tight hugs and make some kind of creepy comment about how I'm wonderful. Really, I've tried to ignore it, but my friend seems to be sticking with him because of guilt but it's just he's downright repulsive. today he even sent me a msg about how I'm ungrateful, because I ignore the people that love & adore me most, and then he asked me to send photos. No way. How do i handle this?

2007-10-12 23:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been chatting to a guy for over 12 months. We finally met yesterday. He had quite a big indentation on his left hand where a wedding band should be. He explained this as his wedding ring was too tight and had to have it cut off. I never even suspected he could have been married....he seems genuine...but you just never know. Is there any site in Australia that I could find out if he is married.

2007-10-12 23:26:21 · 11 answers · asked by rightio 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a co-worker that is a friend as well, and everytime I disagree with her she either starts crying, or gets angry. If I tell her about her personallity flaws when asked she takes everyting personally.

2007-10-12 23:20:56 · 6 answers · asked by hunt4 1 in Friends

It's my birthday today ... 34 years old ...

I've never had a 'good' birthday and this year is no exception.

I've had a grand total of 3 cards and I even bought one of those myself!!

Just wondered if there's anyone else in the world having a crap day too?

2007-10-12 23:20:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my age is 23, i look some more heavy with height 6.2(with out shoe) & weight ( 85kgs)...i feel people look me in a different way.. when they look like that i feeling sie...i dont no will an indian girl like my height or not..i dont no will any person with this height in this world or not...thinking about all this things i am going 2 depression mode..and many times my mind is diverting 2 suicide point.(death)........that time hardly i am controling my self...plz tell me how 2 control this kind of thoughts...bcoz i want lead my life happlly...like others...how much of weight should i loss 2 look good..and what kind of dress should i ware 2 look good...will an indian girl like my height and they will like 2 marry me? or not!...is 6.2(with out shoe) is over height? is people will be their with this height?.....plz give me an idea how 2 acheive my life in a happy way...plz plz give me ur valuble suggestions 2 me.....plz dont give joke &silly answere....bcoz its my life...my dear friends.

2007-10-12 23:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by hyderabad g 1 in Friends

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2007-10-12 22:27:00 · 6 answers · asked by sanjay k 1 in Friends

Physically fit,intelligent about a variety of subject matter,intuitive and a great guitarist musician.

2007-10-12 22:03:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The guy she wants to go out with is much older then him, and a big buff football type jock, i have had a huge crush on her an i think she knows an she doesn't seem to care a t all i think we would make an awesome couple but its like she always teasin me an it really hurts me cuz i wish i was that football playin dude who shes goin all ga ga crazy for

SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW HIM like she knows me

how can she go crazy for someone she doesn't even know does anyoner know what i mean?

2007-10-12 22:01:05 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-12 21:58:40 · 3 answers · asked by AVALINE C 1 in Singles & Dating

i mean, i'm still a virgin and i came from a "conservative" family but i really do wanna have se/x.. this is maybe due to curiousity..im only 19 by the way..

2007-10-12 21:34:06 · 16 answers · asked by czai 1 in Singles & Dating

Let's say the that both teacher and student belong to a university. Both are single. Their age difference is 4 years. They are both in their 20's.

Now here are the questions:

- If you are NOT in his class, would it be wrong to the eyes of the university to date him?

-If you wait until you graduate, would it be wrong to the eyes of the university to date him?

-Either way [whether you were out of his class or graduated] would it hurt his career?

Please answer all three questions.

2007-10-12 21:23:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend and I like the same boy. He likes one of us but we don't know what one. We asked him like 19 times and he still won't talk to us. What should we do?

2007-10-12 21:19:59 · 18 answers · asked by XD487 1 in Friends

He looks at me sometimes..I catch him
and when i was in the dinner hall
I walked past him and he looked at me from behind and smiled
when i'm around him he looks a bit awcrawrd[sorry i have spelling probs]


but I like him anyway
and i dont actually know what to do when i'm around him or say coz i've never spoken to him apart from once on the net :P
what could i do and say?
remember this [He's kind of part of the "Popular" crowd if that exists but he's honestly different and doesn't talk much?


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2007-10-12 21:19:25 · 3 answers · asked by Huggles [mozzafan] 4 in Singles & Dating

Ok the problem is, i have frend at school but 2 of my friends are friend with eachother so we are all friends but they had a very big argument the other day and it has been going on for weeks, i spend time with both of them but when i spend time with one the other thinks i'm ignoring her, then friends start talking about things behind backs (i am there best friend) and when i go to the other one for a chat they say what have they been saying about me but my other best friend told me not too tell and this is just getting out of hand and i am pulling my hair out, is there anyway i can stop this because i hate being half the target and when i say i am not listening to this they get grumpy with me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CAN SOMEBODY HELP ME PLEASE i am so sad :'(

2007-10-12 21:12:02 · 9 answers · asked by Tiddly-Winks 2 in Friends

and the amount of perfume she wear seem to be applied by one of those pest exterminator cans.

Everytime we do it I have to take a bath in tomato juice to get rid of the smell and scrub with Ajax to remove the make-up from my face and weiner.

I don't want to hurt her feelings, should I talk to her about it?

2007-10-12 21:09:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-12 21:06:27 · 6 answers · asked by sanusan_jp 1 in Singles & Dating

Greetings,

Looking for great advice:
I've been married for 7 years and have been with my wonderful husband for a total of 11 years. He is a fantastic person, extremely talented and a genuinely a descent human being. When we got married, I had many different views regarding starting a family, marriage and commitment. Now in my mid thirties, I have differenent thoughts about the issues mentioned above. My husband is a little older and much more conservative than I am. I have become bored and a little anxious about spending the rest of my life with someone that is not at par with my personality and energy level. I'm starting to think that he's not enough....
As for family, before getting married, I agreed on having atleast one. Now, I do not.
As for marriage, I use to think that it was till death do us part. Now, that may be too long.
As for commitment, same as the marriage statement.

When did marriage become such a chain of obligation

2007-10-12 21:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Sara O 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-12 20:56:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-12 20:50:17 · 13 answers · asked by Rawwr* 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm a college educated 20 year old single mom with a beautiful baby girl. I am just curious what you guys think. Would you date a single mom, if so how do you see that sort or relationship working? If not, what would be your reasons for not dating a single mom? Also what, if any, benefits are there to dating a single mom? Any other input, opinions, or experiences are welcome. :)

2007-10-12 20:40:06 · 28 answers · asked by babydoll32 2 in Singles & Dating

I've recently caught my husband::
Hiding to text a girl from work
Phone records show he's been talking/ texting her A LOT!
Notes from this same girl that say "heart" you.
He doodled this girls name in his school notes.
He's been checking into male enhancement stuff.
He's all of a sudden working out a lot.

He says they're just friends & that it's all innocent. If he's cheating, I'd rather work things out than throw my marriage away. I just can't handle being lied to. I dont have any absolutely undeniable proof. I know that something is going on & because he refuses to come clean, I feel like I'm gonna need to spy in order to have hard evidence that he cant deny. I know it might sound stupid, but I feel like if the truth comes out & he has to admit to things, maybe we can work things out. Because none of his explanations make sense, I've been really suspicious & questioning & its really agravating him. I don't want to push him away any more, & spying feels totally wrong.

2007-10-12 20:32:20 · 31 answers · asked by girly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-12 20:31:11 · 2 answers · asked by Beauty 1 in Singles & Dating

What do you most desire in a man's personality?

2007-10-12 20:28:58 · 15 answers · asked by Italian Stallion 2 in Singles & Dating

just means he saw me first and so asked me to dance with me?

when I shyed away, he came back an hour later and we dance for quite a while though...

i should just wait to see what happens huh?

2007-10-12 20:27:19 · 3 answers · asked by sam3345 1 in Singles & Dating

okay...so we all went to the club like a week ago...me the guy I like, and a few of our other friends. Later that night I was freezing and he offered me his shirt & ended up wearing it home....Do you guys think I should return the shirt to his house on one of our off days or should I just bring it to work with me one day??? Remember im kinda shy but I really really like this guy!!! If I take it to his house should I try to talk about anything specificor hang out or offer to go some place???? what should I do if I do drop it off @ his house??

2007-10-12 20:24:10 · 12 answers · asked by jade_06 1 in Singles & Dating

I know the guys girlfriend that my wife was cheating with, I have info that she doesnt know I have, should the GF know that her boyfriend has been unfaitful to her.....

2007-10-12 20:15:29 · 24 answers · asked by LB 1 in Marriage & Divorce