Sorry I had to post this once again...but I'm in desperate need for help
I love my guy friend and I'm not sure what's next. I know FOR SURE that I'm special to him, that he has deep feelings for me, but I'm puzzled by this awkwardness and distancing behavior. It had been for the past few months of pulling and pushing (from his side).
I know he’d been struggling with his own issues/feelings & I helped him through some of them…but I can’t do it this time because my feelings are involved too!
I’m withdrawing away from him & giving him his space. Would he consider this as loss of interest or abandonment?
(10 pts for the most helpful answer)
Thanks
2007-10-12 23:39:51 · 10 answers · asked by HopeH 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should talk to him honestly and clear your feelings to him.He should do the same your not children your adults.Honesty could only do good.Talk to him you're not a game that he could play with you deserve someone who respondes to all the sacrifices and efforts you make.He is not a baby he should learn how to deal up with his feelings lke the rest of us.
2007-10-12 23:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you for sure but he is hesitant to approach you to tell you what he had really felt for you since you both are close friends.He might afraid of rejection. And once he told you his feelings, he might ruin your friendship. That could be the reason why he kept on pulling and pushing. If i were you i will ask or confront him to know what is really goin on with him. It is better for you both to talk about it just to clear things out. Avoiding him is not a solution for your problem. Have a good communication. Good luck!
2007-10-13 07:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by cita e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his behaviour could mean two things :1.he is interested in you personally but is not confident as to whether he should divulge his feelings to you or not.i mean he might be thinking that he may lose you after the confession as he is unsure of your feelings. 2. he is interested in someone else and he is behaving in an awkward manner because he doesn't want to hurt you.
anyways you try to establish a comfort level between the two of you.then allow him to let loose.talk to him in a way that assures him that you are there to help him,listen to him and make things work. all the best.
2007-10-13 07:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by @@ye$#@...... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a guy would see this as loss of interest and abandoment. Works like this..if you felt anything real for him you would not withdraw. A guy sees other girls THROW themselfs at other guys, and wonders why it does not happen to him. After all she would if she did like him, right?
2007-10-13 06:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly speaking u r right. Because if our own feelings are affecting us, definitely we should think off some other think. If we affect with our own feeling we will lose our concentration and in the emotional sense we will take wrong decisions if any good decisions we should take. so whatever u did is right.
2007-10-13 06:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by kaizen2k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could mean he's done something he's ashamed of or feels guily about and doesn't wanna hurt u. it could also mean that yes he has feelings for u but is interested in someone else. by the sounds of it he has something to tell u but doesn't want to hurt u!
2007-10-13 06:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask HIM this question?
I just had an Epiphany! Here we are asking other people what 'he/she' might be thinking; what would they do if; what if I do this or that, what would be their reaction?
Why don't we just ask the bloody person?? If you're not asking the person, you already know the answer, you're afraid of it, and you're here looking for a second opinion to reaffirm what you're already thinking.
2007-10-16 03:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldnt u like a guy who liked u & told u he liked u? dont chase after guys who are half hearted. go for guys who genuinely like u, i mean if he did then he would indeed tell u
2007-10-13 06:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by vanilla_thrilla01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...the whole thing, affair is too vague to be of value to either of you someone has to do something here to make things happen.....everything there seems stagnant
2007-10-13 06:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's gay
2007-10-13 06:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋