Family & Relationships - 12 October 2007

My dad still works at a minimum wage job, but gets excellent benefits and social security. I do have a job myself but I find it hard to support me, my wife and children along with my parents. My dad is 75 and he says that he might not have enough money to live if he retires. I always insisted that he retire and I can help him out. As a child, you always want to return something to your parents. He claims that he wants to retire and does not work anymore. He feel that we would not have enough to survive. I feel kind of guilty that he is still working at 75 years old. Please help me cope with this feeling. Do you know anyone that works at 75 yrs old?

2007-10-12 18:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by JohnSSS 1 in Family

A friend of mine is looking for a venue to ost her reception at, she is looking for a historical building/house that she can hire for the night that has nice surrounds for pictures etc...she will also be having the vows at the site, can anyone rcommend a suitable place (she does not want the typical wedding venues available) she is on a budget and is looking at a casual occasion possibly cocktail party, finger food or buffet style ...not a formal sitdown
thanks

2007-10-12 18:13:44 · 1 answers · asked by a k 2 in Weddings

hello,
if your new and havent been following my whole story then ill fill u in. my first question got deleted so i ended up re wording it in the second. i was talkin about my girl friend and how im 19 and shes............kinda alot younger than me and our relationship. she loves me and i love her and she does everything that i tell her to like a girl is suppose to act toward her man. they do wat there told. but now in my third installment to my problem, the thing is i kinda hit her sometimes wen i get angry. but the thing is, she apologizes to me wen i hit her and stuff like she was wrong. is she wrong or am i wrong? or is she jus a real lady who no's her place? help please.

2007-10-12 18:12:40 · 16 answers · asked by Dread 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and it has been wonderful. The first year he kept me private and away from his family. we both decided we were ready for his family to meet me. so i met them and they have been wonderful except for his mother. His dad died when he was 19 and he has taken the responsiblity role of being the father figure to his brothers which i respect alot. The only problem is is that his mother acts like she is married to him. We happen to share the same birthday and whatever he gets me she has to get equal or better or she is unhappy. If he spends time with me like private time she tells him she feels ignored and left out. If he takes me on vacation or to a concert he has to explain to her why she cant come along. It just gets frustrating because i feel like its not our relationship like its me him and his mom and i dont know how to deal with it she is starting to come between us by causing drama about random things. I honestly dont know what to do..

2007-10-12 18:05:32 · 5 answers · asked by Nesie L 1 in Family

My husband says there's nothing like the love you feel for your children- but I think why have children if you can't give them everything possible. He believes children make your life fulfilling- meaningful...Do all couples feel this way after the child is starting to grow up or do regrets start?

2007-10-12 18:05:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He is spending more time with his single friends than with his family, playing sports every night and also cominh home at midnight and then telling me he went to the bar with firnds after the softball game. Or am I just over reacting.. Help!!!!

2007-10-12 17:57:15 · 14 answers · asked by th 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We were only married for slightly more that one year. We have no children and my heart is breaking into. She was my Maid of Honor at out wedding. I feel so betrayed Will the hurt ever end?

2007-10-12 17:56:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Met a guy from a singles website. He had a pic up and everything, said that his relationship status was "single". We had lunch and did a little smooching afterward. I did just an open record, free search on him and found out that he's married. They even just bought a house a few months ago.... when I asked him about it, at first he denied it was him but he eventually told me that it's too expensive for a divorce (which I know is not true in all cases, this was not someone with a lot of assets). Anyway, think I should contact the wife and let her know her husband is on a dating website?? I'd want to know...

2007-10-12 17:53:45 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

how do i tell my dad that im moving in with my bf in March...ill be 19 by then...but im his only child and baby girl....and i really dont want to hurt him..

2007-10-12 17:53:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am 17 years old and I am barely on my first boyfriend, I just lost my virginity and that's good according to most girls I know. I have never been to a party and just barely started going to the movies thanks to my boyfriend. When we go to the movies I have to bring a cell phone so my mom could keep in contact and I understand that but we see a early movie and when it's over my mom wants me right back home to stay for the rest of the day. I don't have a curfew but when ever I leave she wants me to come back right away. If I'm borded then I just have to deal with it because my mom accuses me of sneaking off to motels with my boyfriend when I do leave. I got a job and she wants 150 a month and she doesn't even have a job cause my dad works. She spends money on useless things and I think I shouldn't have to pay rent until 18. She wants to keep count of my money and every little thing I do. I'm I wrong to feel disapointed and unwanted. I'm 18 in 2 wks and ready to move.I'm not happy

2007-10-12 17:49:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-12 17:45:39 · 33 answers · asked by ******** 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 28...not that it matters. My friend and I had an argument Monday night because I told him some things that were bothering me about our friendship...like the way he treats me, etc. He "thinks" I'm too dependent on him (I'm not) and says that he thinks that we shouldn't see each other as often (we were seeing each other weekly). I haven't heard from him since, but he said to give him 2 weeks and he'd talk to me soon. Fine. The problem I'm having now is that he knows that my biggest fear in the world is losing people close to me (long story) and I'm so hurt and angry at him for doing what he did, but at the same time, I miss him so much. Part of me just wants to see and talk to him, but part of me really wants to tell him to go to you know where. I don't want to lose his friendship, though. I'm just not sure how to respond when he calls again. He didn't end the friendship. He's just being an *A* hole right now. I'm just hurt, angry and sad at the same time. Help!

2007-10-12 17:45:26 · 3 answers · asked by First Lady 7 in Singles & Dating

So I have a friend at school and he can have anger problems, he is really annoying and he can't take stuff seriously and has this annoying things he does with his voice (very hard to explain like a mhhm ><) anyway, I was in science with him and he like yelled at me and the other girl we were working with 'cause he couldn't hear us. He is also ways showing me his emo scar and he pulled my sisters pigtail once while she walked away and he wasnt finished talking to her. I dont want to judge him because I really don't know whats wrong with him. but does anyone have an idea?

2007-10-12 17:41:58 · 18 answers · asked by robokiss4 1 in Friends

2007-10-12 17:40:40 · 24 answers · asked by sexy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-12 17:40:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We work in the same store together and he's sooo fine. He's cool, nice and we talk and say hello, but that's about it. We might exchange stares, but girls who don't even work at the store know who he is and I think they might have a better chance than me. I don't even know if he has a girl, I don't think so. But I wanna at least start talking to him more. PLz, give me some advice.

2007-10-12 17:36:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have business lunches practically every weekday. People sometimes tell me I'm always dressed up.
I'm a mostly wear 32 size waist chinos and dockers, sometimes I'm a 30 waist, but not usually.
Shirt sizes seem to vary more by brand because I have a lot of S and M size shirts, and they all fit great.

My mom and sisters have bought me for the last 5 years the same thing for my birthday, Christmas, and anytime they feel like it: SHIRTS.
But I never wear the shirts, they ALWAYS buy me XL size shirts. I keep telling them I'm an M. But they keep buying XL sizes.
They buy me Perry Ellis, Calvin Klein, Polo all the brands I wear. But I keep telling them I'm an M. I tell them everytime before my birthday or Christmas, I'M AN "M"!!

They are too big for me, I just don't wear them. I have my closet full of them, some with the tag still on. They are taking up too much space.

Should I just throw them away?

2007-10-12 17:35:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Everytime I meat a girl , Im very nice and sweet. I even buy them flowers and candy. I tell me nice things and Im basically a perfect gentlemen . I always end up either losing the girl or some other guy taking her away. Im not sure if being a nice guy is the way to go ? Im actually over nice and over sweet. Does this work with the ladies. Im confused .

2007-10-12 17:31:43 · 39 answers · asked by Black Jack 1 in Singles & Dating

I am curious because i seem to be more attracted to older women. am i nuts?

2007-10-12 17:29:41 · 34 answers · asked by betafishj 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband told my friend on more then one occasion he wanted to have sex with her. After he continued to tell her that, she confided in me. I confronted him and he admitted it and apologized. Of course he blamed the liquor but I know better then that, liquor has never made me hit on his friends. I am having a very hard time forgetting this and moving on and forgiving him. I do beleive he is sorry but again, I'm not an idiot, he got caught, had she not been the good friend she is, who knows where it may have led. This happened alomost a year ago and he has given me no reason not to trust him since then but I cannot let it go! I want to forgive and forget but I keep reliving it in my head and wondering "what if she said yes!" How can I get over this? Or since I can't seem to, is our relationship doomed? We have a 2 year old son, two stepsons (we've been together for 7 years, married for 3 of those). Any advice?

2007-10-12 17:26:47 · 19 answers · asked by jill 1 in Marriage & Divorce

yea its me again. my last question got deleted for some reason so now im re wording it. b4 i was talking about me and my girlfriend and our age difference. for those of u who dont no lets just say,....im 19 and she's.....younger then me. but like i was saying before she does everything i tell her to like a real girl suppose to act towards her man. she dosent talk back to me because i keep her in line. she no's her place. but sometimes i just feel guilty like im taking advantage of this girl. but she's my girlfriend n she loves me n i love her. but my point im trying to make is, i feel like im taking advantage of a girl that is younger younger younger than me. i dont no she seems to b perfectly fine with everything i tell her to do and how i treat her. somebody lend me so advice please i need another view on this.

2007-10-12 17:26:02 · 19 answers · asked by Dread 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been in a relationship with my now fiance' for 3 years. He has a 16 year old daughter and I have a 14 year old daughter. We've been trying to "blend" families this whole time. He and I get along well. As a matter of fact, other than "putting out fires" regarding the kids, we have never had an argument of our own.
His child has quite a few issues she's had to deal with since about 8 years old (ie. mother leaving, sister leaving, allergic to everything, asthma, can't fit in socially at school, not doing well in school, behavior problems, etc.). I've tried to be understanding, but ignoring is something I'm finding hard to do. He says she's "acting out"; I say those "acts" need to be discussed and handled. He says she's been through enough. She never gets disciplined for detentions at school, being arrested, foul language, etc. My daughter doesn't understand why she gets disciplined for the same thing we overlook regarding his daughter. I'm ready to just give up on us.

2007-10-12 17:25:41 · 22 answers · asked by Just Fiine 2 in Family

What do you about people who talk dirt about EVERYONE behind their backs!
Im sort of stuck in a bad situation with friends who talked crap about everyone, and they are completely denying it!!!!!!

What do you do in a situation?

I cant beleive that people still do this...even after high school!

2007-10-12 17:20:33 · 21 answers · asked by Nicole S 1 in Friends

A month and a half my nephew got kicked out of the house by his girlfriend, i told him he could stay at my place but he would have to pay a little bit towards the rent 150 dollars, he is working and i figured he could pay me but his girlfriend has been messing with his mind and he has been giving her money and he has been lieing to me about it, he said he was supposed to get paid october 2 but it is now the 12th, he said he was getting a check today and that he would be paying me today, i was relying on the money to pay for my Gout medicine and to buy some food, feeding him costs money out of my pocket, he used up all the minutes on my cell phone talking to his girlfriends dog, i got a cell phone for emergencies there has been times my gout has been so bad i had to go to the emergency room, he is acting like a bum to me, i would buy him subway dinners and cigerettes for him because he is my nephew, what should i do about this situation?

2007-10-12 17:20:33 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

that you felt like going outside and yelling at the tops of your lungs....but you didn't do it thinking that someone would think you we're crazy? Curious because I feel that way now.

2007-10-12 17:19:32 · 5 answers · asked by Marky Marc 3 in Family

So my son is 12 and will turn 13 in February. My problem is that he is so aggressive and angry that I don't know what to do. He is mouthy and rude. He told me yesterday that I should "get a clue" that his groundings weren't working. He said that all I was accomplishing was making him angry. I can't get him to do his homework or chores. His dad and I are divorced but he lives with his step-father and me. Right now, his step-father is only home on the weekends due to job issues. His transfer should be complete within the next month but I'm not sure we can make it that long. He sees his dad every other weekend and has grandparents that are very involved. I don't like to spank (I was abused as a child). Maybe that's where I have screwed up. PLEASE help. I am not sure I can survive HIS puberty!

2007-10-12 17:15:14 · 18 answers · asked by Lynda M ♥ 3 in Family

i am the mom of my 4 month old daughter and i was involved with a "man" and now he says hes not the dad how can i make him pay he changed his number and moved how can i get child support he lied about his last name i am in texas WHAT IS TEXAS LAW HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!

2007-10-12 17:12:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she has no self control is really nosy and only thinks about herself. she is so different from me and she always makes me feel horrible whenever im around her. HELP ME!!

2007-10-12 17:11:35 · 6 answers · asked by ty 2 in Family

do you think this is normal we were traveling and at the hotel pool and we got out for a few minutes and I ended up sitting by my wife and across from her sister. I have pretty small feet for a guy and I think both me and my sister in law noticed that her feet were larger than mine when my wife went to the restroom I was shocked to have my sister in law boldly say look how small your feet are up to mine and she pressed her soles right against mine...honestly she was loving it picking on me and kept talking about it.... and I guess I found it pretty cool too. she left her feet by mine for a long time and even showed my wife the difference in size when she returned. this made me feel kinda funny but i found it kinda turned me on. do you think that I did anything wrong or is this kinda normal would you do it if you were sitting across from me and noticed the same thing

2007-10-12 17:11:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Before you say no, think about it. Not that many people pay as much taxs as you think. They reinvest it or hide it some way.

2007-10-12 17:11:04 · 4 answers · asked by south of france 4 in Marriage & Divorce