she has no self control is really nosy and only thinks about herself. she is so different from me and she always makes me feel horrible whenever im around her. HELP ME!!
2007-10-12 17:11:35 · 6 answers · asked by ty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i just got a really helpful answer from someone about talking to my parents and im grateful, but ive never been huge on doing that. my rents would be weirded out if i started now.
2007-10-12 17:22:17 · update #1
This is a time to talk with your parent. Your mother and father need to know how you feel.
The best time to do that is not when you are emotional or have had enough. Ask your parent for some private time to talk. Wait for him or her to find a time and let them know a couple of things.
First, let your parent know everything this is bugging you. Step-families are tough. Your parent needs to know your struggles.
Second, let your parent know that you want it to work. It may be hard for your parent as well. Beyond anything they probably want everyone to get along and live together well. Your parent will appreciate your willingness to do your part.
2007-10-12 17:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a school counselor or your Pastor/Minister/Priest....what ever you have.. and get an adult to help you. If you go to your parents now it may just divide the family, get yourself helpfirst. Find out why she brings out the negative in you...Is it her?? Are you giving her too much power in your life?? Do you have issues you haven't dealt with yet?? I have 4 siblings and we are all 5 VERY DIFFERENT from eachother. I have 3 kids and they are completely different from eachother........that's called family, but you need to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin NO MATTER WHO IS AROUND!! After you have counseled with an adult maybe they can help you and your step sis or bring the parents in to help.........no matter, you have to live with you.....no one else does. Talk to someone before this effects you more than it is.
2007-10-13 00:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by zekemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, she needs support and does not understand the meaning of boundaries. You will have to teach her. Somewhere along the line you are going to have to establish some kind of common ground. Try to figure out what that is.
If she gets into your stuff, then you need to spend a little money on some hardware: a keyed lock to put on your own bedroom door... or at least your closet, thereby making your closet into a safe for your belongings.
If she inserts herself into your business, you can start by telling her off, then removing yourself from the situation... got for a walk, go study at a friend's house, go lock yourself in your room... whatever.
If she is just doing stuff to bug you, she is getting rewarded by seeing your reaction... so quit giving her that reaction... tell her to go find someone else to play with, then remove yourself from the situation.
When you call her down on her behavior, you don't call her names, just tell her in no uncertain terms what the offending behavior is, what it resembles, and tell her that you will not put up with it.
2007-10-13 00:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so we know your step sister is a horrible person.
So why do you give so much control over your emotional well being to her?
She can't MAKE you feel horrible just by being around her, unless you let her.
2007-10-13 00:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sisters, one is my sister, and the other is my stepsister. BOTH of them are really nosy, but since my stepsister is my 'lil' sis, we fight a lot. She is always getting into my stuff and nosing around...dont get mad at her...get even with her, and then, and only IF u get into trouble, bring it up. it might help u get closer to ur family
2007-10-16 12:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Aireyaunna A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to her in private and tell her that she's making you feel horrible.
2007-10-13 00:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋