yea its me again. my last question got deleted for some reason so now im re wording it. b4 i was talking about me and my girlfriend and our age difference. for those of u who dont no lets just say,....im 19 and she's.....younger then me. but like i was saying before she does everything i tell her to like a real girl suppose to act towards her man. she dosent talk back to me because i keep her in line. she no's her place. but sometimes i just feel guilty like im taking advantage of this girl. but she's my girlfriend n she loves me n i love her. but my point im trying to make is, i feel like im taking advantage of a girl that is younger younger younger than me. i dont no she seems to b perfectly fine with everything i tell her to do and how i treat her. somebody lend me so advice please i need another view on this.
2007-10-12 17:26:02 · 19 answers · asked by Dread 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're for real, let this poor girl go and buy a dog.
2007-10-12 17:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff A 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you gotta realize you are both young.
She ... especially.
You ARE taking advantage of her, and that's why you feel guilty.
Your attitude that "she knows her place" is not really good.
You are still young; and it is a learning experience that you need to grow and realize you need to change that outlook upon her.
She might be young ... but she is not just a puppet.
You say you love her: well build that love and start making personal sacrifices for her...
Start asking her what she would like to do.
She is implicitly obeying you right now simply because she is so much younger than you ... but if you really want this relationship to develop, you will need to realize that as the years go by, she will mature and want to make more of her own decisions.
You need to have built her respect for you by that point.
You can only do that by showing her consideration.
Then she will have grown to respect you and your opinion.
2007-10-13 13:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more info. what exactly do u tell her to do? if its sexual stuf ur taking advantage. if its 'will you do my laundry' or something ur stil taking advantage. if u do love her but u feel like u need to take control somehow at least ad aomething nice when u ask her of something. ad a 'thank u sweetie' or ' i really appreciate this'.
o, and what does it mean when u say 'i keep her in line'?
i just read al the other answrs and i change m mind. she was THIRTEEN! i cant believe u! ok let her go. ur both quite young so find someone around ur age and let HER get on with her life without doing stuf 4 other peopl. and if u cant find someone u like that ISNT underage than why dont u try a 'special people' facility.
2007-10-12 17:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by pj_jc_jh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, thats why its illegal. Because CHILDREN don't have the knowledge to understand that what they are doing is wrong and unnatural. Do you really believe that a One-three-teen year old girl knows how to be in love? Seriously stop this before you scar the girl for life, if you haven't already.
2007-10-12 17:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by scyther_maverick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that she needs another father. You seem to have a problem with gender roles. If you feel guilty. Than maybe you have a reason to. Wait until she is older and than see what happens.
2007-10-12 17:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Spuds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an old pig in the developing stages!
God said to love your wife as Jesus loves the church,not make her obey or treat her like a slave!
& how much younger are we talking about?
If she is under 18,you are a molester.
2007-10-12 17:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound sverry insecure. Why does she have to "know her place" with you? Are you afraid not to have control of her? I think your ego likes having a girl be submissive to you.
And yes, you are taking advantage of her. Set her free!
2007-10-12 17:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your question got deleted because you were talking about something illegal, which is having a physical relationship with a minor.
2007-10-12 17:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by slishou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's OK w/it & the age dfference I don't see why ou'r so worried avout it! She obviously caes about you or she wldn' be going w/hoJust accept things the way they are, she is!! Don't go reading anything into it or you're going to ruin it for u bothl Accept it & be HAPPY about it.. she is! You're not taking advantage of her, unless she says you and she hasn't! Enjoy!!!
2007-10-12 17:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How young is she? You mean you are guilty bcoz of sort of child abuse?
I think the case is so serious if you have done that far
to the girl.
Nway, is it your concience working?
2007-10-12 17:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by jhulia g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋