GUYS! Would you date a single mom?

Question

I'm a college educated 20 year old single mom with a beautiful baby girl. I am just curious what you guys think. Would you date a single mom, if so how do you see that sort or relationship working? If not, what would be your reasons for not dating a single mom? Also what, if any, benefits are there to dating a single mom? Any other input, opinions, or experiences are welcome. :)

Answer 1

would you date a single mom? YES!!!
but dating a single mom varies in many aspects, they differ from the needs and wants. there are strong willed/ strong character single mom who can display a high sense of maturity even in they're 20's, some search for stability with a new reliable partner to date.

dating a single mom doesn't mean you have to be the father of the child... its dating per se, but eventually can also be one deep relationship

if you're goin to ask how will it work... there are men who are responsible enough to handle a relationship and i don't think the child would be a problem or the past issues of the single mom.

would you date a single mom? YES!!!
there is no "they live happily ever after" cliche here... here's the bright side of the benefits... the single mom will feel the redeeming second chance, maybe failed the first one but this will be her victory, she'll feel how special she is amongst other single women.

so for the single mom.. you need to weight every areas, dating as casual relationship with benefits is different from relationship that deals with deep responsibilities such as family.

ascertain your level... do you need or want a husband, a boyfriend, a companion, a sex partner, or just a plain guy friend.

for the men.. i'll answer that later... ^_^

Answer 2

Would You Date Single Mom

Answer 3

no I wouldn't date a single mother and I disagree with scailizithaproblem that only a real man would. What exactly does he man by this? That if you decide a single mother isn't for you that somehow you're not a real man? Anyway, I wouldn't date a single mother for these reasons:
1) most attention in the relationship would be given (quite rightly) to the child. I would rather a situation where attention could be placed on each other, especially at the beginning of the relation ship.
2) dealing with the ex. and personally not feeling comfortable taking part of his role.
3) building a relationship with the child and if things don't work out or end badly having that relationship taken from you.
4) flexibility - being able to do what and when you want at the spur of the moment.

Answer 4

Well, dating a single mom represents more responsibility than some younger people might have time for. If this relationship becomes more than just dating, then essentially you're starting a family even before a marriage. This is strictly based on how the mom and the boyfriend feel regarding the raising of the child.

If the mom is independent, then the boyfriend wouldn't need to be the father-figure, which can be a positive (or negative) depending on the person.

I personally don't have a definite answer, although I would say that dating a single mom shouldn't be a problem as long as the both people can balance the love life and the child's life as the baby is probably the most important aspect of life at this stage.

Good luck...

Answer 5

Sorry to say but I think the opposite is true, we tend to avoid single moms. That's especially the case if the guy already has experience dating single moms. Personally I don't avoid them but at the same time I know it makes it harder so I'm more apprehensive about it. Not because I hate kids or look down on her but if you're being realistic about it, kids will make every part of dating more complicated. The most important thing to find out is if she can make time for you and the kid(s). Not just at first either(because most will at first) but also once the relationship has progressed a little. If she has 100% custody, young kid(s), and no free baby-sitter then there's almost no chance it will work. If she has free baby sitting or shared custody - maybe. Although the father still being in the picture will have it's own set of headaches.

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Answer 7

Yes! There s a single mom in my math class at college. I ve been interested in dating her for quite some time (only recently discovered that she has a child, but in some ways that only makes me more interested in her). Asking her out tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

Answer 8

When I was young I dated several single moms. It wasn't a deternt that they had a child, or children, it was sort of expected. I think that a single mom does not realize there are a lot more like her out there. I'm not sure what their expereince was with other people, but I enjoyed their company just as much as any lady's.

Answer 9

I would not ahve a problem with that. What scares some guys away is the fact that they jump straight to the relationship with the kid. They don't get to do the stuff that comes before the child.

For me personally, I think it would be fun. I love kids, hell I am a big kid myself. I once dated a gal with 2 children. I pretty much was dad for the time that we were dating (we eventually split after our jobs took us seperate ways mutually).

In a nutshell, yes I would.

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