Let's say the that both teacher and student belong to a university. Both are single. Their age difference is 4 years. They are both in their 20's.
Now here are the questions:
- If you are NOT in his class, would it be wrong to the eyes of the university to date him?
-If you wait until you graduate, would it be wrong to the eyes of the university to date him?
-Either way [whether you were out of his class or graduated] would it hurt his career?
Please answer all three questions.
2007-10-12 21:23:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I AM NOT IN HIS CLASS, PEOPLE!!!!!!!!
2007-10-12 21:36:07 · update #1
THE LAST THING I WANT IS TO HURT HIM.
2007-10-12 21:38:32 · update #2
It would still be wrong in the eyes of the university, for a professor to date a student, even if they aren't their professor.
I don't think so, because, unless you have a reputation at the school, they may not remember who you are, but the professor may be looked down upon
It may hurt his reputation as a professor, because he/she may be found as not professional in the eyes of the universtiy
2007-10-12 21:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fokas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason to being unethical comes down to being more unprofessional and yes it can damper his career. No matter if your in his class or not as long as your a student at the university or college it is wrong to have a relationship with a student because they are to be advisors to all students. Any student from any department can talk to anyone one professor for advising and can be assigned then as a advisor. Though when you graduate I seen no problem with it since you will no longer be a student at that university or college. The university is also trying to keep up a friendly and family orientated place for parents to send their children to. If it gets out that a profressor and a student are having relations it will bring up alot of concerns with parents. Since there is alot of parents who are really connected to there children and the freshmen year is the worst. My first year I was constantly getting calls to see how I was doing and if everything was going good. So with all that being said I hope it answers your questions.
2007-10-12 21:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Just a broke college student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that universities have somewhat differing policies on the matter. But in general, I would imagine:
#1.) It would be wrong, or at least severely frowned upon
#2.) I doubt it, but it might turn a few heads if it's known that you met each other as teacher and student
#3.) In the first case, probably so. The second one, not so much.
2007-10-12 21:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Marj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
- no
- no
- no
i think that ppl say its inappropriate because, well, work is work, personal life is personal life. Say if later these ppl break up, if the student decides to spread a rumour, release sex tape, or do something to affect the lecturer, not only the lecturer is into trouble but the whole university is affected: their name, their mojo.
If these ppl are together, and other students find out about them, say if the student is really smart and get A grade all the way, she will be questioned if these A grades are really her work, or because she give the lecturer "pleasure".
All these things cause trouble.
2007-10-12 21:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those policies can be specific to a particular institution and they should be spelled out somewhere. Most of the time, if he is not your instructor, you're in good shape. He needs to stay away from conflict of interest. He can't be in a position to hold sway over your grades, be it negative or positive. As far as hurting his career, I remember more than a few professors who had a habit of dating students and they had been teaching there for a long time. You really need to ask the school about their policies.
2007-10-12 21:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by jehovah_nostra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in my point of view it would be unethical for a student to date their university professor due to favouritism. The teacher could give his partner/student higher grades simply because he is in a relationship with them, and that would be unfair to other students. The professor could also treat his partner/student better than other students in the class. I guess the rule also applies to teaches being able to teach their own children in their classroom. The same problem arises, will they give better privileges to their child then other children in the classroom?? Or again, will they give their child better marks regardless of their education and will they award them lollies and prizes over other students?
2007-10-12 21:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the institution what the policy is. If he/she's the teacher and you're the student the teacher should know what the correct behaviour is and presumably wouldn't participate in it if it could potentially affect his/her career.
2007-10-12 21:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as one's academic performance is not evaluated by the other and there is not chance of bias, it is fine. However, PDA (public display of affection) is a strict NO! NO! in the university, especially if one of you is a teacher.
2007-10-12 21:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.Yes
2.Yes
3.Yes
Almost all personal associations between a student and teacher are verboten by
all schools.
Don't be stupid. You are a student. Learn.
2007-10-12 21:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem at all. It's not unethical in the situations you are suggesting.
2007-10-12 21:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋