i dont think i want any children later on (i might change my mind, idk)...honestly, i think theyre too much responsibility and i feel they're going to tie me down for good. i know many people believe happiness cannot be accomplished when a couple, for example, decides not to have any children.
id rather not go into detail about my opinion on this, but id like to know other people's views on this.
2007-10-09 08:23:18 · 16 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Short answer: Of course!!
Long answers: Children are not the reason for happiness in a relationship, and no one should ever think that they should have children to be happy or anything like that.
I have known plenty of childless couples (by choice) and they have terrific marriages and lead very happy lives.
You are to be congratulated for having the sense to realize now that you don't want children, and for knowing that you are probably better off without having any!
2007-10-09 08:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by dr_nigel_c 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It must be your choice to have children or not as the case may be...in the past too many woman had children because it was expected of them and not because they really wanted them.They are a life time commitment that not everyone is prepared to take on.As long as your partner is of the same opinion I should work out well...Stick to your guns...its your life and a woman should not be pushed into having a child because convention says its her role..I am the very proud mother of two very fine people,,and one and a half grandchildren..I would have been in the loony bin if I had been unable to have children for whatever reason but i respect you right to feel the way you do...you might change your mind in years to come..when the time is right for you>
Good Luck and be happy!!!
2007-10-09 15:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by troubled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 7 years and are child free. He had a vasectomy 2 years after we got married.
You don't need children to be fulfilled and happy. Some people are meant to be parents....others....not so much. It is a calling. Like when people go into religious service or when people go into the military. They feel it in their souls that this is what they need to do.
If you want to have children, that is wonderful. If you don't want to have children, that is also wonderful. It is better to regret not having a child than having a child you regret. In this situation, until your sure of what you want it is best not to do anything.
2007-10-09 16:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happiness, sistren comes from within the soul. If this is your feeling about not having children, you have that right. Here is the deal, if you are involved with a mate. This matter has to be one the the foremost feelings you need to tell them. If they agree then it is all good. If not, at the least you can move on if you Chose to, without getting no one feelings hurt.
2007-10-09 15:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parenting isn't for everybody-and you shouldn't have a child because that is what's expected of you or considered the norm.
In my view it's all down to the person and their personal feelings. I'd have more respect for someone that didn't have children because they didn't feel sure about it rather than someone who had children they didn't really want because that's what they were 'supposed to do'.
2007-10-09 15:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can find happiness without children! After all, don't a lot of people blame children for ruining their love life?
It means more parties, more fun and more love to share with your partner.
It's whatever floats your boat =) Cotton Candy Pie x
2007-10-09 15:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Complete or Total happiness is a myth.If you ask me what is happiness,I would like to add that it is"a state of mind".It doesnot depend on anything.The moment you attach hapiness to something ie,money ,relationship or child ,it becomes difficult to achieve.There are couples with out child who are happy and some who are unhappy due to same reason.If you want to be perfectly happy,do not link happiness to 'Chlid less situation".You enjoy everything as it comes in your way.
2007-10-16 02:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 36 without children but wish I did have. It would certainly make my life more complete. I just think back over the last couple of weeks and how much unnecessary time I've spent on YA which could have been used in more constructive ways with children.
2007-10-09 15:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ginny Jin 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you make up your mind not to have children & you're not half-hearted about it then I don't see why you won't be happy.
The problems may come when you get too old to have children & then wish you had had them, then it'd be too late & you'd be unhappy about that.
You have to go with what you feel
2007-10-09 15:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ask_Elvis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can be totally happy in whatever situation you are in, if it is what you both want. Too many people arrive in situations that they are not happy with,
and wish things had been different.
Do what YOU feel is best for YOU.
2007-10-09 16:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋