Family & Relationships - 9 October 2007

2007-10-09 05:40:45 · 6 answers · asked by icunurse85 7 in Marriage & Divorce

okay so I broke up with my boyfriend, was in the other room of our apartment cuz both of our names are on the lease. I decide to call his mom to tell her that he's into drugs and spending 200 bucks a week on booze and won't pay his bills. My boyfriends cousin calls me, threateneds my life so I move out to get away from it. His mom calls me today and tells me to leave him alone cuz he can't handle it when I bother him at work and he gets all upset. I just want my money he owes me and to move on. She tells me that he's not moving out and she'll pay his rent and I pay mine to her. Or she'll file harrassment on me for bothering her poor pathetic son at work... I can't get out of the lease cuz he can't pay his bills so he has bad credit... I don't want the place back. The family cares about no one but themselves. What do I do? I don't want to have to continue to pay rent if I'm not living there but I know my ex and he'll purposley not find a room mate just to screw me over...

2007-10-09 05:40:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

...if you'd read this first?

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/23

If you feel like sharing, why or why not?

2007-10-09 05:38:31 · 4 answers · asked by Hoosier Mom 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-09 05:34:11 · 34 answers · asked by Page 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm having the most difficult time with my mother. She's always manipulating me. It's for the stupidest things too. My mother lives with me, she's an alcoholic and has cancer. She thinks the world owes her something, for her screw ups. Lets say I just made a big dinner and everyone eats, but her. She was invited but chooses not to eat with us. She'll try to sneak food and eat it in her room. And then lie and say she didn't eat and puts a huge guilt trip on me. I want her to eat and to take care of herself. Why does she feel the need to try and manipulate me all the time? I don't feel sorry for her because everything thats wrong with her is something she's inflicted on herself, and she does it continuously. Like she'll finish her chemo and go off and get drunk then hurt herself come back home and whine and complain and I have to fix her, clean her up, bandage whatever she hurt, but why is it everyone else's fault? Why can;t she take responsibility for her action?

2007-10-09 05:31:30 · 7 answers · asked by Desiree 2 in Family

so why doe.s it take the girls , 5 hours .

2007-10-09 05:31:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i relly love him and dont want to but there are pressuring me to do it so what do i do????/

2007-10-09 05:26:45 · 4 answers · asked by <3[D@ViDs]_{Qt}<3 1 in Singles & Dating

Should I do it now because I'm legal?

I'm a girl btw.

2007-10-09 05:24:48 · 77 answers · asked by lemonsaresourlikehell 1 in Singles & Dating

I am getting married and I don't want to put step-mother on the wedding programs. My definition of a step parent is someone who steps in to help take care of you, which I was an adult when my mom passed away. My dad remarried a few years back. I have an okay relationship with his wife but I don't consider her as a "step-parent". I always relate to her as my dad's wife but I don't want to be rude and put that on the programs.

2007-10-09 05:23:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I have been at this job for a couple of weeks already and he had approached me several times with bs. I stay to myself all the time cause I HAVE ALOT TO DO. My past has told me that a person who posts his accomplishments publicly is asking for trouble. I feel like I ain't giving him a fair chance, but he does things to me that pisses me off. I'm not a pushover, b/c I could play the game and win. My other concerns are that he has already begun poisoning some minds...What should I do to stay focused because I don't want this fight?

2007-10-09 05:21:21 · 6 answers · asked by Antonio C 1 in Friends

I was working with two realy nasty pieces of work, and they live together as a couple, they both work part time, one had two kids from a previous relationship and of course she has a council house. anyway she hasn't told the benefits people that she has had someone else living there as her partner for well over a year, and as a result the pair of them earn over twice what I do, even though I work fulltime and they are both part time. This country sucks for benefits, and I am sick of paying for people who are just too lazy to work when they are able. I am happy to pay for those who legitamitley can't work, but would I be harsh in telling the benefits people of their little scam? It doesn't hurt that I don't like them both either.

2007-10-09 05:18:21 · 18 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Well....do you?

2007-10-09 05:17:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I've had lots of boyfriends before, and it never bothered them that our relationships were mostly physical, but they never lasted long. Now there's this guy that I think I could really spend the rest of my life with, but I don't know how to change. We've already gotten "physical" but i don't want to have this relationship end like the rest have. I'm not a sult, but I do enjoy stuff-how do you balance it out? also-we spend alot of time talking but because he is stationed like 10 hours away, we don't see each other very often-advice? please?

2007-10-09 05:16:36 · 7 answers · asked by tammykay 1 in Singles & Dating

A friend of mine is going through a NASTY divorce, his soon to be ex wife a mean, cheating, crazy woman, and she's admitted it. She uses the kids against him, threatens them that if they tell dad shes got another bf, shes lied about things the kids have said about his gf, claims that everything is hers and she pays all the bills and he gets nothing. She only "lives" in the house on the weekends, they both have great income, and when she does come home, she upsets the balance ofpeace in the home, leaves for the week, he takes care of the kids.

His gf has made him a new man, he truely sees what love really is now, shes a great friend of mine and she's a strong person. His kids love her and she loves them. How can she be there for him and the kids during this hard time, without getting to involved in the divorce, without looking like she's trying to buy the kids or butter them up?????????????????? They've even said they don't want mommy to come home, or the don't want the gf to leave,

2007-10-09 05:11:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend made me a pasta dinner last night with dessert. It seemed a little too perfect- and I am a girl so I know what pre-packaged food looks like. :) I questioned him on it and he assured me that he cooked it. I took out the trash this morning and found the boxes to the dessert along with the pre-packaged food containers. So I know he didn't cook it- but just wondering if I should confront him about it. It was a really sweet gesture and it was something nice for me. But I am uncomfortable with the lying. I would have enjoyed the meal just as much had he told me it was all store-bought.

2007-10-09 05:10:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am doing some research and I am trying to find sites that would like to build a partnership with a site that give information of good indoor and outdoor actvities for children. Thanks.

2007-10-09 05:06:15 · 3 answers · asked by anuadeola 2 in Family

I heard a song that was based on this idea ;-)

2007-10-09 05:05:08 · 15 answers · asked by Linda Fallsrock 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi. I have recently got married, and want to take my wife to a place which is worth visiting for the first time. I have options for Thailand, Lakshwadeep, Mauritaus. But I am unable to decide. My budget is around Rs. 50,000, including air fares. Can someone suggest me a place to visit? Any information regarding how to get there, visa, hotel accomodation, places of visit wll be greatly appreciated. In Thailand I would like to visit Bangkok, Pattaya and/or Phuket.
Eagerly waiting for the responses.

2007-10-09 05:04:44 · 8 answers · asked by subrajit 1 in Weddings

what don't you like about yourself? personality, appareance? have you ever tried to change, or have you accepted it?

2007-10-09 04:58:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we had been in love for seven years. we tried a lot to compromise our parents. but all plans failed. Eventually my girlfriend ended up marrying another guy chosen by her family. we convinced ourselves and finally we broke up. she went to another country. I started to accept life as it comes and started working towards building my career in business. And after 5 months since we broke my Ex comes out of nowhere and says that she wants to live with me. I am confused now.It seems that her husband never knew that she was having an affair with me before marriage. And now when he knew the relationship between me and his wife he cancelled her Permanent residentship and sent her back to India. she is the only thing i loved in my life. shall i take her with me or dump her.

2007-10-09 04:56:41 · 12 answers · asked by vijayakumar83 1 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this girl I have a crush on. Does she like me back?

2007-10-09 04:56:05 · 8 answers · asked by Sitting Still 4 in Singles & Dating

sorry about how i worded that - couldn't think how else to put it!

and before you ask im just curious as i'm unsure if i've made a mistake by comepletley shaving mine off this morning :-S

sensible answers really appreciated! Thanks

**not sure if you need to know this but i'm 19, in a stable relationship!**

2007-10-09 04:51:40 · 32 answers · asked by cassy 3 in Singles & Dating

A friend of mine is going through a NASTY divorce, his soon to be ex wife a mean, cheating, crazy woman, and she's admitted it. She uses the kids against him, threatens them that if they tell dad shes got another bf, shes lied about things the kids have said about his gf, claims that everything is hers and she pays all the bills and he gets nothing. She only "lives" in the house on the weekends, they both have great income, and when she does come home, she upsets the balance ofpeace in the home, leaves for the week, he takes care of the kids.

His gf has made him a new man, he truely sees what love really is now, shes a great friend of mine and she's a strong person. His kids love her and she loves them. How can she be there for him and the kids during this hard time, without getting to involved in the divorce, without looking like she's trying to buy the kids or butter them up. They've even said they don't want mommy to come home, or the don't want the gf to leave,

2007-10-09 04:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When there is something that is bothering you day to day, like your kid's father (Your ex husband) What might happen with what he might (try) to do in court. Even when you know that (he) is the one that is guilty and owes court ordered child support.

how do you get over this stuff when it's a day to day thing that bothers you wondering whats going ot happen and even when you try to STOP wondering and stressing it still pops up in the back of your head and makes you sick

how do you deal with this

2007-10-09 04:45:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

death was completely out of the blue and she is understandably just bereft.

For example I met her in town today and she was still crying constantly/looked so lost. She also said that her parents are on her back telling her that she will need to move on and so on which I personally feel is only adding to her woes and is not helpful.

Anyways, as I had my 2 year old with me I could not stay and talk too long but have arranged for her to come round tomorrow night - it has been so long since I lost someone close that I am beginning to wonder how to help or what to say.. certainly I will listen as best I possibly can but is there any advice that the yahoo community

2007-10-09 04:43:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i won't go any lower than a 7.5 and that would be pushing it....

2007-10-09 04:39:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How can you break free from a co-dependent relationship? I was with my boyfriend for 8 years and just recently moved out 3 months ago. We still talk. He got laid off his job and I have been paying his bills just like I did when we lived together. I feel like I do it because I love him but I also know that this is crazy. I am not going to see him today. I am trying to cut ties but this is hard. WHat am I supposed to do?? This guy has no job, no license and no transportation.

2007-10-09 04:37:10 · 4 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Singles & Dating

I was very ungry with my husband because he was always out with his friends in Pubs(4 times a week). I was sleeping for 5 days in other room. An then he asked me to comme back to our room ,otherwise he will start taking women to have sex.
I come back because I didnt want things go to far.
Now, he is going out less than before. But I found that in the second day that I move to the other room he had put an ad in a dating site saying "He is separated and looking for the special one to go out for a drink an then see where it goes from there".He is giving his number an another secret email. I asked him if he has another email and he gets very upset saying I m a craizy jealous woman.Should I forgive ?Should I start a family with somebody like this. Will he change. or I just lying myself ? .He doesnt I found out all this. I tried to convenced him to let me look his computer if he doesnt have anything to hide and he just start shauting and saying he is very honest with me.

2007-10-09 04:36:38 · 31 answers · asked by Estrella 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We had been together for a year now. A month ago, she met her ex on a trip. Last week I found out she has been emailing him since she came back from that trip and she even confessed to sleeping with him once, only once. I found out she had been sending sexual emails and such to him. This past month has been tough because we had many arguments regarding moving in together and she said I was really mean and she needed some attention and he was there. Should I forgive her? I really love her and I also know I had been fighting with her a lot in the past month.

2007-10-09 04:35:08 · 19 answers · asked by VanillaIce 3 in Singles & Dating

How do you really know without a doubt if dating is going anywhere with someone? You spend maybe atleast one day a week together and kiss casually sometimes, do things together but never have the talk to know where or how things are going.....its been about a month now..

2007-10-09 04:34:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce