Should I divorce my husband?

Question

I was very ungry with my husband because he was always out with his friends in Pubs(4 times a week). I was sleeping for 5 days in other room. An then he asked me to comme back to our room ,otherwise he will start taking women to have sex.
I come back because I didnt want things go to far.
Now, he is going out less than before. But I found that in the second day that I move to the other room he had put an ad in a dating site saying "He is separated and looking for the special one to go out for a drink an then see where it goes from there".He is giving his number an another secret email. I asked him if he has another email and he gets very upset saying I m a craizy jealous woman.Should I forgive ?Should I start a family with somebody like this. Will he change. or I just lying myself ? .He doesnt I found out all this. I tried to convenced him to let me look his computer if he doesnt have anything to hide and he just start shauting and saying he is very honest with me.

Answer 1

sure why not, 70% of all marriages these days end in divorce anyway, its the new hula hoop!

Answer 2

Well look at his family history. if there area a lot alcoholic's in it is best to move on. It sounds like he has a drinking problem and is looking for some to drink with.
Not very good for you. It will be the toss of the coin for you. You did not say how long you were married? This dose not sound like a man that would make a good father. Best to be quite about what you have found out. Seek some concealing. It will be up to you if you leave him or not. A drunk is no fun. Dose not make a good Dad

Answer 3

Are you serious or trolling? If your husband was drunk he probably thought you were some other woman. He's telling you (thinking in his drunken state that you are some random strange woman) about you! That's why he used your name, he meant you! He was telling you that you are the most wonderful thing that ever happened to him and that he loves you so much. There is no other wife called Marylin, just one, you. Bet he has no recollection at all the next day. Relax :)

Answer 4

I think you should at least separate for awhile and see how you do apart from each other. You don't have to immediately file for divorce, you can always do that later if things cannot be worked out during the separation phase. Let him see what it's like to not have you around. If you think he will just start seeing other women as soon as you leave, then the marriage is over anyway.

Answer 5

That's a load of crap that he says he's being very honest with you. He obviously isn't very commited to your marriage and I sure wouldn't bring children into a marriage where I don't trust my husband and there's problems like this, he is going to end up cheating on you if he already hasn't. Tell him you don't believe him, get all the proof you can from the ads he is making and emails or whatever, make two copies of it all, throw his copy it at him and tell him your leaving, cause you don't trust him. Plus, what kind of a father would he make if all he cares about is going out and drinking? He hasn't proven himself worthy as a husband or a father.

Answer 6

He is looking for other women, and has probably already cheated on you. Tell him what you know, and ask him if he has. If he admits to it, send him divorce papers. You do not want to start a family with a guy like this. If he won't admit, make him delete the profile and close the email account. And if you catch him again, he's gone. You're his wife, and you have the right to do this. Good luck.

Answer 7

Just go to the library & get on the computer there & look him up on that site. It is free to look at the pics on many dating services. But, you must join to ask someone out. Don't join; just look. Also, do a search for his phone number. You will find him easy this way. Print everything that you find. So, bring pocket change for the printer. You will need this evidence for the big D court, because that is where you are headed.

Answer 8

Is this the life and relationship you want? It sounds like you two were better made for other people. If you haven't started a family yet (kudos for waiting, I might have done well waiting) it might be best to find a partner that has a lot more of the same ideas of marriage, family, relationships, and life that you have. Secrets suck, don't waste your time.

Answer 9

I don't think you should stay with this guy. You found he is doing the wrong thing behind your back and he won't even be honest that he's done wrong. He's being horrible to you, shouting at you and threatening to have sex with other women. You should leave him and if he is ready to apologise and shows his life has changed then perhaps you can consider marriage counselling or reconciliation. But at the moment he sounds to me like a nasty bloke you don't want to be around and definitely not have kids with x

Answer 10

Move on honey! C mon, any married man that is on dating websites even so much as looking at profiles, let alone posting crap is a LOSER! You are completely faithful and you deserve the same. If he calls you jealous, tell him yes you are jealous and that is the problem. Tell him you should have never been given any reason to doubt his faithfullness and it has turned into jealousy. Duh, why wouldnt a wife be a bit jealous of whatever it is keeping him from her. Its a natural reaction when you are committed. Drop his butt like a baddddd habit!

Answer 11

You are looking for someone to start a family with. If you are having doubts now and he is indeed cheating on you or just trying to, you should find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and make you happy. You don't want to have a family with a jerk who is never home and when he is he is out looking for chicks. You deserve better.