A friend of mine is going through a NASTY divorce, his soon to be ex wife a mean, cheating, crazy woman, and she's admitted it. She uses the kids against him, threatens them that if they tell dad shes got another bf, shes lied about things the kids have said about his gf, claims that everything is hers and she pays all the bills and he gets nothing. She only "lives" in the house on the weekends, they both have great income, and when she does come home, she upsets the balance ofpeace in the home, leaves for the week, he takes care of the kids.
His gf has made him a new man, he truely sees what love really is now, shes a great friend of mine and she's a strong person. His kids love her and she loves them. How can she be there for him and the kids during this hard time, without getting to involved in the divorce, without looking like she's trying to buy the kids or butter them up. They've even said they don't want mommy to come home, or the don't want the gf to leave,
2007-10-09 04:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but then the mom says that the kids have said these horrible things about the gf, tha are not true, even the kids have said it's not true.
The gf has no idea how to handle this delicate situation, she's worried that the kids will end up disliking her, she is also worried about losing the love of her life. She's been through a divorce, she now knows what love really is.
2007-10-09 04:52:20 · update #1
If he thinks this is going to turn into a custody battle down the road he might consider, if the ex comes to his house for weekends he needs to set up discreet webcams throughout the house to show what it is like when she is there. He can also use it to document what life is like when the ex isn't there.
2007-10-09 04:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by libaki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old the kid's are he could try putting them in counseling which will prove to the judge that he cares about them and have the counselor go into the court room and be a witness to this behavior the kid's are having due to their mother.
2007-10-09 04:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
kids are smart. They will figure it all out later on, so in the mean time, be good to the kids, and do not involve yourself with lower level behavior of the mother. Take the high road, and you'll end up winning in the end.
2007-10-09 04:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by S&NFervor4Ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your Friend to back off till the divorce is finalized either that or her bf needs to get his own place no if and buts about it still living with her even if he says they are getting divorced
if she is still in the household some nights out of the week he could be still sexually involved with her it could happen
i mean they are still married.
the whole thing just doesn't sound right for some reason
2007-10-09 05:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Plain and simple. Kids are smart enough to see through BS. Just tell her to be there for the kids when she can - her good influence will be seen, they'll be able to tell truth from lies.
2007-10-09 04:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be there for the children (I'm not sure exactly how because I don't know their ages).
She should continue treating them just like she always has- she doesn't have to buy their love or butter them up.
2007-10-09 05:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just keep your nose out of it. Doesn't sound like they asked you to ask total strangers to fix their problems. You can't fix them. They need to go to marriage counseling or some sort of therapy to help them deal with their kids fairly.
2007-10-09 04:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
and the question actually is?
2007-10-09 04:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Paul M 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
and TaaaaDDDDDAAAAA the question is?????????????
2007-10-09 05:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋